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"panchsheel" 5 precepts of Buddha

The 5 precepts are commitments to abstain from killing living beings, stealing, s*xual misconduct, lying and intoxication. Within the Buddhist doctrine, they are meant to develop mind and character to make progress on the path to enlightenment.

These 5 precepts are for everyone, anyone can follow it. If one cannot follow it completely then do as much as you can.

Instead of giving importance to God or Soul, Buddha gave importance to human qualities, gave importance to humanity, gave importance to purity of mind.

Buddha told that worship should be of virtues not of any imagination.

Auroville wants to be a universal town where men and women of all countries are able to live in peace and progressive harmony above all creeds, all politics and all nationalities. The purpose of Auroville is to realise human unity.


Auroville is an experimental city in southern India created to realize what is possible when people live together in a community beyond the boundaries of nation, religion, race, politics, money -- all that separates and divides. Here, citizens from 40 nations attempt to live lives of selfless service, dedicated to the pursuit of human unity.

In a village, a poor old farmer had a lame son. Everyone in the village called that boy unlucky.
One day, king's army came to the village, and took all the strong young boys to be soldiers for the emperor. Only the old farmer's lame son was spared, because he could not fight with a broken leg. Everyone said, “What a good luck!” The old farmer replied, “Good luck?, bad luck?, who knows?”

Sometimes circumstances decide whether it is good luck? or bad luck?. So, don't pride on your good-luck and don't grieve over your bad-luck.

when we look in our ward robes ,how often do we choose our favourite shirt or blouse trousers or slacks ,
shoes are another thing where we have a pair that are so comfortable that they are a delight to wear,
and yet we never buy two ,
it is only after they have disappeared from the shops that we wish we had bought a second pair,
in reality most of the clothes and shoes that we buy , we very rarely wear,,
the same applies to your cooker why do we always choose the same gas ring or electric ring to cook on if only using one pot or pan,,
the same applies with driving to work or the shops ,,the same route taken time after time ,,
which in turn makes us creatures of habit or does it have to be this way,,
i always started my day with a cup of tea and later followed by coffee,,
but i changed my habit by alternating my morning drinks, and also changed my drive into the city and so i see and do things differently which actually makes the drive more enjoyable and not the hum drum that it used to be ,
it is surprising that small changes to the norm actually affect your senses and adds to your awareness ,,,

When any emotion inside us becomes intense due to some reason and becomes out of control, then our ability to understand right or wrong gets affected. At that time only things that are favorable to that emotion, seems right.

Well, no emotions (feelings) are bad itself. Every emotion (feeling) has its own importance in life. As long as they are in control, they are good and useful; when they are out of control, they are bad and harmful.

but too kind to do that...
when they f*cked up, put you in a very difficult situation and you have to clean up their mess...
'can only silently scream, f--k! f--k!! f--k!!! f--k!!!!

Our mind is designed to run on both belief and truth. It is necessary to strike a balance between the two.
Truth is bitter, belief is sweeter. Truth requires logic, belief does not require logic. Truth is an endless process of logic, belief is a full-stop of logic. Truth is workout, belief is rest. Truth requires a brain, belief does not require a brain.

A scientist reaches a truth by applying a lot of logics. Many years later, another scientist proves that truth wrong by applying another logic. In this way the endless process of logic continues in truth.

Everyone believes in Belief according to their own will. For this we twist the truth in favor of our belief.

We cannot always depend on logic alone, nor can we always depend on belief. It is important to keep a balance in both. If both are imbalanced then we will start harming ourselves and each other.

“I’m a certain way, but I should be some other way.”,

This world is a crazy and sick place, and humans in general are not beautiful. But it’s all subtle, and most people do not see this(i am sorry ...
if you think otherwise)

Don't you want to know yourself ?

Can you live joyfully without knowing yourself?

Knowing yourself means understanding your strengths and weaknesses, your passions and fears, your desires and dreams. It means being aware of your eccentricities and idiosyncrasies, your likes and dislikes, and your tolerances and limitations. Knowing yourself means knowing your purpose in life.

How well-fixed are you with your own morality?
What are your biggest fears?
Your self-limiting beliefs?
Your relationship with money and wealth?
Your human relationships with friends, family?
Role gratitude plays in your life?
What you think you can do as a human?

What is that something you always love doing, even when you are tired or rushed? Why?
What lifts up your joy?
What you think is possible for you?

“The purpose of the heart is to know yourself to be yourself and yet one with God.”
- Edgar Cayce.

Without virtue, man is most unholy and savage, and worst in regard to sex and eating.
Aristotle.

human being is responsible for its own actions despite of the obstacles in life.

“The heart is the most powerful generator of electromagnetic energy in the human body,
the heart actually sends more information to the brain than the brain sends to the heart.

We All have Light And dark side within. Need to fight!
behavior is valuation.
The more you know about yourself, the more you can make wise decisions for interacting with the world around you.

how stupid, sick, and twisted this world is, until the insights start rolling in, or you implode instead. And oh yeah, this is the most painful path.

Your dreams matter. Your dreams are important. Your dreams are worth going after. Don’t believe anything less.

now time to meet with a realized Master or Guru who arrives from nowhere 'through the Power of Thoughts.'
(Most important Never compromise your self.)
a guide shows us the way. While....
a guide keeps us on the right path.

To enter the Spiritual Path, we all enter the Path of Knowledge to experience deep integrity and a changed life style.
After we have.....
illuminate a radiant path to the center of our own being to be oneself; and show us the way to carry that light into the shadowed world.
This capacity to be yourself is very much about being free of the traps of conceptual identity,

Really knowing yourself is a worthy aim and an important step is to be clear on what really knowing yourself means before putting effort into it.

Knowing oneself is the first step towards making good rapport not only with one’s own mind and body but also with the other. This other can be husband, wife, mother, father, brother or anyone.

Once we have understood how our mind functions, and as we witness the rise and fall of emotions in mind, we are better equipped not to get carried away with these waves of mind. Life gives us situations, not solutions.

Solutions are always created by our wisdom. In most of the relationships we see around, the basic problem remains the same.

that one is a NOBODY and NOTHING, then, the one who would realize THAT....
However, zero plus zero will remain zero. You have to know this truth: nothing, neither people nor things, can make you rich; nobody can give meaning to your life. So, stop hankering for appreciation, sympathy or love from others..

Meditation and Self Evaluation are one of the best ways to find out ourselves. So try to give time to yourself and do yourself talk which will help you to find the best version of yourself.

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There is an unbroken sound playing inside every human being. It rings continuously for 24 hours from birth to death. This sound can be heard sitting in a quiet place. If it is not heard even in a quiet place, then it can be heard with your ears closed.
Some people call it the sound of the Soul. Some consider it a means of meeting the Soul. Some people keep listening to this sound during meditation. People say that listening to this sound, helps the mind to concentrate easily.

I don't know whether anyone has reached near the Soul after hearing this sound? But it is true that this voice is playing continuously inside and listening to it calms the mind.

Psychological abuse, often called emotional abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another person to a behaviour that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder...
It is often associated with situations of power imbalance in abusive relationships, and may include bullying, gaslighting, and abuse in the workplace.It also may be perpetrated by persons conducting torture, other violence, acute or prolonged human rights abuse, particularly without legal redress such as detention without trial, false accusations, false convictions, and extreme defamation such as where perpetrated by state and media.

General definition

Clinicians and researchers have offered different definitions of psychological abuse.....According to current research the terms "psychological abuse" and "emotional abuse" can be used interchangeably, unless associated with psychological violence
More specifically, "emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased. This abuse occurs when someone says words or does actions used to try and control the other person, to keep the other afraid and instill fear that, or kept apart from others or try to break someone’s self-esteem of themselves.
Emotional abuse can take several forms. Three general patterns of abusive behavior include aggressing, denying, and minimizing"; "Withholding is another form of denying. Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, and emotionally withdrawing as punishment."..
Even though there is no established definition for emotional abuse, emotional abuse can possess a definition beyond verbal and psychological abuse.

Blaming, shaming, and name calling are a few verbally abusive behaviors which can affect a victim emotionally. The victim's self-worth and emotional well-being are altered and even diminished by the verbal abuse, resulting in an emotionally-abused victim.

The victim may experience severe psychological effects. This would involve the tactics of brainwashing, which can fall under psychological abuse as well, but emotional abuse consists of the manipulation of the victim's emotions. The victim may feel their emotions are being affected by the abuser to such an extent that the victim may no longer recognize their own feelings regarding the issues the abuser is trying to control. The result is the victim's self-concept and independence are systematically taken away.

The U.S. Department of Justice defines emotionally abusive traits as including causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends, destruction of pets and property, forcing isolation from family, friends, or school or work. More subtle emotionally abusive behaviors include insults, putdowns, arbitrary and unpredictable behavior, and gaslighting (e.g. the denial that previous abusive incidents occurred). Modern technology has led to new forms of abuse, by text messaging and online cyber-bullying....

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