When Pain Speaks

Unpleasant events have been present in human life since the beginning of human existence on Earth, and since then, it didn't take long for people to start asking themselves the eternal question "why me." I believe I have written about this topic in the past, but related to a different subject... However, now, this is the main subject and the basis of this post. Today, I would like to explain in an elaborate way how I see the situation with this eternal question, to which probably not many know the answer: "why them?!"

Sooner or later, we all ask this question. My answer is divided into 3 parts, as follows... First, I will present a rather serious case (let's say imaginary, but one that can happen anywhere on this planet, at any moment) and I will also explain why I chose such a serious case (if you don't realize it by yourselves).

Let's imagine that we are somewhere in the beginnings of human life on Earth. Not in the time of Adam and Eve, somewhere later... when there were enough women and men on Earth... and in those times, a woman gives birth to a healthy child, but after a few years, her child dies, and the woman suffers immensely. The pain in her soul is unbearable and hard to imagine for someone who has never been through it, and at some point, the woman says a phrase we still hear today: "no parent should see their child dying before them." For those around her, these words will never have the same meaning as they have for that woman.

Now, let's continue to imagine that after this terrible incident, God or, for the non-believers, the universe or whatever you may believe, sees the woman's suffering and decides not to put anyone else in a similar situation. Thus, no one else on the entire planet will lose a child before themselves.

And here come the other 2 parts of my explanation, alongside the first one... 2. It won't be fair to the woman if she is the first and only one to go through such a thing... she will always wonder "why them," and the question will continue with "why only me? And no one else?" So, it won't be fair to her, but neither to others... and then, with the passage of time, people, seeing that such an event has never happened again (and here you will understand why I chose a serious event), not only will they start to forget about it, but over time, they will even come to believe that the event probably never happened. After years and years, that particular incident will become a story or a legend that young people will sometimes tell... and probably after more years, people will forget about that event altogether...

No matter how serious and painful that event was for that woman, if it won't be repeated and won't happen to anyone else, people will forget about its existence. Thus, unpleasant events are meant to repeat themselves again and again and appear in our lives, each of us... for 3 reasons: 1. So they won't be forgotten, 2. Because it's fair to those who have already been through them, and 3. Because life is not meant to be easy and only pleasant. These are the 3 answers to the question "why them." There is not necessarily a specific reason why you were chosen, sometimes it's not about you... if it wasn't you, it would have been someone else, and anyone in that position would have asked the same question "why them"... Sometimes we are chosen because of our mistakes, sometimes we are tested by God for those who believe in Him... and other times... it happens to "you" because someone had to go through it... I know it's not easy, but "you are chosen to be an example" for those around you. Once you heal, share your experience and the knowledge you have gained. Someone will benefit from knowing what you've been through and how you managed to move on.

Thank you for your attention.