Loss of a friend

I recently read a blog about a lady who lost her best friend due to cancer and I was so touched by her blog as well as all the lovely comments she received. I cannot imagine how she feels as I have not yet been in that position but I do dread the day my best friend passes. I have known my friend now for 24years and we have a very strong bond between us. I remember way back when we were younger, we would go to town at the end of each month and buy the same pair of jeans and tops and we would go ice skating. And to this day, even though I have moved 3hrs drive further away, we still visit regularly and chat often over the phone. My friend was diagnosed with MS which is a very painful condition and to make it worse, her medication has a depressive after effect and at times she does not handle the situation very well. Sometimes I just wish it was me instead of her with all that pain. It just kills me seeing her suffer the way she does. Very recently she lost her job and a month thereafter her husband walked out. She has 2 teenage daughters who don't understand what she really goes through emotionally and she has tried committing suicide. I told her to pack up and come and live with me here in the country where she can breathe fresh air and do some soul searching. I do not know how I will handle losing my best friend ....
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I am so sorry for your friend. MS is a bad disease to get and it is common for people who has this that the family do not understand what she is going true. I am so sorry to hear her husband walked out on her, but that tells me more about him then her. When it comes to her children who can not understand her pain and her suffering, I do see why they cannot see her problems. They are young, and have no clue about how this disease work in a human. I feel sorry for you friend, and you. Try to spend as much time with her as possible, tell her you love her and just be a friend. I can even understand her trying to end her life, but that's not the way doing this. Just be a friend, and remember, life has to end for every one of us, but the ones that means a lot to us will always stay in our heart. I know, I've lost some friends.teddybear bouquet heart wings
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Thanks Welela,

I allways try and keep her spirit up every time I am there or on the phone. Its hard but rewarding enough for me just to see her smile.
@ Kariena - Is your friend aware of this treatment?????



If not, maybe you could point her in this direction, Girl... professor
I believe she is Hans.

Her doctor often attends seminars in the States and asked her to attend one with him. We also wants her to talk to other patients suffering from the same condition. Amazingly, she is still able to walk as we thought that she would be in a wheelchair by now.
Kariena!

It is tough being sick. When I had cancer (stage 3) the chemotherapy alone was enough to make me feel like doing nothing let alone the disease.

My son would chastise me for not cleaning the apartment more and my neighbor would see sitting on my couch just watching TV and dog tired after 10 - 12 hours of sleep and insisting that the "cure" would be to get out and exercise.

Simply put, they didn't understand so I know what your friend is going through. Being beat up for being sick is devastating. I was already 65 when all this happened so I was a little more patient. I knew these people did not know what they were saying to me and I can tell you right now that her family does not know what they are doing.

Keep supporting and hugging your friend and tell her your there for her. She needs to know that!
Sorry to hear that kariena. MS can go very differently for people, I know people who have very little limitations and one case where a friend of my brother's health is deteriorating very fast and I don't know if I will see her again next year. Thankfully her family supports her and is there 24/7.

It is great for you to offer her to move in with you, I hope you are aware of what will be involved if you choose to care for her when the illness really takes its toll.

Best of luck to you both. bouquet
Thanks KNenagh,

I do appreciate your comment. I do know whats install for me taking care of Tertia and I do not mind. As I have said before, I know her 24 years and believe me, I know her even better than her own family. Luckily I work for a doctor who will prescribe some "chill pills" should I need them lol. wink
I wish you both best of luck kariena and really hope that your friend has a more mild form of MS. It is devastating to watch if it is not. bouquet
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