Serious Question (357)
morgan5: i am not talking about this thread it is the other one, all people said was they felt because there are less regular posters here, people got very close and didn't always respond to new posters, nobody said it was a big deal just how they felt. Then a thread is started which is sercastic about how there should be a welcoming committee, kinda childish.
Anyway that is my opinion, to which i am entitled to and i won't post here again, NOT because i feel ignored just think because people posted how they felt they have been laughed at
Anyway that is my opinion, to which i am entitled to and i won't post here again, NOT because i feel ignored just think because people posted how they felt they have been laughed at
I understand your point, sure those things happen sometimes. But if I felt laughed at every time I post I wouldn't be here. I'm sure it happens but all in all this has become a fairly safe environment to be in - with a few exceptions but it's the internet, after all...
Oh and at first I was sure I would be laughed at and was very sensitive, simply because I often post serious issues or am just a bit too intense when I feel silly. Apparently it's not as bad as I thought. So if anyone would be laughed at... it would be someone like me.
livinglarge: Hi Morgan ,
I just have to agree with you .The other thread drips with sarcasm and mean spiritedness.
But from what I have observed in the past up to today is that you
are a very well liked and respected member.
Please ,please do not allow these folk to put you off from posting anywhere you want .
The EU is not everyones cup of tea , full of ex members who have been banned looking to fit in IMO , but you don't need that ,you fit in anywhere and often you are the only rational person amongst the bilge .So stay put ,I hardly ever read the EU forums ,only the odd time ,but I have to say I enjoy reading when you are on YOU are the voice of reason
I just have to agree with you .The other thread drips with sarcasm and mean spiritedness.
But from what I have observed in the past up to today is that you
are a very well liked and respected member.
Please ,please do not allow these folk to put you off from posting anywhere you want .
The EU is not everyones cup of tea , full of ex members who have been banned looking to fit in IMO , but you don't need that ,you fit in anywhere and often you are the only rational person amongst the bilge .So stay put ,I hardly ever read the EU forums ,only the odd time ,but I have to say I enjoy reading when you are on YOU are the voice of reason
hi Ll .. nice to meet you ..
guiriman: hi Ll .. nice to meet you ..
Helllo Guiriman
pleased to meet you
Jan1305: I thought so too. It was a nasty, uncalled for post, deliberately written out of pure malice it appears.
yeah of course you are right Jan
Sommerauer71: Ginger, I'm glad someone was brave enough to say it.
I just couldn't sit back and see the lovely people who contribute to the EU thread slated and insulted like that, by someone who has never met any of them, and certainly doesn't know them.
When I came on here to the EU forums, I was welcomed and made to feel like part of a community where people don't be nasty to each other, like they do elsewhere on CS. I found a measure of decency and respect shown towards everyone here that I have rarely found on any of these kind of sites.
I have since met with many of the people here and have formed friendships with most of the regular posters and have found them all to be people I am proud to know and be friends with.
To be honest this is the first piece of nastiness I have encountered in along time. Not so strange that it comes from a non-EU thread contributor. Anyone spending any time here, making an effort to fit in, allowing for the difference in cultures, and getting to know the regulars, would not have been so ignorant.
Many of the people here work, or are busy dividing their time elsewhere during the day and early evening, so it is not always easy for them to answer the posts of new people or even the regulars immediately. They do, when they can, and always with politeness and respect. Some only turn up every few days or even once a week or sometimes longer, as and when they can.
Also it is a very diverse group here, from just about every area of eastern and western europe, mainland and islands, and not everyone is interested in the same subject matter, and so, don't always contribute to certain threads, if, in some cases, their English is even up to it.
All that taken into consideration, anyone wanting to come in here and be fawned over and be celebrated, without due consideration to the people already here, are in for a let-down. This forum is not ego centred. Everyone waits their turn like every other person. There is no preference given to anyone, nor are there differences made in a negative light.
If you write something and no one takes any heed, then they just weren't interested, and so won't post, unlike the Intl forums, where people do post negatively and have row after row, day in day out, usually resulting in amny people feeling like crap.
We don't need that here.
livinglarge: yeah of course you are right Jan
hey Ll, stick around and see what really happens here .. you'll like us really ..
guiriman: hey Ll, stick around and see what really happens here .. you'll like us really ..
Lol, well these talks about how to interact are always interesting and I'm now glad I came back to follow it all. It's true that fitting in is never guaranteed for anyone though some people have a harder time at it than others. Yet again others are more sensitive than others... Very true; mingling can be hard no matter where you are.
Sometimes you just have enough; you feel overwhelmed by the fact that you post and no one responds, you feel dark clouds gathering because people resent you, stuff just piles up that make you run for the hills...
BUT. Good news is that these are often old feelings revisited and there's an opportunity of maybe working out some old trauma you might have carried with you (since rejection is a trauma most of us have carried along). I have to admit that when I had my moment of complete and utter exhaustion some people here showed regret that I was no longer there. It's a long story and won't bore people with it but something just might have come into perspective during that crisis. So people have them; they are healthy. But someone who is in crisis on a constant basis and spilling out on the community is as shunned as they would be IRL.
I also find that people have been more welcoming and friendly than I'd expect from a forum. If they don't applaud you every day the accidental kind word makes up for it.
Sometimes you just have enough; you feel overwhelmed by the fact that you post and no one responds, you feel dark clouds gathering because people resent you, stuff just piles up that make you run for the hills...
BUT. Good news is that these are often old feelings revisited and there's an opportunity of maybe working out some old trauma you might have carried with you (since rejection is a trauma most of us have carried along). I have to admit that when I had my moment of complete and utter exhaustion some people here showed regret that I was no longer there. It's a long story and won't bore people with it but something just might have come into perspective during that crisis. So people have them; they are healthy. But someone who is in crisis on a constant basis and spilling out on the community is as shunned as they would be IRL.
I also find that people have been more welcoming and friendly than I'd expect from a forum. If they don't applaud you every day the accidental kind word makes up for it.
ditto guiriman: hey Ll, stick around and see what really happens here .. you'll like us really ..
Hi Guiriman
Thank you ,much appreciated
Jan
hehetehe ,that was funny 
gingerb: ditto
quote: Jan
are you saying something Jan? you'll give yourself a sore head
are you saying something Jan? you'll give yourself a sore head
gingerb:
All that taken into consideration, anyone wanting to come in here and be fawned over and be celebrated, without due consideration to the people already here, are in for a let-down. This forum is not ego centred. Everyone waits their turn like every other person. There is no preference given to anyone, nor are there differences made in a negative light.
If you write something and no one takes any heed, then they just weren't interested, and so won't post, unlike the Intl forums, where people do post negatively and have row after row, day in day out, usually resulting in amny people feeling like crap.
We don't need that here.
All that taken into consideration, anyone wanting to come in here and be fawned over and be celebrated, without due consideration to the people already here, are in for a let-down. This forum is not ego centred. Everyone waits their turn like every other person. There is no preference given to anyone, nor are there differences made in a negative light.
If you write something and no one takes any heed, then they just weren't interested, and so won't post, unlike the Intl forums, where people do post negatively and have row after row, day in day out, usually resulting in amny people feeling like crap.
We don't need that here.
Very nicely put, Ginger. That's exactly how I feel, too.
I do truly enjoy that there's genuine interaction here, very often a few people are around for a while to really get a discussion going, now THAT is so counter-egocentric if anything ever was! Yes I wish people would use less slang sometimes but then again, I can just avoid those threads... I have learned.
livinglarge: Hi Guiriman
Thank you ,much appreciated
Jan hehetehe ,that was funny
Thank you ,much appreciated
Jan hehetehe ,that was funny
You must be pretty bored out there tonight LL, to be in here stirring it. Hasn't your back-up arrived yet?
guiriman: quote: Jan
are you saying something Jan? you'll give yourself a sore head
are you saying something Jan? you'll give yourself a sore head
Sorry Guiri.
Just read the thread.
Amaryllis: Very nicely put, Ginger. That's exactly how I feel, too.
Hi Amaryllis
as you can see I've taken notice of what there was to learn and have you to thank for some of it. I'm sorry if my moments of crisis were disturbing.Jan1305: Sorry Guiri.
Just read the thread.
Just read the thread.
I have read the thread thanks Jan ..
Ll thinks we are not good people for some reason eh? What's your advice? to confirm her suspicions?
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Anyway that is my opinion, to which i am entitled to and i won't post here again, NOT because i feel ignored just think because people posted how they felt they have been laughed at
Hi Morgan ,
I just have to agree with you .The other thread drips with sarcasm and mean spiritedness.
But from what I have observed in the past up to today is that you
are a very well liked and respected member.
Please ,please do not allow these folk to put you off from posting anywhere you want .
The EU is not everyones cup of tea , full of ex members who have been banned looking to fit in IMO , but you don't need that ,you fit in anywhere and often you are the only rational person amongst the bilge .So stay put ,I hardly ever read the EU forums ,only the odd time ,but I have to say I enjoy reading when you are on YOU are the voice of reason