"cookie cutter" timeline
The dating waiting game when it comes to communication or seeing each other. I find when talking to different people I hear different views to the point to get conflicting viewpoints. You sometimes get confused or maybe you begin to sabotage your chances with someone because you go others ways & not you own.Is there really a ideal timeline when it comes to communication when you first start out with someone whether online or out in the dating world. What works for one may not work for another & every couple is kinda unique in what happens or what works or even how it started.
I was talking with a guy from cs he told me was messaging with a woman they started in january this year they stopped communicating all of a sudden. Then in june they started up again & had their first date & still together.For me a guy messaged me & I didn't respond until almost 2 months. We chatted for almost 5hrs online & went out the next day.
So maybe timing is everything. People say oh I haven't heard from so & so in a couple days does it mean they aren't interested? Maybe or maybe not. It depends I'm starting to see. So if someone doesn't respond right away maybe they could possibly be interested but aren't sure at moment but have you in mind.
With going out on your first date...how long do you wait to communicate...next day?....a week later?....its frustrating at times you wonder if he's interested in you or not? You wait.
If its mutual & both are wondering & playing the waiting game....who responds first? The man or the woman to make first contact post date. Does it matter who? What's too soon? What's too long? Or does it matter? And how long is too long between dates?
Ii know someone who says if you don't hear from him everyday he's not interested in you & stringing you along. And when you don't make your next date before you finish your date he's not interested. Hmmmm??? Really lol!?!
Is there an ideal "cookie cutter" timeline when it comes to dating "norms" or just do what feels right to you? What is normal?
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I used to think that if the man is really interested I shouldn't do much, he d contact me every day. If something went out of this schedule I got upset thinking he s not interested (and usually I was right
Now I think that things aren't so simple and can't be put in some timeline. I still tend to be relatively passive and usually wait for the man to contact me.
Anyway, I dream of a man who will care of me, think of me and be interested in me all the time (well lets say 80% of the time ;)
It will be interesting to hear other opinions, especially of men...
I'm curious too because I hear so many different things...mostly from woman & of differnt ages & experiences. I would like to know what is really universally acceptable or just go with the flow? Because I have differnt experiences also & let's say it makes me wonder.
im afraid i cant add to this however i am keen to read the replies so il be sitting back too watching
might i add, when the mails get shorter and shorter isnt that a sign someones lost interest
I hate wondering or guessing
Or even assuming....the worst
I think dating has changed & along with it the "normals". I used to wait for the guy to approach me or to call me. But now there's texting involved.....& online dating.....
I'm patiently waiting myself.
Its funny tho I was chatting with two local guys & I haven't heard from them both in over a month....one hide his profile & the other aploigized for lengthy response. Now they're both kinda communicating with me...kinda weird I thought they lost interest. That's why guys make me wonder....
Btw not ball bashing just wanna know what guys really think about certain things. Sometimes I feel I get mixed signals from guys or give off certain vibes......
As a whole, I am not a big optimist if a man doesn't contact me for a long time although I ve experienced the opposite from men.
Thank you for responding! It is true about accomodating each others lives...as to whether it succeeds or fails. When we start seeing someone we don't always factor in both lives & keep speculating.
In your eyes what to you seems like a good time frame to communicate in whatever method? I'm saying if you are interested in someone when you first are together do you prefer communication everyday or when time permits? Is there a grace period on length of time? Is a week or even two weeks too long without communication?
I show my interest in different ways. I don't always know right away. Sometimes it takes me longer to be sure & somtimes not. With online I find it differebt in a way then meeting in person. I'm sure people show interest in differnt ways & makes us wonder.
I wonder if I give off certain vibes. I'm alittle shy & a private person so sometimes if I'm interested I don't always show it. Sometimes you wonder if guys are that way themselves.
For me of I'm really interested I'm happy whenever we communicate or get together. I'm not the clingy or joined at the hips type. I don't want to see hime everyday but at long as we're communicating with each other. I enjoy my freedom like I'm sure he does.
I think its not about how much time we spend together its about the us time together. But if a guy isn't interested I would like to know & not be strung along. And vice versa.
I agree I'm kinda the same way. If I'm not interested I don't respond at all tho. I don't believe in stringing someone along either especially when it invoves the heart. It would be nice if we could respond to all messages but not always. If I'm truly not interested I know right away & I try to let him know.
Some should be in the dog house to learn their laesson
I don't usually go after guys that are taken tho. I'm sure you know that.
I think its ok to be alittle mysterious but not to the point where no one says nothing. I just don't like guessing & wondering if a guy is interested or not. Either way its good to know then not to. I think sometimes we can play it cool to not appear "desperate".
I say meet in the middle....both of us have our strengths/weaknesses & sometimes we can bring it out from each other to balance out...if we are compatable. Like they say opposites attract sometimes.
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