if a man visits a woman

in another country, does it means that the woman owes that man the trip he pays to visits her? Just because he visited her?
and if things sadly didnt work out the way its expected too, would that man have the right to blame it on the woman?
Is the woman are put in such a low and degrading level and have no option to say no and no right to determine whether its him or not that she wanted just because he visits her?
I mean, seriously this is an international site, a trip must be made sometimes, at the agreement of both parties, but on the above case does it mean that its final and the woman should say yes to who ever he is?
I dont think so, regardless what ever reason the woman might have, i mean, she must have the INVINITIVE reason for her decission , would she?
Should the woman be blamed if she says no? Does she actually owes him a favour yet she receives nothing and ask for no benefits from that man as in lets say cash and gifts.
What do you guys think?
Please give me answers for this matters regardless the races and origins cause its driving me crazy.
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if it doesn't work out you owe nothing
Congratulations LadyHumour, I reckon you have won the weekly prize for the most inappropriately named CS member. Of course the guy should pay for everything, thats how the world is.

If a guy visits from another country, I think the woman owes him something but I dont think its a return visit.
no if a man goes to vegas and loses everything including his shirt.laugh he finds a way to get home. not speaking from experience here.roll eyes lol also a man pays for everything drinks dinner movie tickets whatever . real simple if a man came to get a piece and for whatever reason it didn't work out we got another stow away rolling on the floor laughing all hands on deck man over board . help i wasn't in the navy with my tour in asia either .drinking dancing grin bouquet laugh
A mature man, must always take in considaration all the risks, he will put himself into.!!

It's gambling. Either you win, either you lose.

Every one should know that..

Everyone of us, is responsible , for our own actions.

We must be prepared to pay the "bill", if something goes wrong.
Unfortunately, like it or not, that's life.

So don't feel guilty because it didn't worked out, and of course you are not obligated to pay his plane ticket, just because he visited you.
And additionaly , close your ears, to his "complaints".
You are right, and he is wrong.

conclusion:
"If you can't stand the heat, stay away from the kitchen!!!"

wine handshake

ps.
I think I know to what, you are refering to...
If a man is interested in a woman in a foreign country; if he chooses to travel to visit her he should pay the expenses. If a woman is asked to visit a guy she should pay the expenses. A guy should treat her like a princess for two weeks and pay her expenses back to her home country to announce either "I met the man of my dreams"; or "It is time to start over".

Again Kasih you are a very intelligent woman who should be writing books on social practices in the 21th century.

I sincerely hope my answer will assist in a prompt reduction of the craziness going on inside your head.

Best Wishes

Hankharlow
sadly things hardly works out the way we want it to be...it happens but you owe him nothing!
Thank you How1e - I take all my prizes in cash.
i got something for you you lady humourteddybear
Ha! Ok LadyH - cash it is, as in a small bundle of Rand notes. But that means I will have to personally visit you in order to deliver.........
how1e - sorry to tell you but you don't even stand a chance of an email response, with no photo! this is best you going to get wink
thanks John, first hug of the day! great. after my blog of yesterday, hugs have become minimal rolling on the floor laughing wink
Oh no...... you mean there's no chance of a trip to SA? Never mind, looking at your photos Im not sure we make a natural pairing anyway. Also sounds like you are looking for Mr Tediously boring and while Ive been accused of many things, not that so far.
how1e, You quite right considering the age group, and different requirements. Thank you for the offer, but I reject..laugh
I think it was only yesterday last time I was asked to fully support a woman just for her unconditional and uninterested (?)love.Not only for a trip but for anything and indefinetely.....ahahaah.Looks like a non written but very clear rule of this world. Men pay women benefit, but of course unless you agreed otherwise and you women dont forget about your agreements...laugh
Well Mr Poor, obviously I think they have no taste !
You know, someone commented recently in another blog that these things (blogs) shouldn't be taken too seriously. Oh, that person was you Mr Poor. I think you should take notice of some of your own advice !
how1e - why are hiding your face from us all???
LadyH, I had several photos on here for some time and I just got tired of the constant emails to reply to - of course you have to reply or get accused of being rude. Im sure you recognise this problem?
how1e - I hardly believe that. I have people contact me all the time that I am not interested in, and I couldn't carealess whether people think I am rude or not for not responding. I just think you have alot to say and you should show your face like we have - that's all. wine
Poor - rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing I got to hand it to you hey, you really give some a straight talking to! I LOVE IT!!! Go Combodia!!!! rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Mr Poor, you have my respect my friend !
50/50 LOL!
What planet is she on!

Cheers to dating equality, like that will ever happen! LOL!
It is all about heart, good heart and bad heart.
If a man travels far away to another country, he sacrifice time, money and he must be tired, please treat him well as he is your guess, surely both of you have agreed that he will visit you.
If he asks you to pay visit in return to his country then you don't need to go if you don't want to.
If he gives you money for the ticket you should refuse it don't take it if you don't want to go.
He must work hard to pay his own ticket and to give you money for the ticket.
It is better to send him back his money sure that you don't need that money as you can earn money more than that.
The Woman owes the man nothing,we are still pretty traditional about dates, it is usually assumed that the man pays for the date, or dates,if anything develops out of that, i think it is fair for the woman to share costs at a later time,JMO
thank you very much for the comments. thumbs up
Mr Cat, I had wanted to say to MsLadyH that actually she was kind of old. Anyway seems you have done that for me. You know I am starting to see you as my fairy godfather, seems you are always there to protect me. I value this protection, I really do !!
i guess u dont have to pay...it depends on ur agreements...if both parties agreed that u would spend 50/50 then its his ryt to ask but if not and he did it coz he loves u then he is unbecoming of a man...its a big turn off....thumbs down
r u suggesting something???wink
and ps. This is the internet, evey body lie. And the womam is not stupid because she didnt want him to come.
But some how her english was so poor, he didnt get the message.
I bet everybody in cs knows that the woman have a terrible english.
But then because the man did come then she tought she have to be nice. And involved her friend to make friends with him. But even her friend agreed the reason she did all of this!
Whether M/F I think it should be shared expenses 50/50 on the airfare and other expenses unless the host provided e.g accommodation and paid out for other things e.g excursions, meals etc..
If the man is behaving badly then I do not see any obligation re the above.
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