All Ears
Motivational speaker Paul Meyer cannot remember a single time when his father forgave anyone—not even his own sister. She had immigrated to America and lived just forty miles away, but one day she made a comment about Paul’s ears being large. From that moment, Paul recalls, his dad refused to talk to her. “For 35 years, despite the fact that she lived close by and that she was my father’s only relative in this country, he never spoke to her again.”If that story shocks you, remember the grudge you currently have against someone. Perhaps the offense is greater than a comment about someone’s ears. Perhaps the duration of the grudge hasn’t gone on 35 years. But whenever we harbor resentment in our hearts, a root of bitterness springs up to trouble many.
Offended pride has destroyed many friendships. If someone has offended you, tell the Lord about it, pray for the other person, ask God for the grace to forgive, and turn the anger over to the Lord. If you are angry with someone today, slay that giant with forgiveness.
Forgiveness has an uncanny way of bringing incredible good out of incredibly bad situations. It’s amazing—nothing less than a miracle.
Paul J. Meyer
Comments (16)
Thank you!
I may not like something or someone; but I do not carry grudges! I will not let things eat away at me!
There's still a part of me that's mad as hell at my wife...
for dying.
Yeah. I know. Crazy...It certainly wasn't HER idea!
But still, there's a part that's like, 'What the HELL were you thinking?!'
Maybe you were thinking, you didn't do enough to prevent her from dying? Commonly known as a "guilt complex". I'm sure you did everything you could to save her! My condolences Mic!
Then you also need to forgive her or she'll never rest at peace. You need to let go.
I always forgive and do not bear grudges.
I also do Ho'oponopono. Very effective in any situation.
When someone hurts or betrays us, especially when they do it more than once and never express sorrow, it can be very hard to forgive and not be angry/upset.
The advice is this blog is right-on.
Thank you so much for posting.
Thank you! We all experience disappointment in our lives and in people! When that happens, I turn it over to God! He always seems to work it out!
You come across that way! A great attribute....forgiveness!
Anger and resentment stop the flow of love.
Forgiveness is a great healer.
8 hours ago
This is gonna sound crazy...
There's still a part of me that's mad as hell at my wife...
for dying.
Yeah. I know. Crazy...It certainly wasn't HER idea!
But still, there's a part that's like, 'What the HELL were you thinking?!'
Mic, you obviously loved her very much and miss her a great deal. It doesn't sound crazy. It sounds like grieving.
can't say I ever felt guilty about it. And it is a small part of my over all feelings. Still, I'd be lying if I said there wasn't that small 'crazy' part.
@Dani...
As mentioned to Jim, those feelings are a small (and admittedly irrational) part of the greater take on things.
Gotta admit, there was a time when 'visitation dreams' were very common, and she and I have come to an understanding.
Prior to that, I'd neither experienced a visitation dream, nor even knew there was such a thing.
As per the dreams...I can say for certain SOMEthing out of the ordinary takes place.
Was it actually her visiting me? I don't know.
Were the dreams merely the product of my own psyche to deal with things I wanted to say/needed to hear? I don't know.
Such experiences do not prove a person's personality survives death, or that the deceased can communicate with the living.
But such experiences are apparently rather common among people who've lost a spouse, and I sure as hell understand how such experiences could easily lead many to conclude they've been visited from beyond the grave.
I can assure you these are REAL! Maybe she felt your pain and she came to reassure you that she was alright and also that you shouldn´t feel guilty or whatever you were feeling at the time.
Many, many people have been visited by their loved ones.
My father visited my mother on occasions - and she doesn´t normally believe in this sort of thing - but... when she came to visit me 8 years ago (she was then 84), she woke up all of a sudden and told me there was a man standing by the bed.
He as real!
And it was my father whom she said had visited her before. And he was speaking to her..
Our ancestors live in the spirit world, which is in another dimension, with only a veil separating them from us. But, the veil is very thin and more and more people can see them.
For us to be able to see those spirits, they have to adjust their vibrations to ours. If those spirits died many years before, they come to us at the age where we remember them, and also healthy.
When we have access to the spiritual world via mediumship (which is what I can do), we see them all as younger people around 30s and also healthy and happy.
A few of the dreams took place in pleasant places very(!) much like descriptions of the Greek Elysian Fields (Elysium).
Interestingly, I'd never even heard of Elysium until after the dreams.
After reading your above comment, I searched Elysium.
According to the Ancient Greek view...
"...Very occasionally Hades will allow the living to enter the Elysian Fields to communicate with the dead, either for CLOSURE (my emphasis) or information...Elysian Fields can be accessed from the mortal realm."
My world view most certainly is not based on that of Ancient Greece, but that is a truly remarkable description of one of the dreams.
Unlike most dreams which are quickly forgotten, I can still recall what took place 'there'.
As you suggested, it was a message of consolation. But I also 'vented' a bit about the situation.
What I find most fascinating, is that I neither believed in such things nor was even aware of them prior to the dreams, and apparently many others report remarkably similar experiences.
I did a blog on it awhile back. Y'all can find it by searching my blogs.
It was really something of a collaboration when I discovered Abby had described her experiences in the CS Poetry Corner, and her poem so accurately paralleled my own experience.
Whatever their origin, the dreams were comforting, and certainly did bring closure.
I haven´t heard of the "Elysium fields" but, whatever they´re called, it´s just another realm of existence which everybody can have access to if they so wish.
And they are very nice places to visit.
Glad that you could find some closure in the end.