I would start with a community sporting event, entrance is usually free.return to my backyard for a intimate backyard cookout ... burgers/hot dogs, campfire ,marshmallows, music maybe toss the shoes coupons would be used probably for cookout then as nite falls take a bicycle ride to the park by the river and cuddle while watching the submarine races along the river.I think I would actually have enough change to use the public phone sop she could check on her kids and homefront too....five hours of entertainment...under ten dolars....
actually having a date and spending under 10.00 is relatively easy if both parties just want to spend time with each ohter.
First dates is where the creative juices need to be flowing.
I know that marry whn young can brign about that lost that lovin feeling. The sad part is, it is hard to convince someone that love,like most any living thing, its needs and wants change with time... else grows and changes..even a potted flowers needs will change in time... Yeah "Lost that Loving feeling " it can effect us all.
A person's ability to post words is vast, from cut n paste, to copy, to plagerism, to those who with their heart and mind scribe teh words we read. Most give credit where credit is due, others (these are dangerous types), claim authorship of other persons words and sentiments. Without the person ever being in your presence (not biblically), I personally find trusting typed words on a flat screen,despite teh authenticity of author of those words enuff to induce me to proclaim love. I can rally behind an opinion, laugh at a good joke, share with anyone and be compassionate toward anyone in this format....Still I wonder, who here would be as open in reality or the streets How many communicate via this forum while misrepresenting themselves and do not share this fact. would yuo spend this amount time talking to this indiviudual if you knew.. (Trojan horse). As much as I envy those who trust and believe all they read here... the possibility of rejection/hurt/and many other nasty things reality forces us to contend when building our relationships are not present.... skeptical.. yeah I'm that. Naive?? No not in a long time, Am I envious? damn straight I am...
"capture their minds and the rest of the body will follow...." this is a recipe for many things, good ,bad, and evil.. Can a hungry heart distingquish between good love and bad. can it refuse.. Can a lonely person not answer a knock upon a door or ringing of a phone, Can not kind words and gestures overwhelm one starved for attention? Have you ever watched someone get emotionally destroyed by kind acts/ and words ??? It is the worst kind of destruction a freind can observe... yeah I'm skeptical and envious, its a package deal that comes with experience. just an opinion no harm or hurt intended
I heard drinking breast milk.... goes right thru you. seriously, was informed it works like a laxative... makes me wonder if the bar "stools" are in porcelain?
My answer would be YES......if I did not know any better.
II have become disillisioned with age. No more do I believe in love at first sight. It's true, no more do promises of ever after and always, beguile me. If only someone could take away the years of heartfelt experiences and loss from blindly believing love is easily attained and nurtured and kept... Until then I must with the utmost sincerity inform you sadly "No Mariegold, marry you I cannot"
usually them cooking your breakfast makes it official....
but never assume...she could be cooking it for her children
seriously, I've only met one...and thats as far as its going...
I agree with how can it happen without contact..... the typed word and just a voice... and WHAM BAM in love....nope, cannot comprehend such an event occuring.
it's hard to trust some strangers judgement with the well being and health of a loved one. We all want our loved ones to have 24/7 care and doctors and medical staff and equipment at our loved ones disposal...and answers they never come quick enough... trust. its hard.... and prayer in these times never seem enough.... try to rest, so you can be sharp and ready when the results come in... you and your mother are in my prayers
I like that the "Mutual Friends" , I am curious who this friend informs first. another issue could simply be he knows you well enuff to think hearing about her is not/or will not be of any beneficail help to you. Ahh still love someone do ya? Have you had any serious relationships since her... I mean even a steady piece since her.(we are creatures of habit, where men) Have you found another room mate yet... have you moved on ? or you waiting for her to change??? You where not appealing to her when you where married to her...she left you.. has anything changed with you besides. she gone? you want her back?? then LIVE WELL... yep, thats all. if you can do this,be Happy on your own... you may find this woman who left you, you may want to thank for your freedom, instead of reconciling with her.
I met a young man 22 and understand this is only one situation, but he displayed signs of being jealous of his own children... yes he publically commented on how long she spent with the kids, even commented on the nursing, his point was doctor said she did'nt have to nurse the child, well this man was going off. I mean it was just not me he spoke loud enuff I just had to get involved in the conversation... but he definitely has issues from her apparrel to her hair to having to wait on kids to go somewhere, o even to the housework, childs things on floors....I mean thi guy would have support on one issue but thenas he ranted on and on he was getting advise like you need to see a doctor, and you are one sick puppy... it's strange but depending on how easy its been and what hes had to sacrifice can effect you. he hates the changes in his life, but quite possibly blames the mother.. I can only hope he just has problems, that he does not want to burden you with and in time he will return, as the man you once was crazy about.
this is only something I've seen happen. and it's just an opinion
well I think its the most common direction, that most at CS want a "Piece". If it happens to everyone at the same time, it would indeed be a type of Piece/peace that would definitely boost the numbers of members participating in forums... so we would then have newcomers and oldcomers... and you know what they say what is old shall be new and what is new shall be old..
Soo deep that, I am timing myself as to how long I can tread water....
companionship requires participating/sharing with others, who also participate/share with you, for/in a common direction which brings unity of individuals.
Confucious say: selfcompanionship can cause either blisters on palms or cramps in the fingers....
It was a woman who taught me to the power of words, the good and evil that can come from their uses........ my dear sweet mother
it was a man that taught me anything worth doing, is worth doing right... and be very careful around imtelligent women, they'll have you saying yes Before you understand the question ............... ..................my hardworkin Father
My profile has been updated... this is time of year in my area where every community has a social activity/event of some sort or another going on. currently a 4 day arts/crafts festival, I hope most understand the hunt for the "right" person is suppose to be an enjoyable task if it is not, you are doing it wrong My single life, even my time here at CS, has its moments of enjoyment,but lke most things, there is always room for improvement.
Why even Wavypoo and Euro Doll can put a smile on my face... Ok so I'm easily amused
Perfection... I believe exsists only in the relationship of two people...I do not consider myself perfect, but hopefully the "right woman" will. (who am I to argue with someone elses opinion) Truth is, the "right" woman, will effect/change the what, how, where, when, of of my life.... I can accept that, afterall change/growth is a good thing.
Seriously Euro Doll and Wavmeister they are many more your own age that really your need help.... I hope you can find time in your busy schedule to address those folks as well.
Hang in there Smooth, I know of cases where women have jumped at the opportunity to have a ready made family (excuse the term). as a parent of 3, this word you must already know and pratice... be Patient... dayum Smooth, thats all i got to offer.
I hope you do not mind if I share this with some nieces and nephews of mine....maybe from a stranger they'll beileve it's not all fun and games to be a single parent.... it's wild how the youngsters think more than one child eases the burden of raising kids alone.
another example of inability to just ignore one person... you poor unfortunate, unlucky maladjusted child....most of here do not pamper constant whining spoiled brats.
this is just an opinion... as for friends dropping off this sight.... what kind freind are they, or you, tfor that matter hat you only can meet here.....DUH, in my state we have ....phones.
I have a block for those who annoy me and ignore most their threads unless the thread in my opinion has any worth, or is bashing someone because an adult responded to another adult by "I'm leaving CS" then tell evryone its someone elses fault too funny ROFLMAO...... take your meds , if you are not on any... you should be.
NO harm or hurt intended, this is just an opinion (mine)
its not the long distance relationship thats gettin to you its how you ae currently handling it. I am a novice, but to not share whatever you can with someone you consider "special", especially your feelings and thoughts and concerns via phone ,e-mails and etc, just sounds wrong.really you should have a talk with her about what you have stated here... and maybe you should consider relieving some of that pent up anxiety and pressure... whatever you think you can keep from her good or bad will show itself when you meet.
Good luckand best Wishes
personally I choose not to even try a relationship like this, the thought of 2 years without seeing, touching, loving, squeezing each other.... not the path I would choose, not now anyway.
people who for what ever reason cannot just say "I do not know" or "No idea". No matter what topic or situation, someone is always there spouting like they know it all, they do not have the self confidence to merely say, "I think this",,or even "just my opinion" the time , the reduced anger and hostiliesby merely responding honestly...the thought of his occuring thru-out all our daily activities and conversations.... there is no shame in not speaking there is no shame in saying these 3 words "I Don't Know"
I'm sure We all of those, who when asked to lie they have no problem saying this..
Hilarious, My family get the humor in it.... but not all families sense of humor are the same. the stag party or wedding shower would be the best place for a gift that cool. then at wedding you could give a his and hers pen set with note "to be use for ......"
I wouold say it is always better to have a good relationship with "the ex" the perks of having a good relationship with "the ex" always outweighs the other alternatives.
but like everything else there is always an exception to the rule...your sanity, your children, your current life, if they can bring a little happiness to any of those it's definitely worth a couple hours of your time.
Yeah, she does a five minute workout before going out now, and like most, she swears it wasn't the drinking. Truth is I've never tried that break dancing...probably never will with or without 5 minute excersise workout
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RE: dating on a budget
I would start with a community sporting event, entrance is usually free.return to my backyard for a intimate backyard cookout ... burgers/hot dogs, campfire ,marshmallows, music maybe toss the shoes coupons would be used probably for cookoutthen as nite falls take a bicycle ride to the park by the river and cuddle while watching the submarine races along the river.I think I would actually have enough change to use the public phone sop she could check on her kids and homefront too....five hours of entertainment...under ten dolars....
actually having a date and spending under 10.00 is relatively easy if both parties just want to spend time with each ohter.
First dates is where the creative juices need to be flowing.