Parents and kids
As usual, I normally have lunch at a restaurant near the office where I'm working.Yesterday, during awaiting for foods, I heard a BIG noise "BANG" from a small westerner kid, perhaps around 3 years old. The kid made a chair fell down on him and cried out loud for that. The father sat next to the kid, looked at the kid and acted as if there was nothing happened! The kid was crying during trying hard to move out of the chair!
I looked at the kid and almost came to help the kid getting out of the chair to ask if he is OK, but then I saw his father sat next there made me hesitate....
By that time, I was there with my boss and one of my colleague from France. My boss said when he was a kid, every time he did like that his father slapped hard on his face (2 times, BAM! BAM!) and said "now you know why you cry!" And then the French's colleague confirmed about that!! He said his father did the same thing to him when he was a kid!!
I was a bit SHOCKED for this way of reaction! When I was a kid, if I did something like that my father or mother could run fast to me to help me get out of the chair, in the same time they could hug me tight while asking if I'm fine or if I hurt somewhere?
I don't know if the way of acting from my parents as such making me quite emotional when I grew up?
I wonder, how many people here would acting as the westerner above and how many people would acting as my parents?
Just a curious question.
Goodnight!
Comments (8)
I'm a cry baby too...very soft hearted.
I'm raising my son to be a soft and tender man. Whenever he falls down and gets hurt, I feel like crying...I always kiss his bruises and pain away to make him feel better. I love to hug and cuddle him, he still ride on my back from time to time...he's 10 years old almost as tall as me.
Whenever he has trouble with his playmates, I always tell him to avoid trouble and being physical with them but if one hits him, he has to hit him twice and teach him a lesson about respect...
I wouldn't do it that way. I would go over and pick my child up and see if he was okay. As far as our colleagues methods? I wouldn't do it that way either.
For decades everyone was pointing at the books and lectures by Doctor Benjamin Spock. His 1946 book "Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care" was a best seller, second in the West only to the Bible for years. Everyone from parents to legislators quoted it and based actions and even some laws on it.
In the 1990s after decades of damaging families and society across the Western world he gave a television interview in which he admitted, "I made it all up." The studies he quoted were fictitious and either never existed or were so obscure he felt safe in twisting the results in his book. He stated his goal was to sell a book and make some money. So he wrote what sounded and felt good. He admitted he had no idea it would become a best seller but once the train had left the station, he had no choice but to continue to ride it. He said he made a lot of money off the things he wrote but the time had come to clear the air. Dr. Spock died in 1998. Many who missed the television interview still quote him and follow his instructions believing they are doing good parenting.
But in the words of a current Presidential Candidate, 'what difference does it make?'
You're comparing a fighter with a high power to weight ratio to a transport built to efficiently(!) carry cargo & people.
Equipping it with engines powerful enough to go that fast @ sea level would defeat one of the designers' primary objectives...efficiency.
Even a Spitfire couldn't do close to 500 mph...even at altitude, let alone sea level!
Pilots debated whether a plane of that type could even be effectively controlled enough to hit those buildings at those (impossible) speeds.
Closest thing available...some of 'em tried it in a simulator. One did it but it took him a lot of tries.
And you're trying to tell me an impossible feat NEVER attempted - let alone ACCOMPLISHED - in the real world was done with a guy at the controls who barely knew how to fly a basic trainer... TWICE!!!
(Pilots for 9/11 truth.)
Children need to learn consequence for actions, including pain for things they do that they have been warned might cause such things to them.
If my child was not repeatedly doing such things, and then this happened, of course I would help my child, comfort my child, etc.
It really depends on the situation, the circumstances, and the like as to how I would respond.
It would depend if it was a self-imposed consequence, or an accident.
JMO.
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