Young Asian Women with Older White Men...
There are many advantages for both young Asian woman and an older White man in an interracial relationship.Is it really worth it?
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I completely agree with you there. If a cute little Asian ever wants to become serious with me, that thought will be the first thing on my mind (unfortunately....again).
again...it's what they can gain from marrying their daughter off to an old man who can put food on their table...
2 friends of mine married Americans and went America...the men were almost 20years older than them...
my friends were happy and excited to go to American but was reluctant to marry the man...they said they don't satisfy them in bedroom...but they said it's ok,,,they will go to America ...the men came here many times before they got married...send the girls money every month and the girls kept telling the men how much they love them...but when we sit together they complain how lacking they are in the bedroom...but money is ok so that made it up...
Now, they are in America...they expected paradise...but it's not so.
They live with their husbands now, clean the house and wait for him to tell them what to do next...they say they find it hard and very lonely there...not what they expected and wanted to come back here...not really worth it
Asian or African
as long as people are happy let them do what there doing
who are we to judge any one
and any ways age is only a number
as long as they enjoy each other that's what matters
What just curious what is the different age between the old white man and the young Asian girl?
15? 20? 25? 30? 35?
Yes...agree with you on that...as long as nobody gets hurt or used...
Nice to see you back.
Hope all is well with you.
Stereotypes do exist but some relationships are not exclusively about money...but in saying that...having a bit of money doesn't hurt...it isn't the only factor...certainly enjoying each others' companionship and having similar interests is key...
The hurdle in these relationships is the different culture or values they may have...but it maybe worth it...IMO...
As your in one yourself, why don't you answer the good and bad for yourself.
She comes to you expect secure relationship and does she know who you really are?
What are you going to do if one day she ask you to marry her? Like your ex ? They are same Philippines.
Good to see you back
This blog is simply for those as it says....very young Asians with old white men...a relationship that is criticize by many but one that I'm not against about.
I rarely hear a story about old Asian men with young African woman, nor young white women with old Arab men...
This is not to stereotype but rather to know more about others' opinion and feelings in being in this kind of relationship.
Again, this blog doesn't focus on the age gap but those motives behind...those who are not in it for love, respect and companionship.
So many young women out there see an old white man as a meal ticket...many old men prey on very young women...this is reality, it's happening, in real life and here on CS.
This blog should shed some light to those who think all very young Asian women are naive and innocent and those who think that all old men are kind and understanding...
I'm happy to see a happy couple in a loving relationship regardless of age, color, culture, religion, etc....
NO, not all relationships are about money...I will love and stick with my man even if he's penniless.
I'm not against young/old relationship but I'm looking at those who are in it for whatever selfish reasons.
There are many kinds of relationships, the particular one that I'm talking about is a very controversial one that's why I'm asking for those who in this relationship to say what they feel about it...cos I know many members here who have a big age gap as well...
Thanks, nice points there...but like I said this blog focus on this very controversial relationships. People tend to judge old men and young women in this relationships, find it hard to believe that they could be a happy couple...and at the same time, the reality that most of this relationship fail due to reasons mentioned previously.
If we are to look deeper into this, we might come up with a conclusion whether this kind of relationship is really something that's worth pursuing or not...given of course that there are other options such as healthier and more compatible relationship with someone from the same culture and closer age
I might sound very callous or even ruthless in what I'm about to say next.
I love my kids but not until I'll sacrifice my own happiness for them....forever.
I'd do my part as a mom, out of love or obligation but once they are able to fend for themselves, I'd gladly step aside and let them take charge of their lives. I've cut the apron strings long long time ago and in no way I'm overly attached to them. In fact, I can't wait to have them leaving the nest and carve something out for themselves and see the world....
Family and relatives? Would I leave them for my man? Oh yes! In a heartbeat. I don't see any difficulty in doing that.
Culture? Hmmm.....I'm like an adaptor, easily adaptable and I can embrace other culture in no time while retaining my old one.
I really hope to be able to remain in my own country without the need to relocate for a man but if it's inevitable, then I guess I just have to make adjustments.
BTW, my kids are part Asian, I have relatives and in laws married to people of other races/nationalities--we are a very mixed family. Even my brothers' close friend is married to a much younger Filipino woman and they have 2 beautiful children. My sister is married to a much older man, and I have always preferred younger men. We are all unique. But does anyone want to be scrutinized? Yes, it's true we must be honest and genuine with who we choose to be with. And we must use our common sense. Beyond that, it's our own business who we spend our lives with, as long as we're not hurting anyone else. Some young women LOVE older men. Some younger men LOVE older women. Some dark skinned people love pale skin and vise versa....so what?
I think he's for keeps. Strong chemistry on both sides.
He has gone through a lot in life but not an ounce of bitterness in him, that's what I like about him
Yet, there's still a lot more we need to discover each other, I jokingly told him, "It's just like being in the Discovery Channel!"
Oh btw, Viv, I don't do gentle
Thank you so much for answering my question.
I deeply respect that answer...nothing I can say against that
"Yes, it's true we must be honest and genuine with who we choose to be with. And we must use our common sense."
Yes, totally agree with this. I apply this to myself...so at the end I don't point fingers nor blame other's if things don't work out for me.
I've had enough of some people here generalizing Asians as gold diggers and only want residency. Like I said, there are exceptions...there's good and bad in every race and culture but if we are aware of what we are getting into and use our common sense, perhaps we could avoid getting ourselves in such a bad situation and label others as bad and who must be avoided at any cost.
For the record, I was married to an Arab for 10+ years...many Asians here said I'm quiet lucky...they didn't actually mean it that I was lucky in my man and my lovely son but I was lucky to have a good life and the residency before the divorce happened.
Now I'm in relationship with a white man...much older than me and my friends here said the we're some kind of " father and daughter" when they saw our pictures together. Some even asked me, how much money he sends to support me ( wth?!I'm working and can fend for myself!), Some said that I'm lucky to be able to go to his country one day...( excuse me? it's too cold and wet there and I've no interest to move there and spend my old age in such a cold place!)
Bottomline, I love my "older white man". Sometimes I wonder what is it that he sees in me...we have very little in common but we are very happy when we're together...
"mindset" ...yes. thank you for adding that...that's another big issue, a wide gap in mental and emotional maturity can cause a lot of arguments and misunderstandings that could cause the relationship to wither in such a breakneck pace...
Yes, maturity matters a lot...same mental and emotional wavelength could only strengthen a relationship...
But age is not purely the sole indicator of maturity. There are young women who are very matured for her age, there are older women who are very immature for their age...same goes for men...
and here I believe experiences in life could also indicate how mature a person can be...
can you please delete the photos of the 2 examples posted by Kalpataru? I found it annoying to see other members' photos posted without their prior permissions to be exposed and to let being judged by others who did not know the people on the photos personally.
I do not know the people on the photos personally and I will not bother to think for what reasons they decided to get involved in a relationship. Your relationship is your privacy, so are theirs.
It seems many (esp) western women are getting a bit overly precious about relationships, and as a result of having lost the plot are becoming jealous when men strike up successful, mutually satisfying relationships with Asian ladies.
Thanks for joining here.
Yes, you have a point there, if these members are still here, I don't think they're gonna be happy to see their photos up here if this is without their permission.
I always respect bloggers who read and takes time to comment and add meaning to my blog that's why I don't delete post or comments. Here on blogs, we all have our own opinions, we might not like what others say but they might not also like what we say...so each has every right here to express their opinions and I believe that's what blog is all about.
Kal
I think Kaet has a valid point about these photos, if these members are still here and don't know their pictures are up here,they might find this upleasant? I know you also have a point and every right to post your opinions so I will let you decide on this.
Photos are still up here and will take them down once Kal confirms that these photos were posted without those members' permission.
Yes, according to people I've known in this kind of relationship, this kind of relationship offers many advantages to them such as security and papers that could help them legally live in another country and find a job and better life...in exchange of course for their services and hard work. Like I said, this only applies to those in a relationship seeking for these advantages and not love.
Some said that spending years with a man they don't really love just to have those "advantages" is not really worth it at the end...they lost good years of their life and a big chance to be with someone they really love and that chance to raise a family.
I've raised the question to learn more from the others here who are in this kind of relationship, would be nice to know why they pursue this and how successful it is.
But for those who have met and gotten to know each other well, mutually love each each and living a happy life...
Sure, just erase my comment with photos in it. I just wanted to show that those couples are good examples of how CS-work in matching singles. It doesnt matter their age gaps, it doesnt matter their race differences, once they are falling in love.. They're married.. and they're happy. That's all that matters.
IT IS US who tend to judge.. IT IS US who think AS IF WE KNOW EVERY BODY AND EVERY THING..!!
And they look very happy to me.
Hope you're having a lovely day there.
Ok, will take those photos down. And Yes, as long as they're happy, we should be happy for them.
No judging here, just trying to shed some light that could enlighten some young women who could not be fortunate like those in the photos and could end up in a distasteful or horrific situation.
I believe in getting to know a person well...feeling that spark...falling in love...giving and taking to make a relationship work...raise a family and live happily ever after.
Now please tell me.. Who has the right to decide WHO DESERVES WHO OR WHAT? Who decides what is THE RIGHT RESONS for who?
When you were much younger, did you always listen to your parents?
If when you were young you fell in love with and wanted to marry an older white man and your mother was against it, would you listen simply because your mother thought that you didnt deserve him?
How young is too young to decide then?
Don't you think that many young people are more mature than old people, no?
Hey, I am not against your opinion. It's just I too find it really annoying to hear "false generalisation" about Asian women.
When I got married, I didn't ask for my parent's permission...I informed them of my decision and they're ok with it cos they trust my judgment knowing that they raised me in a best way they possibly could.
I met my ex-husband and gotten to know him well for a couple of years before we finally decided it's the right thing to do...and we're both very happy about it.
I don't have a daughter
I have a son...would be nice to have another son...
YES, we parents are the prefect examples to our children.
HOME...is the first place where they learn how to love and respect. Give them a loving and respectful home...they'll grow up to be a loving and respectful person.
I truly believe in Home and Family...