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Age a state of mind or statement of uselessness?

Isn't it unique the many varied profiles of women who are 65 or older who have one foot on a banana peel and the other on the threshold to a nursing home looking for a useless wanker who is equally or darn near on the same threshold that they will suggest age is just a number or age is not so important. Yet, in my opinion it sounds like a tesimony they are afraid of growing old and bitter and alone. Very sad indeed. To consider most are divorced by the time they reach 40 to 50
They dont want another old useless wanker that they kicked to curb and a guy doesnt want an angry miserable woman who will just spend more time picking out the faults or traits they dont like in a new man either unless perhaps he has a good estate planned.
If you are a poor broken down old fool living on social security from month to month going nowhere what chance does anyone have in entertaining a woman at any level?
Yes we all want a second chance at love and a love that doesnt live 4000 to 12000 miles away
We can all say if we find a personality we can put up with then age is not a factor but having to be middle aged or younger and being compatible would be an ideal hope and predominate reason why we are here or on any other social dating site. Yet, perhaps to be realistic, many should be grateful or happy if we can find anyone suitable. Yet, perhaps its not the search or the chase or catch that matters anymore. Perhaps its OK that people can come here just to exchange banter and not worry about if anyone suits us or is the ideal age or emotional maturity as they say if the shoe fits wear it. Everyone has their reasons why they are here. It is not for me to judge but I find it unique and sad to see my generation is divorced picky and overly critical of the quality of friends they want. Perhaps I am equally guilty of that as well. The problem is our expectations we place upon ourselves and others. After awhile we learn that we sabotage our efforts to fail in finding anyone because of our unrealistic expectations. Something to ponder in your travels here.
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Hopefully some will have a sense of humor !!

The boys may appreciate it hopefully the girls will find the humor as well.


Subject: FUN AND INJURY AT VFW

I was standing at the bar at the VFW one night minding my own business.
This FAT ugly chick came up behind me, grabbed my behind and said,
"You're kinda cute. You gotta phone number?" I said, "Yeah, you gotta
pen?"
She said, "Yeah, I got a pen".
I said, "You better get back in it
before the farmer misses you."

Cost me 6 stitches…but,
When you’re seventy nine..............who cares?
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I went to the drug store and told the clerk "Give me 3 packets of
condoms, please."
Lady Clerk: "Do you need a paper bag with that, sir?”; I said "Nah...
She's pretty good lookin'....."

When you’re seventy nine..............who cares?
***********
I was talking to a young woman in the VFW last night. She said, "If
you lost a few pounds, had a shave and got your hair cut, you'd look
all right.”; I said, “If I did that, I'd be talking to your friends over there instead of you.”;

Cost me a fat lip, but...
When you’re seventy nine..............who cares?
**********
I was telling a woman in the Club about my ability to guess what day a
woman was born just by feeling her breasts. "Really" she said, "Go on
then... try." After about thirty seconds of fondling she began to
lose patience and said, "Come on, what day was I born?" I said,
"Yesterday."

Cost me a kick in the nuts, but...
When you’re seventy nine...............who cares?
*********
I got caught taking a pee in the swimming pool today. The lifeguard
shouted at me so loud, I nearly fell in.

When you’re seventy nine...............who cares?
**********
I went to our VFW last night and saw a BIG woman dancing on a table..I
said, "Good legs." The girl giggled and said, "Do you really think
so?" I said, "Definitely! Most tables would have collapsed by now."

Cost me 6 more stitches, but...
When you’re seventy nine..............who cares?

"Count your life by smiles, not tears, count your age by friends, not
years, and remember we do not quit playing because we grow old.... we
grow old because we quit playing" rolling on the floor laughing banana yay
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Emotional investment

Gosh how emotional investment be it online or up close and personal is measured in so many ways.
To consider the pain of emotional investment in someone only to have it be dashed and crumbled by our object of affection.
To consider one's emotional investment in another can mean nothing that ultimately leaves us questioning our own personal worth motives and value.
To have our object of affection trample us discard us as waste.
We wonder why we place so much energy and effort in hoping they will change or see our way and noble intentions.
In the end we learn the energy and effort we put into convincing our object of affection leads to self discovery. We end up changing ourselves not the other person we like.
Hence, for an idea that most must consider that a woman hooks up with a man hoping he will change and a man hooks up with a woman hoping she wont.
Overall do consider the emotional investment you may have long distance or up close and ask yourself if it is real and worth the effort. If not, let it go for all that love and energy would be best served to yourself or with someone who will appreciate you. professor
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Profile deleted

How many people here who get views from others and find their profiles are deleted or hidden before you get a chance to learn who was checking you out? I get that alot. If it were not for fake profiles or hidden or deleted ones I wouldn't get any attention at all. It is clear of what kind of impact I am making here. For if I only seem to attract flakes and fakes and deleted people along with complaints from real people perhaps this site is not working for me. Or its what I am putting out there that is sabotaging my efforts.
Clearly the answer usually comes with the question.
Insanity is hoping for some sense of understanding of this site and the people who play here.
Overall I will live to regret posting this.
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A true friend

A true friend will let you stubbornly walk your way and wait patiently until you come to your senses.

A true friend will love you unconditionally in spite how many times you pissed them off.

A true friend will scrape you up from the depths of Hell and carry you to safety at the risk of their own.

A true friend will tell you that you are acting like a useless wanker/wankette and help you see that you are heading for a fall.

A true friend will sometimes be hard on you because they know you can do better.

A true friend will cry for you and never tell you the tears are for you but will give an excuse that something got in their eye.

A true friend will lay down their life for you so you can continue to live in hope you will see the love you denied yourself

A true friend, how many here will ever find such a person or have such a person they know who will always be there for you?

We have many fair weather friends and acquaintances online and offline but, for all we seek of loyalty and faithfulness and love we can still feel lost and alone in spite of who we call friend.

We may all have our faith in some form of a higher power or a god that we may call friend as we understand that higher power.
Along the path if anyone of us happen to find a friend described in this blog you have accomplished much.

When you have them and know them don't push them away out of stupidity or you will live to regret it.
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Two windows

One night I had a dream that I saw myself sitting in small house having only two windows. Within the house were many people. Half were looking out one window on one side of the house and the other half were looking out the other window. None within the the house knew how they got there only that they kept looking out the windows seeming to be looking for a sign of profound vision. One group was claiming with such clarity they could see the truth of everything and the other group claimed they thought they saw a glimpse of the truth but, their window was a bit hazy and cloudy so they just were not sure.
One truth they all knew they were stuck in this house and though they were aching to get out and explore beyond the confines of the house they could not find a door nor a key or any manner to escape the confines of the house.

Some just resigned and embraced the confines while others still kept hoping for a release, an escape, a way out of the house. Yet, all the while they were concerned about getting out of the house they did not realize each were holding a key and the windows were never really there nor the walls of the house. As a matter of fact the house was not even real but their own imagination of a false sense of imprisonment.
The windows were just invisible barriers to what they placed within the walls of doubt, fear, pessimism, anger, and regrets of the past.
Such is the case with online dating in some cases.
Yet, perhaps this is more for the blogger to understand. professor
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The garden of life

One night I had a dream I was walking upon a valley and off in the distance there was a garden.
As I came near to it I saw its bounty of many varieties of fruit and vegetables ripe for the picking.

Next to the veggie garden was a thicket of weeds and thistles and briars and next to that a patch of flowers of all kinds of beauty.

As I pondered why were they divided by weeds and thistles I could not understand why anyone would grow such an array.

Then a voice from the clouds said unto me "oh foolish man what do you not understand? Is it not clear what you see?"
I cried out to the voice "No I honestly do not know why anyone would let weeds grow between such a lovely garden."

The voice in the cloud said, " Son of man open your mind and eyes. You see the bounty of veggies and they look ripe for the picking for they are the food of thought and dreams of many in the garden of life but, as full and ripe they may seem, there is barrier of weeds and thistles that must be cleaned out to bridge the gap to reach the flowers of beauty.
Yet, there is no one willing to tend to the weeding
As the hope of reaching to the flowers of beauty and the veggies which feed those who hunger for knowledge and understanding there is much work to be done to clear out all the negativity in the hearts of the laborers.
As I the lord above the clouds can provide all the light and water to nourish the ground, I give life to everyone who seeks it.
Hence, all I ask is to clear out that which is blocking the veggies and flowers so they can bridge one another and share the bounty of love and life they so desperately need.
In time with proper nurturing, you will reap the bounty and benefits of the garden of life before you.
Seek it's truth and do not be discouraged for the garden will feed you what you need.
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Very sad indeed

Reviewing various female profiles and their perception of self and the quality of men they seek It's rather sad when they preach about how loving caring they claim to be and love their God and their Jesus etc. Then place their unrealistic expectations of potential mates that they must be this or that or love God the same way they see him.. Or list all the things they don't want in a relationship such as they don't want abusers or drunks or a loser without a job etc. Yet, rarely do we see anyone suggest what they do want. Such a nice gentleman or lady who is honest with themselves and to have a real connection with someone. Or they want open communication, fairness something in common etc. I know everyone has their own idea of a friendship and or relationship. However, if you convey a message of past hurts and past relationship failures in one breath and preach about how you may love your God the next what kind of message of contradiction is that? Even God said you can't serve two masters without favoring one over the other. One cannot be dictating that everyone must love God according to an individual's perception then attack everyone that says hello or points out their mixed message of the kind of friend they seek. Where is the empowerment in that? Women want to be empowered and wear the pants today but, part of that responsibility is not attack those trying to reach out to them. It kind of defeats the purpose of seeking a friend in my opinion. Hence, people should be careful what they ask for and what they project out there for we tend to attract what we think of ourselves in our anger and in our joy. If you want to draw love into your life offer love without fear, without using past hurts or judgment. Look at the dysfunction we see in the world today. On the brink of nuclear war, mass shootings and natural disasters. Is this the kind of world people want? If we can't learn to love in our immediate community we can't love anyone online or 4000 miles across the ocean. Oh we can play superficial love and games and offer selective coyness to one another but at the end of the day when we want to curl up with someone and snuggle but left in an empty cold bed we realize our value to anyone and everyone. Something to ponder and criticize in your travels.
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At least we still have CS until further notice!!

H.R.1865 - Allow States and Victims to Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act of 2017

This new proposal on US law agenda of those looking for love in all the wrong places that has wiped out all the dating section of Craigslist.

I wonder if CS will be next to meet its demise. At least within the US and it's territories. CS maybe an EU site for the most part but, the US in all its preaching of free speech and expression that it prides itself on may prove in time that those rights may be in danger of losing.

Overall I am happy they cracked down on Craigslist because it's such a horrible place to look for love, sex or whatever.
CS is in my opinion heading that way.
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Super Heroes

Currently, on the boob tube they put on all the superman epics with Christopher Reeves and there are many other comic heroes such as Iron man, Capt America, Incredible hulk Batman etc.
We all know the basic theme of a mysterious mild manner type of person who turns into a super hero to save the day. Of course there is always romance and a damsel in distress.
There is always a bad guy to upset the day with a diabolical plan for his or her own gain.

Yet, looking at all the fantasy of such, it makes one ponder that we are always seeking a Hero or Heroine
to rescue the victim to vanquish the bad guy. Much like our military boys and girls, police force, fire rescue, and medics on the scene and those we deem protectors.
When it comes to all those services we sometimes take for granted and the people we call friends, how we can look upon them as our heroes to come to our aid or rescue.
There also comes a time to see the hero within the reflection pool we often tend to disregard because we sometimes do not see ourselves as heroes.

In the real world that seems to be getting worse by the hour I think at times we put too much dependence upon someone outside of ourselves to bail us out or to play the role of the hero in our lives. A type of role model to pattern by. When looking for a partner here or any social site we all secretly are looking for that hero to feed us something to believe in and give us courage to fight and love another day. When we see those who seemingly have a strong personality and confidence they are sometimes who we wish to become.
It would be such a better world if we all could be heroes to each other instead of seeing the sickness
and the ugliness that so many seem to convey with killing and shooting people down.

Change comes from within each of us and if we don't like what we see around us we must become the hero within that can make a change.
Its a hard task indeed. Nobody is asking to throw on a cape to leap tall buildings or turn big and green and tear up the town though at times in our anger we wish we could.
We often seek truth and justice from everyone but it starts looking within.
When we see our Dr's. or surgeons if they are successful in saving lives they are considered heroes and it takes humility to shine through.

Everyone who blogs or writes a poem here may be considered doing a heroic deed for a message to someone that may read at the right time that could be the one thought that could save a life from suicide.
Or to offer a new idea that could launch someone into a new career or lifestyle. Or to just cheer up someone who may be down on their luck.
In a world gone crazy today, we need many heroes and healers if we want to have a future.

No doubt, there may be a few here we could call a hero and a friend but we won't know that unless we tell them. We need to consider our values and ideals for not all the money in the world or material things is going to matter. We came into this world with nothing we are going to leave it with nothing. The question is how do we want to be remembered a villain or a hero? Like the song, "I need a hero"- Bonnie Tyler
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Bridge collapse in Miami

In case anyone is interested a recent accident in Miami when a new walking bridge was recently installed at a Florida University had collapsed on several vehicles passing under it killing 8 people so far and injured many others.

There is an estimate of about 8 cars with varying amounts of drivers and passengers under the bridge that by now are probably dead.

Overall, as sad as it may be I feel that in the world of CS there is an invisible bridge that at times seems to have collapsed in part by poor and or selective communication.

I don't know which is worse. A concrete bridge killing people or a invisible bridge killing opportunities for people to find friends and lovers etc? As I see it a concrete bridge can be rebuilt Friendships can be destroyed forever. dunno
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Nothing to read here

Nothing!! Since there is nothing of interest You are left with nothing!!
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