Who 'needs' a partner? (238)
sweetowen: I couldn't agree more, dru. One needs to be happy with him/herself & comfortable in their own skin before reaching out for someone else. Otherwise you're just looking for someone to make you happy. And how can that be done if you're not happy with yourself?
that is something i have always said.. you need to be happy with yourself, It shouldnt be up to someone elso to make you happy..
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Charli15695: Dancing can help you with that!
You are just in a dancing mood today arnt you...LOL
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krt4fun: You are just in a dancing mood today arnt you...LOL
Yeppers....is good for ya!
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sweetowen: I couldn't agree more, dru. One needs to be happy with him/herself & comfortable in their own skin before reaching out for someone else. Otherwise you're just looking for someone to make you happy. And how can that be done if you're not happy with yourself?
that's what i mean by healthy/unhealthy relationships...if we reach out to, or for, someone to fill a perticular void within ones self...it can become unhealthy, because more than not, we have searched for the wrong reason...we do need to be happy with ourselves first...people who feed on someone "needing" them {in an unhealthy way} can sense the need...they look for it
...but all in all, i think we do need someone else...hell, now i'm just rambeling...
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Charli15695: Yeppers....is good for ya!
Well, i dont know the texas 2 step. and texas is too far to drive for you to teach me. LOL I honestly cant remember the last time i did dance. HMMMM
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druidess6308: Luckily, for that need I have people I see daily. I believe in getting/giving at least 5 hugs a day. I've already gotten one of mine for the day...I will get and give more than 5 by the time today is done. So, I guess my blood pressure should be pretty low, and I'm helping to keep that of others who are lonely down as well.
Yes, btw, I'm a hugger in person. Anyone from here who ever gets to meet me will discover that almost immediately.
Yes, btw, I'm a hugger in person. Anyone from here who ever gets to meet me will discover that almost immediately.
i'll take 10, to go...------ This thread is Archived ------
Sommerauer71: Do you need one?
Go....
Go....
No.
But I'd die if I lost her
Go on.
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jlw45: that's what i mean by healthy/unhealthy relationships...if we reach out to, or for, someone to fill a perticular void within ones self...it can become unhealthy, because more than not, we have searched for the wrong reason...we do need to be happy with ourselves first...people who feed on someone "needing" them {in an unhealthy way} can sense the need...they look for it ...but all in all, i think we do need someone else...
hell, now i'm just rambeling... ...
hell, now i'm just rambeling... ...
Don't ramble...Dance!
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sassy49senior: Same for you J
A hug to lower
A kiss to raise hmmmmm
A hug to lower
A kiss to raise hmmmmm
thanks sassy but, a kiss aint what i had in mind.... 
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Big_John: I don't believe we are talking about common male traits. We are discussing how we deal with wanting a partner in our life. We are dealing with how we act and behave ourselve. It is my opinion and approach on relationships that you must put yourself out there to get whatever it is you want from the other person. Those who sit back and wait for the other one to make the first move, might be dealing with someone who is sitting back and waiting also.
Can I get hurt. Sure! Am I scared of being hurt? No. No one ever finds the love of their life by being careful.
Don't worry about what the average guy will do because the one you want to be with might not be average.
Can I get hurt. Sure! Am I scared of being hurt? No. No one ever finds the love of their life by being careful.
Don't worry about what the average guy will do because the one you want to be with might not be average.
John, this is an awesome post! I put myself out there on here and in real life all of the time. I just don't know how to not be me, and not live this way. I share, I care, I hurt, I laugh, I cry...almost all of it right out there for everyone to see. I'm very open. Nobody doubts where they stand with me, either.
Am I afraid of being hurt living this way? No. Have I been hurt by living this way? Of course. Love is part of life, and life is always full of risk. Not risking is not living fully, and I can't live like that.
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Charli15695: Don't ramble...Dance!
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krt4fun: Well, i dont know the texas 2 step. and texas is too far to drive for you to teach me. LOL I honestly cant remember the last time i did dance. HMMMM
Awww...sweety...dance everyday - even if it's by yourself!
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krt4fun: You are still young... when you get OLD like most of us here. you will learn, that it is about you more than anything... good luck in your search..
You tickled me, Kurt...you're not even 40 yet! I'm 45, and far from "old". ------ This thread is Archived ------
druidess6308: John, this is an awesome post! I put myself out there on here and in real life all of the time. I just don't know how to not be me, and not live this way. I share, I care, I hurt, I laugh, I cry...almost all of it right out there for everyone to see. I'm very open. Nobody doubts where they stand with me, either.
Am I afraid of being hurt living this way? No. Have I been hurt by living this way? Of course. Love is part of life, and life is always full of risk. Not risking is not living fully, and I can't live like that.
Am I afraid of being hurt living this way? No. Have I been hurt by living this way? Of course. Love is part of life, and life is always full of risk. Not risking is not living fully, and I can't live like that.
Thanks
All of us are diferent and how we respond to seeking a partner is diferrent. This is okay. I have no issues with the ones who say I can't do this or that. If we are to have someone in our life that approach will work also. No one way is right or wrong. Just because I can express my feelings toward someone does not guarantee I will find her.
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druidess6308: John, this is an awesome post! I put myself out there on here and in real life all of the time. I just don't know how to not be me, and not live this way. I share, I care, I hurt, I laugh, I cry...almost all of it right out there for everyone to see. I'm very open. Nobody doubts where they stand with me, either.
Am I afraid of being hurt living this way? No. Have I been hurt by living this way? Of course. Love is part of life, and life is always full of risk. Not risking is not living fully, and I can't live like that.
Am I afraid of being hurt living this way? No. Have I been hurt by living this way? Of course. Love is part of life, and life is always full of risk. Not risking is not living fully, and I can't live like that.
life IS full of risks, indeed...my problem is, i jokingly flirt alot...so, when someone flirts with me, i think they must be joking ------ This thread is Archived ------
sweetowen: You're absolutely right. And I'm trying. But it's very hard, when I've been this way as long as I can remember.
I wonder how that started?
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Ambrose2007: I wonder how that started?
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sweetowen: I couldn't agree more, dru. One needs to be happy with him/herself & comfortable in their own skin before reaching out for someone else. Otherwise you're just looking for someone to make you happy. And how can that be done if you're not happy with yourself?
Exactly...and it's not that I'm not happy with my self, but more that I'm unhappy with parts of my life at this point. And not living fully right now due to my emotional state. I need to get back on track in many areas, and find that balance and wholeness in my own life again. I also have some major changes coming into my life that need to be adjusted to before I have the ability to adjust to a man in it. Let's just say that my life is not at a good point for a romantic relationship...I'm in survival mode, not living mode. I need to be living fully again first. And I need to take care of other things. Until those things are taken care of, romance is on the back burner.
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jlw45: thanks sassy but, a kiss aint what i had in mind....
Depends on where that kiss is placed, J!
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Dancing can help you with that!