JAN_is Forum Posts (3,849)

RE: Tell the person about you there best Feature!

Nah! I think that´s a big plus.

RE: Tell the person about you there best Feature!

Are you saying I´m unpredictable?

Whatever, if I make you smile that´s good enough, and as you say, worth a lot.

Now, I need a tailor to make me a dress for my son´s wedding next year....

Maybe that´s a tall order, and there are lots of tailors here in Spain, but I might call on you for a bit of advice as the wedding is in Barbados and I don´t want to be dressed in typical mumsy attire. I´ve gone a bit hippy these last few months and I´m wearing lots of floaty maxi dresses and sandals etc etc....you know what I mean.

Sorry for the

RE: I want to hear my Daughter's Heart Beat One Last Time!

I read this story too, and it brought a tear to my eye as it would for most mothers I think.

RE: Tell the person about you there best Feature!

Well aside from her lovely eyes, she has a great presence and personality on here as far as I have noticed.

RE: AFRICAN MEN ARE MORE ROMANTIC

It´s all a myth.....whatever nationality or race you may read about.

Men and women, are good, bad or indifferent everywhere in the world. In whatever aspect of life or relationships you are referring to.

I´m well travelled you know.

RE: essence of a woman in man's persperctive...

Perhaps, but I don´t think it´s the essence of ALL women, and that is not such a bad thing, or means there is something fundamentally amiss in a woman, in my opinion anyway.

It may simply be an old fashioned belief that women are more adept at nurturing and times they are a changing. Nurturing skills, or characteristics, however, wherever, you believe it originates, is something I see here in Spain in both males and females, much more than I saw in the UK, which leads me to believe it is more a skill than anything else.

RE: Daiting Disaster after 20 year lul

How cruel. Some people are just without any feeling or emotion whatsoever.

Is the farmers market a popular place for a first date then? Sorry I couldn´t resist!

However, I do stand by my initial comments, this woman was without any manners or feelings, and you are well rid.

God luck with your next date, but don´t wait another 20 years!

RE: Where would you most like to go on vacation?

I think I´ve already given a wish list here, but now I´m including the Caribbean, and it will come true when my son gets married next year in Barbados.

I´ll have 10 days there with family and friends, so we are going to have a great time.

RE: What would you prefer? Knowing someone first, then fall in love? Or a love at first sight?

Maybe I´m wrong, but I have experienced love at first sight when I was very very young, and we stayed together for over 25 years, yet I don´t think it really happens with older or middle-aged men and women.

We don´t have that freedom and carefree attitude to life and relationships that we had when were teenagers, or in our early twenties, and we aren´t as pretty or good looking enough to provoke a heart stopping reaction, which may or may not turn out to be love at first sight!

RE: When you get up in the mornings what is the first thing on your mind?

Which class am I going to teach first, and have I got all the materials prepared. In reality I always know, and am always prepared, but I do wake up with a doubt in my mind. Then, I relax and perhaps have a coffee.

RE: Which tv star/s from the 80's and 90's did you have a crush on?

Oooh yes, and he still looks great. In fact the actors I had crushes on during the 80´s and 90´s I still do a little, age has not diminished their attraction.

RE: Happy Birthday Veritaas

Happy Birthday for tomorrow. Enjoy your day.

RE: Heathliest food. Which Country?

Most medical experts agree that the Mediterranean diet is the healthiest, unfortunately the younger generation in particular are moving away from their more traditional diet, whether it be Mediterranean or other such as Japanese for example, in favour of the American junk food powerful influence.

This is why we are seeing more obesity in children now in Spain, and other Med countries, unheard of a few years ago. Still not on the scale found in the USA or even the UK, but worrying all the same.

RE: When a woman says "down to earth” in her profile what does she actually mean?

I agree, which is why I´ve already said I take profiles with a pinch of salt. We can write whatever we choose about ourselves, I chose not to write anything about my personality. Let others be the judge of that...when they really know me and have met me that is!

RE: What Ringtones have you got at the moment?

Oh not again!!!!

RE: Women.. Why is it....

Maybe she did in all reality but the OP chose to ignore it, and if you read the OP´s post above this you may come to the same conclusion I have. He simply wants more from this than she does and cannot accept only friendship.

Sorry OP, but that´s all I can glean from what you´ve written.

RE: Women.. Why is it....

Based on what the OP has told us I think she is acting as a friend. Forget the male, female stereotype attitudes, The problem seems more to be that the OP wants more than friendship.

RE: Your favourite TV ads - which are they? :)

Banned ads...one of my favourites....

RE: When a woman says "down to earth” in her profile what does she actually mean?

Yes they do, without doubt, which is why I prefer not to put anything descriptive about my personality in my profile as I´ve already said.

Words are meaningless without substance.

RE: Ladies What Is A Man With A Beard Silently Saying

I have a weak chin?

Seriously I quite like beards and moustaches.

RE: When a woman says "down to earth” in her profile what does she actually mean?

I think I said that earlier, but in a rather more long winded way.

RE: Your favourite TV ads - which are they? :)

The marmite ads.





I love marmite btw!

RE: What Ringtones have you got at the moment?

I´ve chosen to have a normal, old fashioned ring tone on my mobile phone. In the past however I do admit to having fave tunes of mine, but whenever I hear a ringtone I immediately make a judgement of the phone owner based on whether I like the tune. Wrong I know!

I just think it´s a bit naff, and embarrassing when I hear some "cool" music and the owner is a bespectacled, suited, and whatever male phone owner. Equally when I see a middle aged woman on the train for example, answering her phone to a tone which is not of her generation.

I love music, whatever the decade or generation, don´t get me wrong, but there´s something uncomfortable for me about someone who has a ring tone clearly not appropriate to the age.

RE: lets talk about internet dating for the over 50s

I agree totally, but I don´t agree we get that from online relationships, however much patience we have. It´s all a big marketing and psychological scam in my opinion, and the best we can hope for, or the majority of people, is friendship.

That´s ok for me as I don´t have any expectations of romance here, nor particularly want it. I do cherish the few friendships I make along the way though.

RE: lets talk about internet dating for the over 50s

Me neither! But I do find the increasing number of very young members worrying. I mean, would you have ever dreamed of joining a dating site when you were in your twenties? I certainly wouldn´t. Nor my thirties to be honest.

I know the world of communication has changed radically, and we use the internet for practically everything, but in my twenties or thirties dating sites would never have been been my choice for spending a little free time.

Even nowadays, it´s not my preferred choice of passing an hour or two, but there are times when it is fun to debate and discuss things on a forum, encounter people from different countries and nationalities, regardless of the age we communicate with, as we all do here, but as for dating....nah!



I realise that I may be proved totally wrong here if I ever took a fancy to someone and he with me.

RE: is internet dating the last straw

85% is good.

RE: Why don't people post fotos?

You´re right. If I ever saw a student of mine here I would immediately remove my pics, and perhaps my profile. One reason why I don´t use Spanish dating sites, it would be more likely to encounter such a problem there.

I teach adults mainly btw.

RE: Fake women

Well I´m sorry but you were cruel, and not only I thought so. You can´t post something about women needing face transplants and leg transplants and then say you were only comparing fakeness with enhancements. It doesn´t make any sense at all.

RE: is internet dating the last straw

Well I never fire out emails as you say, but I understand your point. As for "all aspects of life", I don´t think I´ve ever made a truly bad judgement in all reality with dates offline, yes I may not want to pursue a serious relationship after a few weeks, or months even, but I´ve never wanted a second date with anyone I´ve met online. Not because they are awful people, just not what I expected or was led to believe they actually were online. Is that poor judgement? I don´t think so, rather not having enough facts to hand, or face to face interaction to base a true attraction on.

I really don´t believe successful, romantic relationships are made online, friendships yes, I agree wholeheartedly with you there.

I´m a cynic, ignore me.

RE: Fake women

You too

People do write the strangest things here without thinking first don´t they. Still, perhaps that´s a good thing in some ways no?