I am in favor of the IM way of comunication becausse I get a sense on how rapid the other person is thinking writing, etc. of course I take into consideration (cultures, languages skills, etc and I hope the same for me), so it is fairly easy to know when the other persons is playing games or trying to make an scam. I am sure that some could be good and I might take longer to know it.
For example a person saying that he was living in X place, I asked him for his favorite food and he took so long to answer and the first word was rice and he was not even in China.
On the other side it is faster to comunicate on a one to one bases and really get to know about the other person. What could be good is to be able to see who whants to IM write before a decision can be made.
and again be alert for scammers and be aware of Boban, Jeepers, Englishman, and many more (just kidding) and women here we are all very nice (also just kidding) have fun!
Hello Pirate! Only snorkeling at the Silfra Fissure in Iceland, water temperatue about 4° C, but stunning and I am definitively going to learn diving, so plese I would love to hear from your bad and good experiences, etc.
That happens too Nevica and good thing about this is that at least pictures have the CS logo, but scammers some can remove it too.
In another site I was witing to a person every thing looked fine for 3 months so we exchange phone numbers and the harrasing started, he would call several times during the day and night. I did some investigation and I got his phone number traced to Ghana, he said he was from england but his accent was not. I had to change my phone number and now it is private, not listed.
it is good that you have not been robed or something worse and even if you do not belive it please be alert.
Once you conect with them from your personal address they can crack the security on your computer and access to your e mail account, that is very posible and they can get all your files! Some persons have their personal e mail address connected to their bank accounts and they will try to get access to them.
If they have your e mail addrss they will never stop sending mails from x, y, z person, pretending they are froma a bank, or from a charity asociation and will try to fool people.
Be careful of the ones who send to you their email address right the way, even without looking at your profile. Some are not very smart, because they say I did look at your profile and I was impressed, marry me. yes right
They do not know that marriage could scare me the most!!!
ThanksDriver, Cincity, Nuli, Taino Girl, Nina, Englishman in Italy (Italian man in England? or an Italian in Algeria?) English Elegance, Conrad, Maries Poodles and every one.
There is so much to learn Dove about relationships. I am not an expert but I run into this "way of thinking" and I did like it and I believe we can get something good from it.
And you are not alone darling, we are so many, perhaps too many souls that we would love to fall in love again and we will.
Take a look at this beautiful text about love and relationships by Flávio Gikovate, a psychoanalyst. “I don't want to be your other half cos I believe that one and one make two”.
It is not only technological advances that have marked the start of this millennium. Affectionate relationships are also going through profound transformations and revolutionising the concept of love.
What we search for today is a relationship compatible with the modern times, in which exists individuality, respect, happiness and pleasure to be together, and no longer a relationship of dependence, in which one person is responsible for the well-being of the other.
The idea of one person being the remedy for our happiness, which was born with romanticism, is destined to disappear at the start of this century. Romantic love is based on the assumption that we are a mere fraction and that we need to meet our other half to feel complete. Often it happens even as a process of depersonalisation that historically, has affected women more. She abandons her characteristics to amalgamate herself with the male project.
The theory of “opposites attract” also comes from the same root: the other has to know what I do not know. If I am gentle, he should be aggressive, and so forth. A practical idea of survival, hardly romantic by the sounds of it.
The word to look out for this century is partnership. We are changing the love of necessity for the love of desire. I like and desire company, but I do not need it - this is very different.
With technological advances, that demand more individual time, people are losing the fear of living alone, and are learning to live better with themselves. They are starting to realise that they feel a fraction, but are whole. The other, with whom you create a link, also feels a fraction. He is not the prince or the saviour of anything. He is only a companion on a journey.
Man is an animal who will go on changing the world, and afterwards has to keep reinventing himself to adapt to the world that he created. We are entering an era of individuality, that has nothing to do with egoism. The egoist does not have his own energy, he feeds himself on the energy of others, be it financial or moral.
A new form of love, or more love, has a new features and meaning. It aims for the coming together of two wholes, and not the union of two halves. And this is only possible for those who manage to work on their individuality. The more an individual is capable to live alone, the more prepared s/he will be for an affectionate relationship.
Solitude is good, to be alone is not shameful. On the contrary, it gives dignity to a person. Good affectionate relations are great, they are very similar to being alone, nobody demands nothing of nobody and both grow. Relationships of domination and exaggerated concessions are things of last century.
Every brain is unique. Our way of thinking and acting do not serve as a reference to evaluate anyone. Many times, we think that the other is our soul mate and, actually, what we did was to reinvent him/her to our taste.
Everyone should spend some time alone every now and again, to establish an inner dialogue and discover your personal force. In solitude, the individual understands that harmony and peace of the spirit can only be found inside him/her and not from the other person. To realise this, s/he becomes less critical and more understanding of differences.
The love of two whole people is more healthy. In this type of connection, there is the coziness, the pleasure of company and the respect of being loved. It is not always enough to be forgiven by another, sometimes you need to learn to forgive yourself...
SAWABONA, is a greeting used in the south of Africa that means: “I respect you, I value you, you are important to me”. In response, people say SHIKOBA which is: “Therefore, I exist for you”.
Hello Girl! There is absolutely nothing wrong on being unemployed, we all have had bad times in life and it is not over yet. My father was an orphan when he was only 2 yr old and in a much worse situation than yours at that time.
Would it be posible for you to get an scholarship to study something that you like it? there must be some out there from the gov or from institutions? And, go out to talk, to walk get involved with community affairs helping each others, like already was said here, trade with a friend the babysiting time so mums can work. Your child is lucky to have you as a 100% mum! so enjoy him, prepare him for life too and always be proud of yourself!!!
And do not settle for anyone different that the one you are looking for!
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RE: Has CS removed the IM function for good?
I am in favor of the IM way of comunication becausse I get a sense on how rapid the other person is thinking writing, etc. of course I take into consideration (cultures, languages skills, etc and I hope the same for me), so it is fairly easy to know when the other persons is playing games or trying to make an scam. I am sure that some could be good and I might take longer to know it.For example a person saying that he was living in X place, I asked him for his favorite food and he took so long to answer and the first word was rice and he was not even in China.
On the other side it is faster to comunicate on a one to one bases and really get to know about the other person.
What could be good is to be able to see who whants to IM write before a decision can be made.