The end of friendship with the lady

I am patient when I deal with female friends. So the same girl who likes me to pay the bill. she loves to tell me she knows lots of big people. As it is not easy to find a good female friends, I will pay small food bills when we are together. Several days before, she mysteriously told me that there would be an important Energy show in Abu Dhabi.And some elites will turn up there. After my maintainance company fixed my water pipe, I don't have much to do. So I went to the show with her everyday in her Benz car. Well, she said, look , how many elite people turn up in the show.

I haven't told her, I had always been the one who was in charge of our company shows in Beijing, and my name was always printed on the show index book for several years. Shows to me is just nothing much!Not to mention, after our company show, we would have business dinner almost every night. It was very exhausting. I have to work long hours, as I need meet with clients who will talk about orders. Sometimes, I was so tired that I don't want to eat the expensive food at all.

She would eat the food in the show, which I would always prepare for breakfast for us both, which means I need go to supermarket and buying all these food. I usually would buy Tuna fish sandwich, or sashimi sandwiches and 2 bottles of milk. one day before the show, even i bought all these breakfast, she insisted on buying some vegetable and fried rice for her as an extra. I did. And the next day, which was the 3rd day show, I lost interest in the show, but she need me to tell her the road to drive to the show, in fact,everyday I need tell her the road to the show. Because she recently relocated to Abu Dhabi. I have been in the city since 2011 on and off.

when the 3rd day show finished, which was the end, we drove back from the show. She said," today how about we have some chinese food in a restaurant or we can go to the pizzahut?" She asked me so many times,so I said, I have been in charge of our company's show for several years,and this show is just the same. Well, I have waited for you today so long time doing nothing, I am tired of going out. If you want to go to any restaurant, please drop me at Al Wahda mall.

But her real intention is to ask me to pay this bigger food bill. Since that day, no phone call from her cos I refused to pay her food bill.
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its whats happens... some time , we let ourselves be taken for a ride till we can no longer take it any more ....but don't feel bad about it ....she has to learn to pay her own food bill ....and you have spoil-t her to much ....wave
To this kind of people,who is keen to have some people to pay their bill. they try to get all the free meal.

If she goes to a super market and buy the material, it will never cost as much. I now realize, she only has that Benz car to show off, and she could not afford the food even. As she need food anyway, so it is important for the friends to pay all the bill in the restaurants.

Since I am not useful, so she need look for someone else. I don't want this kind of friends also.
peony!

Good for you! You need a better friend because she's not the one!!
yes you will have to find some one who has plenty of money ...or next time ...say you haven't got any ...wave
Last time, when I wrote about her, some people already reminded me here. I am very grateful to all that!

I don't like to give up friendship if I see a some bad points of a person.But once I find out the major part,then it is time for me to walk away from this kind of mean people.

I always like work hard in life,do not spend on the things you can't afford.
I think you attitude is perfectly fine for who you are ...and I'm happy to know just a little bit about you ....its taken all your life to get to where you are now , and I thank your parents for helping you get there ...and I think you are a good women ...wave wave
The reason why I put up with friends a bit longer is that now I am abroad. And there is not a stable social circle. And people come and go to UAE. So that, it is like you live in a desert, when it rains, even several raindrop will be thought as a rain.

I tends to observe a person as a friend longer even I see the bad part of the person.

Obviously some people are not friend's material.

Never mind, we will keep on with our own life.
got to have something to do with your free time ....if you can ....I'm sure you will come around and have her back again ....when you have given it some time to heal yourself first ...wave
I don't need heal for a friendship with a lady who is only expecting me to pay her bill. I want friends,but I don't like people who take advantage of me. I am more patient than most people, and I give her time to know I have limit.

As a woman or a human being, I always know I need make my own fishing net, and catch fish myself. And I am expecting my friends the same way. I allow my friends getting little things from me,but I dont' like to be the only one who pays bill for our friendship. I don't like to take advantage of other people,and vice verca

I will keeping on looking for friends,man or woman.

I think you learn from your experiences in life.
I don't need heal for a friendship with a lady who is only expecting me to pay her bill. I want friends,but I don't like people who take advantage of me. I am more patient than most people, and I give her time to know I have limit.

As a woman or a human being, I always know I need make my own fishing net, and catch fish myself. And I am expecting my friends the same way. I allow my friends getting little things from me,but I dont' like to be the only one who pays bill for our friendship. I don't like to take advantage of other people,and vice verca

I will keeping on looking for friends,man or woman.

I think you learn from your experiences in life.
I don't need heal for a friendship with a lady who is only expecting me to pay her bill. I want friends,but I don't like people who take advantage of me. I am more patient than most people, and I give her time to know I have limit.

As a woman or a human being, I always know I need make my own fishing net, and catch fish myself. And I am expecting my friends the same way. I allow my friends getting little things from me,but I dont' like to be the only one who pays bill for our friendship. I don't like to take advantage of other people,and vice verca

I will keeping on looking for friends,man or woman.

I think you learn from your experiences in life.
I don't need heal for a friendship with a lady who is only expecting me to pay her bill. I want friends,but I don't like people who take advantage of me. I am more patient than most people, and I give her time to know I have limit.

As a woman or a human being, I always know I need make my own fishing net, and catch fish myself. And I am expecting my friends the same way. I allow my friends getting little things from me,but I dont' like to be the only one who pays bill for our friendship. I don't like to take advantage of other people,and vice verca

I will keeping on looking for friends,man or woman.

I think you learn from your experiences in life.
I have a bad connection in UAE, so that I thought I could not upload my thread. Then 4 got uploaded.

We have a saying: once you take a long journey, you find out which horse is a better; once you give longer time, you know whether the person is a good person.

I also value friends. Besides life partner, friends are also a part of your life.

Let's open our eyes, and find good friends as well as life partners.
I have a bad connection in UAE, so that I thought I could not upload my thread. Then 4 got uploaded.

We have a saying: once you take a long journey, you find out which horse is a better; once you give longer time, you know whether the person is a good person.

I also value friends. Besides life partner, friends are also a part of your life.

Let's open our eyes, and find good friends as well as life partners.
When you are with people like that its best to just throw the money on the table for your portion of the bill , and tell her thats for what you had .
She will need to pay her share.
Simple.
I know it might be' in your culture to pay for someone as a gesture of friendship in the beginning . So being taken advantage of can occur easily like this. But you need to be' aware of tricks some people will play.
Then adjust accordingly.
She will move quickly on to a other person to use , leaving . You Free to Find real friends .
peony
I agree with nice...if she had any value as a friend she would not take advantage of you...if she doesn't call, your free from her and then you can now enjoy true friendships!wine
Thank you for the nice advice here. In chinese culture, it is difficult to say no. I am already fairly frank type. I told her I can't pay her bill right after several small bills with her.

Anyway for this kind of friends,I don't regret that we break up our friendship! I am happy to pay my own share.

I am sorry that I can't use my daughter's school fee to pay this female friend's pizzahut!
gosh is her bill that big .....oh well she can sell her car to pay that one.....wave
No, no, the bill is just daily restaurant bill, not as big as a school fee. but if I meet her frequently,then it all adds up. Not to mention why I should pay for her bill. Why she can't buy material and cook herself?

I always manage my own finance fairly well. I don't eat outside so often. She would eat outside everyday!

I will only eat outside when I can't cook.
No, no, the bill is just daily restaurant bill, not as big as a school fee. but if I meet her frequently,then it all adds up. Not to mention why I should pay for her bill. Why she can't buy material and cook herself?

I always manage my own finance fairly well. I don't eat outside so often. She would eat outside everyday!

I will only eat outside when I can't cook.
yes I cook everything I eat , its the only way to live , except for cheese ....wave
I mainly will cook myself. And I know it is a good habit to have some savings. It is difficult if you don't have savings, counting on everyday to have friends to pay your food bill.

Some people don't have a sense of planning their secured finance. If you always eat in restaurant, how can you have enough savings?
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