I don't think there ever were such days when guys always paid for everything, Bazza.
It always depended (and now, today it's not any different) on a person - some men take a special pride in it, at least while dating. Nothing wrong with it if they are genuine.
And though I understand that you are talking about you feeling as if you are being used by the girls,
I can't believe that there are so many girls around who are after your *money* that it justifies such bias and baseless generalization.
...let's talk...
What is it so bad that you experienced that made you feel like that? Have you treated them to fancy vacations? And they wanted more and more as if they are untitled to it?
Did you pay their rent/mortgage and they assumed it's a must, expected it to be a steady pattern?
What exactly? How are you being used for your money?
Naive? How is so? For trusting a man? For opening her heart?
Sad if that's what you call being naive. You don't really know the inside story, do you? (don't take it personally,aquarian, - I know you only try to help; just giving my view-point)
I have to disagree with you here - .
firstly, most probable he is NOT what he portrayed himself to be when he wanted to get OP's attention, a man sees a beautiful girl and tries hard to capture her heart even if they know from the start that they do NOT have any means to travel to see her - not financially, not balls to face her in real life;
and secondly -- he is just a scum-bag of a man for breaking his promises, no - mostly for making promises which he had NO means to keep. Some men do it on-line or off-line... so how it makes OP naive?
She is right to feel betrayed. Anyone would feel this way - I know I would, you would too, aquarian.
Laura25 Forum Posts (8,178)
I don't want to be free to go!! 
Any help? Anyone?
RE: why cant i find a decent girl that would date me ?.
^That means you two are not compatible - different temperaments and such...Has nothing to do with using each other. I can imagine that having different wants and needs is as frustrating for her as it is for you.
Hmmmmm... paying for her drinks is using you for money? LOL, boy...
...yeah...
I'd understand if you said that she is not considerate and you
mean nothingdon't mean much to her, but using for money...naah...