It can, and does happen. That is where you find out what kind of person you are dealing with. When explanations are given, there should be tolerance, giving the benefit of the doubt. If not, then certainly feel free to dump them. Without kindness what have you got?
What you might have been getting was a fear reaction too. Fear of having to sit ther and being stood up. Many people run scenarios in their heads, about the worst that can happen to them in the circumstances.
It's a bit like a child falling out of a tree. Mother picks him up, and when she sees he is fine, lets him have it verbally because she is relieved, not because she hates him.
I'd say that many women don't have preconceived ideas on the men they meet, BUT, red lights often flash, warning signs, if you will, when a man does things that trigger memories of previous bad experiences with other men.
This is a normal and good reaction, because choosing someone to be close with, is something anyone wants to get right, if they can.
Doesn't mean that people go out and have a list in their minds. It just means they are being cautious to be safe.
Will surely miss your coffee threads Sassy. Happy you have found someone who is good to you. May you both find continued happiness in each other, and may you have peace and love in abundance.
Just to mix it up a bit. Loving is something you do alone.....
It is a choice you make. It is a decision to give of yourself.
You can love people who don't even know they are loved, or even liked. You can love people whom you haven't seen for years, if ever.
Love is a willingness to think well, and deeply, of others. It is s choosing to admire another. It is something you do, not something they do.
If it weren't a choice, then you could not choose to stop loving, when another person got abusive, or put your life in danger, or when you decided, for whatever reason, to find another partner to love.
It is certainly NOT unconditional. It is a decision fraught with common sense, and includes survival instincts, and the emotions generated from your thoughts at the time.
If love was unconditional then we would love everyone. There would be no barriers on what we did for love, or whom we did what with. We would not be looking for one individual that meets certain criteria if love were unconditional.
Even with one partner, we would not get pissed off when they refused to work, or hit us, or stole all we owned to feed their drug habit. Nor would we mind if they cheated, after all we would just love them as they are right?
I used to do gardening a lot, and grow a lot of my own stuff, but sadly can't do it any more. I can buy local organic produce though, and use that these days. I tend to bake a lot, and cook most of what I eat from scratch. A couple of times a week I bake for family or friends.
I rarely go out, unless I am asked to do something for someone, or to go to the beach once in a while for walks. I spend much of my time alone, and mostly like it that way. I'm an artist, and work from home, work that is better done without distractions.
Not a fan of noise, but like the occasional conversation, and sometimes listen to music that suits my mood.
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I have kept my diaries/journals back from when I was 13. I sometimes go back and read them. Nothing much changed as to the essence of who I am. I think I knew then, what I know now.
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RE: Ladies post your thoughts
Ok no excuse for going on at you then. She has a bit of an attitude to work on.