Serious Question (357)
nayobi: Hi Vinny,
there are some nice regulars '' SMOKY'' and Wedward.they do answer even stupid comments like mines...
I am reading your thread very careful, because it is something that's I was thinking about before. EU forums seems to be a place for regulars. I do write sometimes, but I am not sophisticated at all. my comments are
just ignored most of the time. lake last night...and more before. I try not to get upset about this, then it this is a very special society...
on your question '' Do regulars want more people to join in...'' my answer based on my experience here is '' no''
perfectly happy ''regulars'' between them selfs
there are some nice regulars '' SMOKY'' and Wedward.they do answer even stupid comments like mines...
I am reading your thread very careful, because it is something that's I was thinking about before. EU forums seems to be a place for regulars. I do write sometimes, but I am not sophisticated at all. my comments are
just ignored most of the time. lake last night...and more before. I try not to get upset about this, then it this is a very special society...
on your question '' Do regulars want more people to join in...'' my answer based on my experience here is '' no''
perfectly happy ''regulars'' between them selfs
Hi Nayobi.........
I'm sorry Im only replyin now.......
I actually tend to agree with you, when you say some of the regulars are perfectly happy with the status quo and its somewhere to be amongst friends........
I think some people forget what it was like to join in first and this is a very insecure environment as sometimes it takes genuine courage to join firstly, and then to join in......When we are ignored it can play on our own insecurities......
I also think its a huge learning curve for most to participate in the forums..........I know I have learnt a lot from participating in the Threads...........
And I really appreciate your response.......
vinny1967: Ta Sommer for your honesty as always..........
Your point on it being debilitating to onlookers is well made...
It can be daunting when people just see the same people posting.
That is s problem for them to overcome IMO and just jump in.
However it can be a very lonely place when someone posts in a thread and is ignored as has happened me in the past......I would have thought good manners would dictate a ressponse......
This is just a comment and in no way I'm referring to you, as I have always found you inclusive......
Your point on it being debilitating to onlookers is well made...
It can be daunting when people just see the same people posting.
That is s problem for them to overcome IMO and just jump in.
However it can be a very lonely place when someone posts in a thread and is ignored as has happened me in the past......I would have thought good manners would dictate a ressponse......
This is just a comment and in no way I'm referring to you, as I have always found you inclusive......
Highlighted statement Vinny.
This I can understand, and I know I should do a better job of that. If it is a debate, then I will look at all the responses and respond with my thoughts.
If it is on a thread where people are just saying hi, then I will not get around to all.
For me, I am never bothered if a person ignores me, I do not interact with posts that do not interest me, I will be very open about that. Especially if I consider it to be a futile attempt, for example, a person who there would be no point in reasoning with. I just cannot be bothered.
I do not think that any person here purposely ignores another poster. The ones I ignore are the ones that I know it would be pointless in responding to and my tongue would run away with me. There are less that a handful of people that I purposefully ignore, in the Internationals, the rest of the posts I could not possibly respond to. Here I do not post on all the threads, but there is not one person here that I will ignore, it is simply a matter of time. I work late evenings at the moment and that means that usually there is Jan and I here, so ultimately we talk together, because it is only her and I. Mornings Lago is here early, and the others and they have their chats and fun. Then the afternoon and evenings are a different bunch..
I know you are not referring to me, goodness, this is a discussion and a good way to work things out, I feel.
Listen, sometimes it gets so lonely here I IM myself for a little light relief, but I usually terminate the conversation when it gets dirty.........
rusty_knight: Vinny - there are several types, logically, of CS members.
1. Some that are members but are not proactive in any way.
2. Some that email other CS members but never even look at forums let alone post in them!
3. Some that post loads in the forums but hardly ever email (myself for example).
4. Some that both post in forums and email lots of friends or potential friends.
5. Then some just use blogs or the chat facility.
I am 100% sure that only a very small minority of members actually post in public forums - there are tens and tens of thousands of member of whom only a few hundred post.
Nice to see you posting - have a great Sunday!
1. Some that are members but are not proactive in any way.
2. Some that email other CS members but never even look at forums let alone post in them!
3. Some that post loads in the forums but hardly ever email (myself for example).
4. Some that both post in forums and email lots of friends or potential friends.
5. Then some just use blogs or the chat facility.
I am 100% sure that only a very small minority of members actually post in public forums - there are tens and tens of thousands of member of whom only a few hundred post.
Nice to see you posting - have a great Sunday!
Ta for your response Rusty......
I do understand there are so many people who do not post at all.
Most of them probably dont want to.......
I'm like yourself in that way, as I like to post and I do think it is a great way of getting to know someones personality and their morals / beliefs.......I find it a better way of learning about people than chatting or mailing........
gininitaly: Looks like I stuck my foot in it again .
If you did I missed it.............
venere08: Hi Vinny, and all others here now
I ventured to the EU's a few months ago, and recognised some folk from the Inter's, so I started posting, and enjoy my time here. I fact I seem to spend more time here than on the Inters lately. a different pace and style. More respect, and little danger of a couple of 'crazies' descending upon me!
As for feeling ignored, yep, if it's around mid morning here in Aussie Land, I am often ignored. Usually coz you're all in bed except for maybe the regular insomniacs, thank goodness!
I ventured to the EU's a few months ago, and recognised some folk from the Inter's, so I started posting, and enjoy my time here. I fact I seem to spend more time here than on the Inters lately. a different pace and style. More respect, and little danger of a couple of 'crazies' descending upon me!
As for feeling ignored, yep, if it's around mid morning here in Aussie Land, I am often ignored. Usually coz you're all in bed except for maybe the regular insomniacs, thank goodness!
Hi Vee...........
I am not talkin about time or anything like that.........It took 2 hours to get the first response........
So I can understand that..........And you know I'd never ignore you.........
Tulefel: From my experience, this forum is more rigid and conservative than the international. Not in subjects, but in treating newcomers. Which suited me perfectly.
Prelude: I’ve got a job some time ago, and the employer made it clear from the beginning that I would have to speak English now and then, mostly in front of a group. The thought itself terrified me. Especially after 9 long years during which my ex told me nothing else that my accent is impossible to understand. There were times when I didn’t speak at all, in any language (just as defensive reaction to avoid gibe), and it’s very difficult to get back your confidence once it lost.
But job is job, you just have to do it, so I asked my friend (she’s a teacher) if there are some ways to overcome this state. Her advice was to start to speak, no matter what, just to get used to making noises in public. And it would be even better to do it in a hostile environment. If I would manage that, I will be more at ease speaking to a friendly auditorium.
Conclude: a couple of weeks ago I held a speech in English in front of 25 people without blushing, stammering and being drench in cold sweat. So I don’t know how it is for the other newcomers, but for me it worked.
Prelude: I’ve got a job some time ago, and the employer made it clear from the beginning that I would have to speak English now and then, mostly in front of a group. The thought itself terrified me. Especially after 9 long years during which my ex told me nothing else that my accent is impossible to understand. There were times when I didn’t speak at all, in any language (just as defensive reaction to avoid gibe), and it’s very difficult to get back your confidence once it lost.
But job is job, you just have to do it, so I asked my friend (she’s a teacher) if there are some ways to overcome this state. Her advice was to start to speak, no matter what, just to get used to making noises in public. And it would be even better to do it in a hostile environment. If I would manage that, I will be more at ease speaking to a friendly auditorium.
Conclude: a couple of weeks ago I held a speech in English in front of 25 people without blushing, stammering and being drench in cold sweat. So I don’t know how it is for the other newcomers, but for me it worked.
Wow Kudos to you.............thats a great story......
I guess you love a challenge............
morgan5: Hi vinny i have felt that too, i have posted a few times and there is only one person whoever responds to me, and we have met. That's why i stay in International Forums. Kinda feel unwelcome here. No offence meant to anyone
Hi Morgan............Hope your well........
That was the reason I put the Thread up............I felt unwelcome too...........
I am surprised at you feeling the same way as your posts are always respectful and thoughtful, whereas mine can be just flirty or tryin to be funny depending on my humour......
I am sorry you felt like that as it is a free Forum after all and is open for everyones participation..........
immanuelle: To me, the EU forums are more comfortable, calm and reflective. EU forums are a coffee shop on a sunny Sunday afternoon where I can sip a wino and chat with people who slowly come in for an hour at a time. International Forums, I have my high heeled leather boots on out for a Saturday night where I've gotta talk quick, be sharp and have just 1 minute to impress. Two different feelings for two different moods. Both are great.
In my opinion, the regulars of the EU are quite welcoming. A bit cautious initially, but nonetheless welcoming.
Smart as whips also...and diverse personalities. It's nice
In my opinion, the regulars of the EU are quite welcoming. A bit cautious initially, but nonetheless welcoming.
Smart as whips also...and diverse personalities. It's nice
I agree they are 2 very different mediums in the way they communicate.........and I do agree that is a good thing......
Sommerauer71: Hi Vinny
You have not insulted any person, I have never known you to insult a person.
Sometimes it is not the message, it is the deliverance of the message and you delivered it beautifully.
You have not insulted any person, I have never known you to insult a person.
Sometimes it is not the message, it is the deliverance of the message and you delivered it beautifully.
T/Y..............sorry am only catching up on the posts......
Sommerauer71: Highlighted statement Vinny.
This I can understand, and I know I should do a better job of that. If it is a debate, then I will look at all the responses and respond with my thoughts.
If it is on a thread where people are just saying hi, then I will not get around to all.
For me, I am never bothered if a person ignores me, I do not interact with posts that do not interest me, I will be very open about that. Especially if I consider it to be a futile attempt, for example, a person who there would be no point in reasoning with. I just cannot be bothered.
I do not think that any person here purposely ignores another poster. The ones I ignore are the ones that I know it would be pointless in responding to and my tongue would run away with me. There are less that a handful of people that I purposefully ignore, in the Internationals, the rest of the posts I could not possibly respond to. Here I do not post on all the threads, but there is not one person here that I will ignore, it is simply a matter of time. I work late evenings at the moment and that means that usually there is Jan and I here, so ultimately we talk together, because it is only her and I. Mornings Lago is here early, and the others and they have their chats and fun. Then the afternoon and evenings are a different bunch..
I know you are not referring to me, goodness, this is a discussion and a good way to work things out, I feel.
This I can understand, and I know I should do a better job of that. If it is a debate, then I will look at all the responses and respond with my thoughts.
If it is on a thread where people are just saying hi, then I will not get around to all.
For me, I am never bothered if a person ignores me, I do not interact with posts that do not interest me, I will be very open about that. Especially if I consider it to be a futile attempt, for example, a person who there would be no point in reasoning with. I just cannot be bothered.
I do not think that any person here purposely ignores another poster. The ones I ignore are the ones that I know it would be pointless in responding to and my tongue would run away with me. There are less that a handful of people that I purposefully ignore, in the Internationals, the rest of the posts I could not possibly respond to. Here I do not post on all the threads, but there is not one person here that I will ignore, it is simply a matter of time. I work late evenings at the moment and that means that usually there is Jan and I here, so ultimately we talk together, because it is only her and I. Mornings Lago is here early, and the others and they have their chats and fun. Then the afternoon and evenings are a different bunch..
I know you are not referring to me, goodness, this is a discussion and a good way to work things out, I feel.
I completely understand about the rythym of the threads and I do see who are the early posters and the late nite revellers...
After reading some of the replies I am glad some people have spoken up, and felt the same way I did.......
As I stated earlier I could care less, but I do think we shd be all inclusive of people, as I love the forums and find myself learning from all sorts of people and if this thread gets more people to contribute, in general, to the Forums I personally think its a good thing.........
Lagoona22: Listen, sometimes it gets so lonely here I IM myself for a little light relief, but I usually terminate the conversation when it gets dirty.........
I would love to be a fly on the wall for that converstaion....
vinny1967: I completely understand about the rythym of the threads and I do see who are the early posters and the late nite revellers...
After reading some of the replies I am glad some people have spoken up, and felt the same way I did.......
As I stated earlier I could care less, but I do think we shd be all inclusive of people, as I love the forums and find myself learning from all sorts of people and if this thread gets more people to contribute, in general, to the Forums I personally think its a good thing.........
After reading some of the replies I am glad some people have spoken up, and felt the same way I did.......
As I stated earlier I could care less, but I do think we shd be all inclusive of people, as I love the forums and find myself learning from all sorts of people and if this thread gets more people to contribute, in general, to the Forums I personally think its a good thing.........
I agree. And if people don't speak up, we would happily merrily be sat in ignorance and think all was sweet.
And on another Vinny, you played golf lately? I played on Saturday in a competition and I hurt, badly, we lost, but hell it was good to pick up a stick again after the winter here...
vinny1967: Hi Vee...........
I am not talkin about time or anything like that.........It took 2 hours to get the first response........ So I can understand that..........
And you know I'd never ignore you.........
I am not talkin about time or anything like that.........It took 2 hours to get the first response........ So I can understand that..........
And you know I'd never ignore you.........
Hi Vinny,
Apart from this thread, I must say I haven't seen you around here lately. Not that I log on very often or for too long. Glad you're well.
About being ignored, I posted on one of Lagoona's threads about 3 or 4 hrs ago. Nuttin, can hear crickets
venere08: Hi Vinny,
Apart from this thread, I must say I haven't seen you around here lately. Not that I log on very often or for too long. Glad you're well.
About being ignored, I posted on one of Lagoona's threads about 3 or 4 hrs ago. Nuttin, can hear crickets
Apart from this thread, I must say I haven't seen you around here lately. Not that I log on very often or for too long. Glad you're well.
About being ignored, I posted on one of Lagoona's threads about 3 or 4 hrs ago. Nuttin, can hear crickets
Aww poor Vee............... I was kinda taking a break a bit............Too bloody addictive on here im afraid...........
Sommerauer71: I agree. And if people don't speak up, we would happily merrily be sat in ignorance and think all was sweet.
And on another Vinny, you played golf lately? I played on Saturday in a competition and I hurt, badly, we lost, but hell it was good to pick up a stick again after the winter here...
And on another Vinny, you played golf lately? I played on Saturday in a competition and I hurt, badly, we lost, but hell it was good to pick up a stick again after the winter here...
Nah I have not played for a while.............v long story but I can wait to get back into it.......
This time of year is the best for Golf...........the start of a season.........blow the cobwebs away and get the competitive juices flowing again...........even if its for a euro......
Love the game...........best in the world Imo
vinny1967: Nah I have not played for a while.............v long story but I can wait to get back into it.......
This time of year is the best for Golf...........the start of a season.........blow the cobwebs away and get the competitive juices flowing again...........even if its for a euro......
Love the game...........best in the world Imo
This time of year is the best for Golf...........the start of a season.........blow the cobwebs away and get the competitive juices flowing again...........even if its for a euro......
Love the game...........best in the world Imo
Isn't it just, Vinny. My game on Saturday was amazing and nothing better than what I have loved for 35 years. I was dragged up with the game and I am looking forward to the British Open...
Sommerauer71: Isn't it just, Vinny. My game on Saturday was amazing and nothing better than what I have loved for 35 years. I was dragged up with the game and I am looking forward to the British Open...
Yeah the Open is the best.................altho I love the Masters..........its on at a time of night that you can sit down with a beer and enjoy it.......
Watch out for Rory McIlroy..............what a talent......prob take a coupl of years before he contests in the Majors
vinny1967:
I was kinda taking a break a bit............Too bloody addictive on here im afraid...........
I was kinda taking a break a bit............Too bloody addictive on here im afraid...........
Sorry, vinny...gotta go.
Next CS anon starts in 5 mins. You coming?
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Yeah I love your Jokes............