Dating Hermits.. a rant!

Time and time again I read statements from women on profiles, blogs and forums that state “Not looking for a fling or casual sex”, not only is this declaration a complete turn off for any would be prospective suitor but it pretty much indicates the woman is, has been or wants to be a dating hermit.

In a recent post the blogger did elaborate in words what most women think by saying “I prefer to wait for years and have it with someone very special to me”, and this is the core problem of most dating hermits, if you dont participate how are you ever going to find someone special?

So.... To those women that have this attitude I say to you... “Stop pissing about wasting your time on dating sites”. Either get your shit together and make an effort or crawl back into your comfort zone and grow old peacefully.... AND SINGLE.
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You're bothered? Why? Your profile states you're in a relationship....confused
I am in a relationship because I made the effort to pursue a relationship. Yay!.... dating sites work dancing
Congratulations....I could do a rant myself about people on here in relationship....why they need to be?....but I won't, because I have learnt that this site is lending itself more to being a social site for all. wine
Oh!... dont let my situation hold you back... express yourself.

But...

Before you put your foot in your mouth ask yourself this question... "Does this person have a reason for being on a dating site whilst being in a relationship".
Oh I have to follow this blog, Its gonna get interestingwink
@OgGoDeo & Ekself

If you look at every contact from a biased and negative point of view how do you expect to get a positive reaction?

If you want to find a gem, you need to dig through a lot of rubble.
@kariena
You can of course add your tuppenceworth.

@Kn
Your last paragraph was well said... thank you.

BTW Would you happen to know any pubs where women do that, I have a friend in Ireland who's kind of desperate. (just kidding!)
Nicely said Halv0thumbs up
OgGoDeo
In answer to your question... Of course my knows.
@Niayana
Blogging about bedroom topics are flavor of the month.
But Solly, you do it every monthdoh
@ Sola

...you obviously do feel a need to be here, but it's not me that should be questioning why? It's you.
@OgGoDeo

Actually my GF was a dating hermit and onsite for other reasons than finding a relationship....

You have a sharp tongue BTW!
@Niayana

Well, whats a month or two between friends
@Berry

I am here because I use CS as a way of communicating with my girlfriend.
@Kn

I applaud your attitude and hope other readers of this blog take note of the comments you have made.
True Sola but then you can't use 'fling' and 'casual' in the same sentence. Love and affection has an emotional attachment which is absent in casual. An emotionally detached relationship may not be acceptable for some...
@ Sola

I'm not realistically looking to date or meet anyone from this site. I am here merely for distraction/entertainment and I say that in my profile. If I were to date, it would be with someone from my own country, but I'm not interested in romance right now, for my own reasons.

I take it you are not here to date either, being in a relationship....but perhaps you are looking for opportunities? Yes/no?
@op....men are their own minefield.....why blame the innocent girls..................rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Dating hermits? Ouch, ouch and more ouch...grin
Sola...u have Skype, whatsapp, a multitude of apps you csn chat to your gf..don't need this site.

I have had a gf for 6 months..still came on here for a laugh
Sola...u have Skype, whatsapp, a multitude of apps you csn chat to your gf..don't need this site.

I have had a gf for 6 months..still came on here for a laugh
You can use Skype to chat with your gf rather than here
When I first married and went to the priest with my wife to be, the priest stated and when you get into an argument take off all your clothes. I now pass these great words on to you my fellow bloggers...have a great day......laugh
Ken..if you are referring to me..my gf lived a50 min flight away..we saw each other every weekend
Ian, no. Go read above. the quote is up there.
I know, right? That is where I stumbled...

Mind you I do not have anything but 'pen pals' here on CS, but still there are a few that I use CS with, I use personal emails with, I use Facebook with, one or two we even also talk on the phone. All that. So to have a GF, but only CS as a contact means, that is like super duper weird.
@tit....I agree
thumbs up Titania..
sol
I do not care about what people think...I just do what I feel is right...this site for me is to exchange thoughts and e-mails are good if you don't want to comment or blog about it...wine
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