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I have been asked by someone, "If you are to get married, where you want to have a home?" Thinking that my husband will be coming from very far from I came from, I said wherever he wants as to settle (his place maybe) provided I will get to familiarize the new place first and the people of whom I will be associating in the future. And if that would not be possible, then maybe the two of us could select a suitable place, new environment to the both of us, provided again that we can survived and raised a a decent family. Is it possible?What's your idea of home? Would you want to be living in the same area you are used to (where you grow up)? Or are you open to new challenges in a new environment?
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Market, hi. I have not been married yet, sure it would be a challenge for me to live away from where I used to before. Keeping in mind, I made it to Manila which is very far from the picture I had when I was growing up and made it also possible here in SA. Just maybe a need for a bit of adjustment.
'Though I prefer to have a home and settle as close to what I want, which is in the country (like country life, simple things), but also practicality plays a role.
I love and value family that also. Love them around but I know sooner or later I will have my own. If I will be living far away from them esp my parents, I will be constantly visiting them if circumstances favor.
Shay
What you shared is happiness and beauty in simplicity. I think the idea of home/happiness varies on each person. And your friend find home that time and he has find happiness too.
Important is to be in a place where you can have a job and him too and no worrys of the day of tomorrow. Like that both will be happy and less stress.
As I have cited "provided we can survived and raised a decent family". If it is not possible then we should re-evaluate our decisions. And stick to what should be the best one, that both of you and your partner would agree and you will be happy about.
I think if you feel you are sacrificing a lot in order to be with someone, its unlikely to work out in the long run. The first sign of anything going wrong and those sacrifices will come back to haunt you.
Personally I am unable and in fact unwilling to move anywhere for love. I have been here as an expat for 18 years now and consider this to be my home. I have a job I cannot do anywhere else in the world (my age means no other provider of atc would re-train me) so I am here at least until I retire.
You are such a special person though, I am sure you will find long term happiness wherever you go. I know you won't do anything unless you are 100% committed, so wherever you end up, I wish you every success
Out of the topic but I will just share a bit. My siblings and I have an agreement (not literally) and we talked about who to live near to my parents and look after them when they grow old. One of my sister said she will and her family with her. Hopefully it would be a possibility and would not change, too early to tell. Just an idea of am I doing my part now, they will giving theirs also in that way.
Yeah, the money to all the necessities need for a family should be taken consideration. I do believe that careful and thorough thinking should be done before making a big decision. Weigh things a thousand times (we say in Filipino) before jumping into a major decision that could improve or ruin two lives.
Great points by you D and also talking from your own experience. I commend you for being honest as always.
That's you're choice and I hope you are happy with the choices you have made. I know you are.
Thank you for the well wishes D.
Market, thanks.
And i 2 wish u the best Shay you are a beautiful, clever women and the man you want to be with, will be pretty dam special because you picked him
And you will choose together where you both wish to live ?
If you sacrifice being far away from your family to settle a new home, make sure its worthed.
Every decision re. To marriages are tough ones I guess.
If I decide to settle down, I will be making the decision with the partner and I will make sure also that we both are happy and satisfied with the decisions we will make.
You do take care Bon and be safe always.
Indeed not just an easy decision. A lot of things/ circumstances to consider. And that would involves a lot of good judgment and strong love.
Somebody will come to you ready to compromise and let you stay/visit your place as often as you want and he will be happy to see you happy also.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. Glad you feel genuinely happy with your decisions before and that made you have the life that you enjoy now.
How is your vacation with your family doing? Hope you are having a terrific time with your love ones.
I too lived in a small town where everybody knows each other and the only time those others will get notice you is when you did something wrong. But as it is, I still consider it nice and home.
Your wishes for me Ed, make me more excited about the future. Really imagining those little feet running and those little arms that would give me warm hugs. Thank you very much Ed.
God bless you. Keep well.