This thread has really started some serious discussion for a change. Brava!
I too have experienced this problem.
I was used to shoulder a tremendous ammount of stuff as my late wife was somehow limited in certain aspects due to her medical condition. To be perfectly honest, she was the captain and she still managed to do a lot, (like keeping me sane).
After she passed away and I started to fequent others, I was told by the first two, that they were capabile of taking care of themselves and not to be protective.
Now I am learning to share that that needs doing and to accept being helped in turn.
All you write is completely correct, but... do not forget that 16 is a very nice age for a dog. Therefore try, just try not to be bitter about the past owners and concentrate all your energy on making Prince as comfortable as you can. Shots or no shots he must have been loved and cared for, to live to such a nice age.
If any of this that I write upsets you, please ignore and/or delete. I write in good faith.
Am so happy that things are working for you and Prince.
My daughter and her nearly 12yo Lab live one floor down from me. Every morning I wake hope hoping to hear the tell tale sounds of a good bark from Dempsey (the dog) for her breakfast.
Dempsey is going down fast with Sun Fly Disease. I go down to invent new diets to keep her eating and to give her, her jabs, as she cannot make the trip to the vet by car. As long as there is some fight in her, she will be kept going with all the love that we can muster. When she can't keep up the fight, she will have to be put down unfortunately.
I don’t mean to hijack this thread. If I have, I apologise.
I am trying (I thought with success) to keep things separately. I never make comparisons between the two people in my life. The last thing that I want is to hurt anyone, especially someone who gives me everything without asking for anything back. My woman and me are very good together and I just hope that she doesn't read your post and take your advice to run away from me.
I will take your advice (Do as Da Dobe Does?) and work on things but letting go completely is very difficult...very.
I do believe that the Catholic Church actually does allow divorce, but only if one of the spouses insists that the other, converts to an other religion.
In any case, here we get around divorce in different ways (with the blessing of the Church). That is where our lawyers, (too many of them around actually), come in handy.
At the moment, divorce is a hot topic, (by our standards) on the island.
Some want straightforward legislation; others want referenda (abrogative or/and otherwise) claiming that no party (two) have a mandate to carry said legislation through since it was not included in their manifests. I think that if only one person needs divorce then it should be available.
And to hell with Election manifests and referenda.
I hope that you are not implying that it was I that made you angry because if you are, then I apologise.
I agree with most that you write, but not with all.
Different people have different needs and if one does not set his standards too high, then the targets are easier to achieve. The biggest problem, (in my opinion) is when people feel poor because they do not have what others have, irrespective of whether they need it or not.
Me? I love "Simple" and wear only my shoes, as other people's shoes do not fit me.
Exactly nothing – I never think about India. You were expected something else for free? That’s logical and clever.
Reread you OP. It makes an expression of complaining and looking for someone to put responsibilities for your misfortunes on. I dare to say exactly what I want, get used to it.
I never asked for your advice. I have no plans to pretend. I am beautiful as I am without pretention. Good bye to you too.[/quote
Don't be angry Tule.
He just admitted that you are right in everything that you wrote.
I met my wife when we were 15 going 16 and we fell in love big time. Life was not easy as she was seriously ill for the last 34 years of her life, but man, was she strong or was she strong? She gave me all and I hope that I did too.
So I am used to being loved and to love back.
I can take anything except betrayal. When it happens, (work acquaintances and family), I just close the book.
Am really trying to move forward but it is hard. Am afraid to "loose" the happy memories of her. Good thing that I have found someone who is very understanding but she can never take my wife's place.
To show my wife how much I loved her, I used to tell her that if she died, (which she did), I would marry again the next day, meaning that I was very happily married.
Now I regret having expressed myself in that way. As for getting married again, I think that it is a no no for me.
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