I agree that sometimes it would be nice to have a man in my life BUT as soon as the relationship relaxes both the man and woman start making demands on each other and that's when the romance goes downhill. I don't want to be smothered nor do I want to be told how I should handle my life. I don't want to be questioned about my loyalty or how I spend my money. There are so many downs to a relationship, from both sides, that I think it's easier and less to worry about to go it alone. Tis better to be alone than in a bad relationship.
Everyone's definition of "relationship" is different. Mine is when both parties committ to each other. The word "committ" for alot of people is hard to live by. I find it very eacy to be loyal and faithful to one man. The hard part for me is finding a man that thinks the same way on that one point alone.
I'll second that. I also look for politeness, courtesy and if he has a clean shirt on. You wouldn't believe how many men I met on a first date that were complete slobs.
The first thing that came to my mind. Back in the mid 70's I was on a date with my daughter who was around 10 at the time. I had dated the guy for awhile and I wanted him to meet my parents so I invited them out to dinner with my date and my daughter. In the middle of dinner my date pushed his chair by from the table, crossed one leg over the other like most met sit and started to smoke. I was so embarrassed but didn't say anything. When I saw the look on my father's face I knew the guy didn't win any points with him or me for that matter.
Last Thanksgiving my daughter was having a big family dinner and her husband's son put his cell phone on the table while we were eating. I don't know where I got the nerve but I told him to take it off the table. My daughter didn't mind me saying that but her husband's son wasn't used to being told what to do.
Actually Jeeps, if you met me on the street you wouldn't wouldn't know me as Snuggs cause in the real world, I'm a bit introverted and shy. It takes quite awhile for me to open up to someone in person. On CS, I'm opinionated but in truth I hold back most of my thoughts because on here there is a tendancy to attack people when people misread what someone writes. I know from personal experience. If someone asks for an opinion I'll join in the threads but I'm very careful what I say. If you met me on the beach you'd only know me by what I look like. So like you, there are two personalities. Neither one is hurtful to anyone. It's not a game.....it's just being safe. Good question Jeeps.
I think your first decision should be what kind of birth control you are going to go on....
You answered your own question that you want to keep the baby. He said if you keep the baby he is done with you. When he said you could have a baby in the future when you are sure about each other tells me that he isn't sure about you now. So why would you even think to make him a choice over your baby. Will you really feel a loss if he leaves you?
Fantasy - I certainly know what you mean by "empty" emails BUT here's a thought for you to ponder. People are what they do, not what they say.
Here's something to think about....Don't you think that the people in a serious relationship should be loyal to each other. Isn't it a given that you want your partner not to cheat on you. Then why would you make it a criteria of what you want from him. Don't forget, he probably expects loyalty too but he's not going to write about it in his profile. I agree with you completley that you should not be pretentious, but I also think you need to keep some mystery for him to find out about you.
Fantasy, you are stunning! I read your profile and in my opinion you leave nothing for a man to fantasize about you. The majority of your profile is negative. I would dare say that any man who is looking for a serious relationship will pass you by because your profile shows that you are angry. It is obvious that you have been deeply hurt by someone who did all the things you say a new interest shouldn't do. You set too much criteria of what he should do and what not to do. Too many rules for a man to want to take the next step to learn who you are. I know you are trying to be upfront to any perspective man but he doesn't want to know all that stuff before he even meets you. Men are visual people. They see that you are beautiful and thereby are interested in you. I mean no disrespect to you Fantasy, I'm just trying to show you that it's not always a good idea to tell it all right away. Look at it this way....if you read the profile of a man that was written like yours is, would you take the next step to flirt with him??? Best wishes to you and good luck in your search.
The only time I do something like this is when the cashier doesn't say thank you for my purchase. That's when I'll say to the cashier, "Oh, excuse me, did you say something". The cashier will say, "I didn't say anything". That's when I'll say....I thought you said thank you. The cashier usually pulls their body into themselves in shame for not saying thank you. I was raised to say thank you and please and it is annoying when people aren't polite. It doesn't matter how young the cashier is, they should be trained that they represent the store and that the store appreciates their business.
Yeah, long time..... Lost my job so now I'm forced into retirement. Hard to find a job being a senior citizen. So I read alot, get on the computer for awhile and just go with the flow. I just reactivated my account this morning and thought I'd see what the chillen are talking about. Glad to see you
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RE: Ladies ,if a guy tease you somewhere ,what would you do ?
No honey, it's my spirit that's responding to you. Glad to see that you are still hanging around the funny farm.