Comment faire?
With Chinese New Year approaching, I will go home next Friday. On one hand, I miss my parents very much and I am eager to go home; on the other hand, I am upset that I don't have a good idea how to solve my problem--- immigrate to Canada.At the very begining, I think I can learn French well and then I will immigrate to Quebec. However, I finally realize that it takes so so long in waiting for the reply from immigration bereau. I don't have much time to wait, cause my parents /the traditions tell me that I should find someone to marry at my age.Otherwise, I will be left and don't have much opportunity to find a good one.
And then, I consult one of my net-friends who immigrated to Canada some years ago. His method is : go to Canada as an international student for two years, after gradutaion, find a job and work for at least one year, at last , applicate for immigration , it does work. I'd like to study abroad for two years, however, the tuition fee is too high for me and I can't afford it at the present. Without my parents' support, my dream can't come true.
For my parents, they do not want me to leave for Canada. They are getting old and they wish me be a girl that all the ordinary girls do: marry with someone, give a bith to a little chid, and then live a peaceful life and can come to visit them sometimes.
Am I too selfish that I want to immigrate to another country?
I don't know. All I know is that the life that I can expext is not what I wish to live.
Comment faire?
Comments (9)
you are a grown up person and catch your own fish.
what i admire most about west is their kids start earning and support themselves ( instead of opening their palms before their parents ) at college or even before that.
do NOT dream beyond your capability. NEVER. right now you are having a herd psyche.
and if your parents did not do that "ordinary task" then you would never have the chance to nag about them before us.
LEARN TO RESPECT YOUR PARENTS FIRST AND APPRECIATE THEIR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR YOU.
you do have the freedom to go to another country by your own means. perhaps you are too free to be judgemental and / or opinionated about marriage and having a baby.
BUT YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT to look down upon them ( millions and billions and trillions of people ) who do such ORDINARY TASKS.
allow me to give some advices from a view of an older sister and parent. from parent's view, they know their girl have been grown up, but still their are too worried to know you will leave so far away alone or later with your future husband at a foreign country which separated thousand miles away from your home town.
possibility to meet you are less and harder than if you are stay in your country, they are many worry things running on their mind, 'coz they are too love you.
from a view of an older sister,
-you can take a foreign languages course at academy or even a university on your country as many as you like.'coz it has a benefit for your own future. i support you in this matter.
do not force yourself on financial issue that you are surely know you are unable to effort it.
-you can try to work at foreign company on your country, gain many experiences and knowledge. by doing this you still can stay around your parent, take care and give your whole love to them.
on top of it, try to convince your parents, a right man in a right time will come to you someday. love and marriage could not be forced and got in a short and rush time.
tell them, you are still young and still have a long way and dream to go...
Good luck, my sister, try to pursue your dream in a right and properly way...
There are work programs in different countries, you could get into one of the programs and hope the company keeps you when this is over.
Below is an example for an Irish graduate program, it is hard to get into it, but maybe other countries do something similar?
Think outside the box, talk to someone who could you some ideas to get somewhere you want to in a roundabout way. Best of luck.
Well said! There is wisdom in your words!
Stay true to yourself, your thoughts, your desires and one day you will sing this to your husband.
I am sad to say that I realize what your parents feel. But marriage is a special thing that only you can determine the right time.
I will pray for answer for you!
if you dont have intuition fees and or even a place to study from.
then your have to learn some quick skill you can somehow turn into cash.
maybe a hobbie or somethiing your good at already.
maybe bye cheap shirts, dye them in an assortment of colours and patterns or something and start selling them.
can give you lots of ideas.
learn to face paint for kids, learn Gimp, design logos. sell on fivver.com
do a short course on pattern cutting/design, them buy fabric, dye chinese colors and patterns or something.
if your creative, design own tatoos, do a few on yourself, show people what you can do, and maybe get some orders.
Learn massage, do a chinese body massage.
Learn to draw, paint, use Gimp graphics to do incredible own designs in like 2 minutes, then copy paint them onto boards, sell them.
Learn to write, be a freelancer content writer for websites.
Im sure you learnt how to write essays, magazines etc at school.
the list goes on for skills that can be learnt, for one that cannot afford college or whatever, and can become self supportive mabye.