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My last relationship failed for my fault to identify her as a match good for me. We loved each other with all our hearts but she was too different from me, wanting a too different relationship. So in practice would be almost impossible for us to be happy living together. We was been blinded by our feeling, words and mutual trust.
But happiness doesn't depend only on your will, but also on your needs, that you don't and can't choose. We didn't took enough time to know well each other before to be involved and bonded to each other.

So you offered tea and she was like well, I’m not sure. So you said you’d start it and see how she felt but when you had, she decided not. A waste of time and effort on your part, but tea is all about choice, and consent.

Or she said yes to tea, but then she changed her mind. What you going to do, force it on her?

Or she said yes to a cup of tea, then passed out. NO TEA.

Maybe you were just talking about having tea and she passed out instead. DEFINITELY no tea.

Okay, now re-read it with 'sex' instead of 'tea'.

This is borrowed from a blog on The Loop and I thought it was a really effective definition of consent. Agree? Not?

Wondering Why is it hard to find a friends here? I have made friends request , emails ..trying to start a friendship , or some kind of relationship with others ..but nothing .
Is it because I'm Iraqi ? Maybe people are afraid to start any connection with a person living in this unstable & confusing country .
It is not that bad guys ,It is not what the media shows . True we are experiencing hard conditions but life must & will go on.When a bombed car hits a place in Baghdad , after hours you'll see a convoy of cars celebrating a weeding with music & dances . We must have hope for future cause without it there is no life .
I was living in US for awhile & found the people very nice , friendly & helpful ..but in the net it is different . don't know maybe becuase of scammers or unreal people that make them afraid ? ...don't know .

Can anybody tell me
Thanks

I honestly don't understand the different between "seeing someone", "dating someone", "being a lover", "being a girlfriend/boyfriend".

Are all those the same just different way to call it? Or if they're different, what's the different between them?

One friend told me once "Ok, I think I'm ready to date again." To which I replied "Are you sure? I thought you're still not over him." And he said "I'm not saying I'm ready to be in relationship, I'm just ready to date again. That's all."

And recently a guy said "I want to be your lover", and when I was stunned not knowing what to answer as I thought we just knew each other, he added "I'm not talking about boyfriend-girlfriend, or marriage, just being lovers, honeymoon forever."

I have no clue. Does anyone have any idea what these are all about and wanna share with me?

I've gone blank. Want to say character A is character B's lover but I'm not crazy about the word at that point - too twee. Boyfriend is even worse.

The context is that he had been her friend for the last two years, her lover for the last six months.

When I ask the thesaurus it only comes up with female options (mistress, concubine, courtesan)

So I'm asking the ladies what you've called your lovers, and the gents what you would like to be called.

Maybe I should spend less time writing and more time out there finding out stuff first-hand.

Is there, or should there be such a thing as bedroom etiquette?

What for you are the do’s and dont’s in the bedroom?

Finally i come to terms in life... before of now... mind fails to accept the realities and terms and conditions of the situation. . . It must be the real person that you develop a relationship with...Both Love and commitment take time to develop......................... I do not feel it is necessary for my potential mate to be the same as me, but he should definitely have some similarities for which we can develop mutual understanding which then leads to mutual cooperation. Although conflict is inevitable, when conflict does arise effective communication is crucial to a lasting relationship because it leads to understanding, which ultimately leads to cooperation... ................... Love is a combination of intimacy and most of all friendship. However, there must first be the establishment of trust and respect. ......... ....................no baggage and being honest to the one he loves... . is all i want.. i have money...so....is this asking too much?

Ever feel like you have been doing this forever? The being single thing. For some of us, its becoming a permanent way of life and after so long, you can't remember being any other way.

The reasons for us being single are diverse and many, lack of money, lack of available singles in our area, not the best looking, and so on. There are many more possible reasons why we are still single.

Some are content to be single but most of us would not be single if we had a choice.

A friend told me that he wasnt lying to me. I just never asked the right questions when i had the chance to ask.

Would you be lying to someone if you choose not to tell the whole truth???
Would it still be a lie if you choose not to say anything at all?

...... ........ "Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup," and "Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf." with common sense, of space and togetherness to love someone and live with the same person.....i think this is called the real love. .....love is a pain when you do not get that person..also a pain when you do get that person... .. .. .. ..