MISC & FIMD....
MISCOMMUNICATIONFOOT IN MOUTH DISEASE
HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU BEFORE…
WHETHER YOURSELF OR WITH ANOTHER…
You say something you didn't mean & the other person totally misinterpreted what you said/text. You apologize & they tell you to f*** off....& don't want to talk/see you again.
Or little things they do bother you & you say nothing....little by little it buulds up & you keep saying nothing until one day when of corse you're having a bad & day & they upset you....you blow up the pented up frustration.
Yes we should speak up at the time.
Yes we shouldn't hold it in.
Yes no one is a mind reader.
No longer hold it in...let it out now
What would make you not speak to someone again? What would they have to do/say for that to happen? What if one day you talked it out & realized it was over something so silly or stupid?
Would you feel guilty for what you said? Would you like to get it off your chest? Would you wait for them to call to apologize? Would you accept their apology? Do you regret saying something or nothing?
YES IT HAPPENS TO US ALL
ITS OUR CHOICE IN WHAT.....
** WE DO OR DON'T DO
** WE SAY OR DON'T SAY
Speak up or forever hold your peace. Holding it in just prolongs the inner turmoil. It leaves unexpressed feelings & regrets. Do yourself a favor...let it out & don't hold it in. But it also doesn't mean hurting someone by expressing yourself.
Chances are they may be experiencing the same thing. You said something & don't know how to approach it. They don't want to say something in fear of hurting your feelings.
CAN WE HANDLE THE WHOLE TRUTH
AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH…?
OR ARE WE AFRAID OF THE TRUTH…?
Comments (32)
Mostly I didn't regret about what I had have to said and I am not afraid of the truth, truth can makes pain just once...
I want the whole tooth now!
I always speak my mind; I'm all for being direct, even if I say something the other person doesn't like. I do not walk around intentionally hurting people though.
I've been talking to this guy here for over a month, on a daily basis. We shared a lot and even made plans to meet up in our holidays. Last Saturday still was all fun and laughs, but then he simply stopped talking to me... not a single message. He's been online and in the forums and read my last message, asking if he was allright. Nothing.
I would have preferred at least one line telling me he wasn't interested anymore; the not knowing and jumping to all sorts of conclusions, hurt more than the truth.
Ah well, guess the truth is affraid of me in this case
Yes I discovered that button
How do you clap
I've had happen to me also. I met a guy last year from cs & did the same thing. I asked him a simple question & he got mad. I haven't heard from him since. Not even a text a message or anything. Not knolwing hurts more than knowing.
I guess he didn't like what I said. I refuse to apologize for how I'm feeling. And I hate walking on egg shells when it comes to expressing myself. I shouldn't feel ucomfortable expressing myself....or anyone else.
Or the whole mouth
Don't know why I thought it would be different this time... probably because he's a frequent poster here. I know we never have guarantees in live or online; I just believe nobody should be treated as disposable goods. The truth would have been better, but I'll probably never know.
It's not the end of the world, just an unexpected little pain for a bit - Anybody with a band aid around?
It happened to me before and sometimes there were signs, but not this time... we were flirting and laughing and then the incredible big silence... I just sent him a last message; probably put my foot in it, but just a little
I do agree with you that speaking up is always best; you do stay true to yourself that way and in the end people will love you for that.
I was wondering though what happened with this sudden communication cut-off as I experienced the same with my ex-fiance
for you zweet, hope you're feeling better day by day
I'll invent my own bandaid and do some major shoe shopping or so
I wish I could help you with the band-aid
Thanks! I'll be fine, but Belgian chocolate is number 2 on the list... hmmm, shoes and chocolate
I'm going away for the weekend with my brother, sister, niece and their families, so I'll be too busy crying over nothing - I'll take chocolates to share
No I just have to find the other guy... who considers me a gain
Better for it to happen now than after I'd spent my money on plane tickets.
Good for you; retail therapy does the trick all the time and it's great you look great in your new dress!
Who knows with that sudden cut off
I hope you're dealing ok with it
And its his loss & another guys gain
It hurts with no explanation
Yes I'm slowly feeling better
I'm ready to take on what comes my way & it means that there's one less guy to deal with.
Sorry zweet, been craving for it
Sleepin bird...now find the shoes to go with it & an excuse to wear it
Sleepin....have a good wknd with your family!
Lachia.....
Zweet, same goes for you; these chocolates taste even better when they're shared
Thanks ladies and good night to you Zweet; sweet dreams
Foot in mouth!
Well I useto be like that
years ago.
I leaned well with putting
my brain into gear first
nowadays!
Mind the odd thing still
gets out and I just laugh.
People want to hear what
they want to hear. This is
just human nature for you.
Never regret, if you did
ever say something and it
was taken to heart apologise
and laugh. If it is then still
taken hard. Forget it.
Life is too short.
I had a good sleep last night
Sleepin.....yes chocolates are best when shared...that's if I don't eat them first I've been eating too much lately lol
That is true sometimes that some want to hear what they want to hear. And if they don't like it they take it personally. But also they sometimes get upset if you don't tell them in the first place.
No we're not always gonna like what is said to us....that's life. Its our choice how we respond & act accordingly. Words can hurt. But unexpressed feelings hurt more.
So whether we do or we don't someone will either appreciate or compain. There's not much we can do in how another person reacts. We should be glad when someone has the guts to speak up....even ourselves.
Thank you!
At the end of the day I'm who I am,I would rather speak the truth even if it means being disliked for it. I couldn't handle just beating round the bush. My friend has said to me on occasions that I care for her enough to speak the truth or give advice even if it hurts,because then at the end of the day then I know I've done some good and done what needed to be said. And if this helps for my friends to improve their situation,then I'm even more pleased to know that they are happy! Only for them,not because of my ego or that I need to be right.
Your wise words indeed,I enjoy.:)