Walking Wounded?
There have been times in my life when I've been hurt, for awhile it made me walk around wounded. It made me afraid to be hurt again. So much so I was afraid to date again. I avoided the dating scene for a short while. It almost paralyzed me for awhile. I did not enjoy it. But at least I felt I was in control. In control of what? Not getting hurt.What did it accomplish? Well besides putting up a wall & being fearful....that part...nothing!! I felt many emotions. For a time I thought all guys are out to hurt me, or after one thing. But not all were tho. But I had a fear of being hurt, so I may of sabotaged by putting up this wall. This wall served no purpose. In fact it may of hurt me more.
This wall made me walk around wounded.....walking wounded is almost like dead weight....excess emotional baggage....it weighs you down, it prevents you from moving on. Its like you're holding onto something that hinders your progress. In essence, you are self sabotaging yourself. It gets you nowhere. Makes you wonder if were afraid of being hurt....or being loved.
How can anyone be afraid of being loved? Well perhaps its because....once bitten, twice shy. Loving someone requires an open heart. And to do that you must not be afraid to let someone into your life. & allow you to be vulnerable. Vulnerable? That's with your heart. In order to allow that, you must be able to trust with your heart.
You don't just trust anyone with your heart, it takes that special someone. That person holds that key to your heart. That key is trust. When you truly trust someone, you're not afraid to be vulnerable with your heart & emotions. This person allows you to open up, tear down that wall, lift the weight off your heart, let go & free yourself to love again.
Walking wounded is not easy & weighs you down. You must heal yourself through time & loving yourself again. It helps to realize that in the process you learn about yourself through self-discovery. Its different for everyone & there's no time limit. Don't rush it! Its no fun or fair to bring someone else down, while you're down yourself. Misery doesn't always love company! And don't be afraid to be alone!
Comments (13)
Love can hurt like hell!
You have wellsaid.
Truth opens the
gate of love.
Never under estemate your self.
Look into your shot
comming and over
come that.
Yes with conversation to
True friend you over
come your mind weight
Like depression and stree.
You only relax with
Your true friend.
When you find truth
then that person is
Your friend and love.
I wish you luck!
I agree, the loneliness feeling part isn't the best part, but I've also enjoyed that time as well. I almost feel sorry for those who are afraid to be alone....its like they're afraid to be with themselves. If you're afraid to be with yourself...is that the message you want to send out to others....be afraid to be with me?
Yes it can hurt. But not always.
A broken heart hurts.
But love doesn't have to hurt.
Fake love does hurt tho.
It sets up false hope.
But love is always possible.
Thanks for the comment!
I guess the truth will set you free....for love. If you can't communicate, then it'll be hard for love to continue. It helps to be comfortable & feel safe to open up. Having someone as a friend & lover wrapped up in one, goes a long way in a relationship!
Get married to a person that rips you apart, is greedy and only "needs" you to satisfy their demands and it will teach to be more resilient and careful. I experienced that with my last wife 35 years ago. I left her and suddenly she "wanted me back", but I just walked away because she wasn't going to change. It was all about her. She remarried and that husband left her 15 years ago. She called me and asked my why I left her.
I had to laugh. I answered her that I told her 20 years ago. She said, "tell me again". So I repeated what she did and I stated above which was that she was greedy and everything was about her she replied, "That's what my second husband told me when he left me"!
Don't walk wounded. Just walk around with your head held up high because if you were right you will be vindicated by your good actions!
Not much to say, but good luck to you in your search for love and the right guy. I hope you find him and that he is a keeper.
Stay Blessed Always!!!
Goodenuph
Walking alone for some times is okay ...... you can't go from one to another ..... just leads to the next another ....
Walking alone for a long time - doesn't make you stronger ..... you become weak again ......
Walking alone longer - and you find out it's out of reach - what you actually want so bad.....
Walking even longer breakes you down .....
I have reached a point .... where I don't trust my heart ..... only make wrong choises ......
and after you reach a certain age - it's more than hard and difficult to ask for more than a company or friendship.... LOVE .... well ....
When I finally had the chance - after some very difficult times .... I still had the hope .... But after 6 years I realize ...... well..... only maybe .... and this maybe is very, very little.....
So my advice can only be: Find love while you have an age .... when it is possible ...... to make it for reall...... Be kind to yourself ...... treat your partener good ..... goes bouth ways ....
Give room for each other ..... also "alone time" ther must be room for...... Trust ..... respect .... and understand each other ..... Respect for the ones you are .... for who you are.... and of course be willing to make the compromises needed ....... But don't turn your relationship into a compleete compromise ..... Cos then you make the beginning for sad times to come ......
Just some small thoughts ..... here ... a lot of people really dislike what I say - because they have a strong belief - that "Youth" will last - wich it doesn't .....
and the fun part is finally over ......
Welela....I have found someone & from CS....& so far he's a keeper. We're doing good so far & things are going well. We are moving in together very soon. I'm alittle nervous tho...I haven't lived with a guy before, so its new to me. But I'm alittle excited as well.
Cowhand....interesting comment.
Thank you for it.
Venus envy.....yes recognition is always the first step. Its kinda hard to move forward if you fail to acknowledge what's holding you back. Thanks!