A Respectful Request For A Moment Of Everyone's Time, Please. (35)
This has to be very difficult for you and I admire your courage to tell it like it is. May you find the love that your looking for. 
And to Ali I hope that you can accept her truthfulness that she gives from her heart.
Bless you both!
And to Ali I hope that you can accept her truthfulness that she gives from her heart.
Bless you both!
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............I am so sorry to hear that Cyndie......You are one very amazing Lady...Sincere and so genuinely kind and compassionate to all in need....
J.D
J.D
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I'm so sorry I understand what's it like
I support both of you
I support both of you
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Hi Cyndie 
I missed seeing you in forums, lovely lady, and was wondering what was wrong...
So sorry to hear that you are going through this hardship
You have nothing to apologize for - the circumstances are beyond your control and you are hurting as much as Ali, if not more, because of this. Take care of yourself and I hope to see more of you in forums.
Big hugs to you
I missed seeing you in forums, lovely lady, and was wondering what was wrong...
So sorry to hear that you are going through this hardship
You have nothing to apologize for - the circumstances are beyond your control and you are hurting as much as Ali, if not more, because of this. Take care of yourself and I hope to see more of you in forums.
Big hugs to you
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Very touching , Best of Luck
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CjTenorSax: I wish to ask everyone for a moment of their time.
As many of you know, Ali and I a re no longer in an LDR. This is NOT Ali's fault.
It is my request, to all of you, to Please Comfort, Support and Encourage Him through this.
I asked Him to let me let him go.
My reason is because of my Financial straights and the ecconomic condition of my State and Country. I am not in a position to be in a relationship right now.
I do not have the resources to be able to get online on a regular basis. The Governor of my State cut funding to Libraries, College Financial Aid and more.
As a result, the Libraries all over the County have cut hours and services. Which leaves me in even more of a bind.
My Parents taught us that when we are faced with adverse situations which also affect others, to ask ourselves if the things we have to adjust to cause us to treat others in a fashion that we would not want to be in.
If so, then leave things alone. If not, then think about the Respectful, Honourable thing needed to treat Him or Her right and be big enough take the steps needed as you would want done to you.
I had to face this question head on last month when my car broke down and I was left stranded for several weeks with no way to reach Ali to let him know what was going on.
I thought long and hard about this from all anges and asked myself, Would I want to be left hanging like this? My answer to myself was No, I would not.
I Prayed for the right and proper course of action in this situation.
I came to the conclusion that, with a ~ 11 hr time difference and since I would not want to be left hanging as that is not fair nor condictive in working on a relationship, that the hounrable thing to do was to let Him go.
Relationships need work.
It is not fair to Ali for him to be online waiting for me and I unable to get to a place where I could get on line. Nor can I afford a connection Bundle in my home, at this time.
As I told you, in my email, I Love You too much to do this to you, Ali. It is so sweet of you to want to wait for me forever. I can't let you do that, though. it is not fair to you. I need to ride this situation out alone, for now. If G-d means for us to be together we will be.
Right now, I need to work through the things as they are. Ali, If i can't take care of me, how can I take care of US?
I had to do the most difficult thing I ever had to do in asking you to let me let you go and for you to let me go too.
Ladies, Ali, is a wonderful man. any of you would be quite lucky to have Him. I was Blessed to have his Love.
Ali, as I told you, I had to Love you enough to do the right thing and let you go. I hope one day you can forgive me. I am sorry for hurting you.
To all of our CS Family, I apologize for hurting one of our CS Brothers . . . I ask that when you think of me, please think on the positive things I have tried to do here for others and not this negative one.
I thank you all for your awesome support of us in announcing our LDR and I apologize again for hurting one of us. Please Support and Encourage Ali.
Thank-you, Cyndie
As many of you know, Ali and I a re no longer in an LDR. This is NOT Ali's fault.
It is my request, to all of you, to Please Comfort, Support and Encourage Him through this.
I asked Him to let me let him go.
My reason is because of my Financial straights and the ecconomic condition of my State and Country. I am not in a position to be in a relationship right now.
I do not have the resources to be able to get online on a regular basis. The Governor of my State cut funding to Libraries, College Financial Aid and more.
As a result, the Libraries all over the County have cut hours and services. Which leaves me in even more of a bind.
My Parents taught us that when we are faced with adverse situations which also affect others, to ask ourselves if the things we have to adjust to cause us to treat others in a fashion that we would not want to be in.
If so, then leave things alone. If not, then think about the Respectful, Honourable thing needed to treat Him or Her right and be big enough take the steps needed as you would want done to you.
I had to face this question head on last month when my car broke down and I was left stranded for several weeks with no way to reach Ali to let him know what was going on.
I thought long and hard about this from all anges and asked myself, Would I want to be left hanging like this? My answer to myself was No, I would not.
I Prayed for the right and proper course of action in this situation.
I came to the conclusion that, with a ~ 11 hr time difference and since I would not want to be left hanging as that is not fair nor condictive in working on a relationship, that the hounrable thing to do was to let Him go.
Relationships need work.
It is not fair to Ali for him to be online waiting for me and I unable to get to a place where I could get on line. Nor can I afford a connection Bundle in my home, at this time.
As I told you, in my email, I Love You too much to do this to you, Ali. It is so sweet of you to want to wait for me forever. I can't let you do that, though. it is not fair to you. I need to ride this situation out alone, for now. If G-d means for us to be together we will be.
Right now, I need to work through the things as they are. Ali, If i can't take care of me, how can I take care of US?
I had to do the most difficult thing I ever had to do in asking you to let me let you go and for you to let me go too.
Ladies, Ali, is a wonderful man. any of you would be quite lucky to have Him. I was Blessed to have his Love.
Ali, as I told you, I had to Love you enough to do the right thing and let you go. I hope one day you can forgive me. I am sorry for hurting you.
To all of our CS Family, I apologize for hurting one of our CS Brothers . . . I ask that when you think of me, please think on the positive things I have tried to do here for others and not this negative one.
I thank you all for your awesome support of us in announcing our LDR and I apologize again for hurting one of us. Please Support and Encourage Ali.
Thank-you, Cyndie
This is the suckiest thing I've had to read in a long time! It really brings me down!
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I am so sorry!
We in this modern age forget that some of the greatest romances and lives together were lived during hard times. People wrote letters and waited days, weeks, and months for a reply. Each word read over and over, cherishing those few things said. Some of the most beautiful letters written to loves in the cival war kept relationships whole. We are so spoiled to instant things that we consume and really never savour the whole and all its full flavor. Wiether it be coffee or love we have lost so much in quaility to the right now....now....now. Consider the ways of old and let love flourish if both are willing. Also things change quickly in this age.....new jobs are found, new ways are found.
We in this modern age forget that some of the greatest romances and lives together were lived during hard times. People wrote letters and waited days, weeks, and months for a reply. Each word read over and over, cherishing those few things said. Some of the most beautiful letters written to loves in the cival war kept relationships whole. We are so spoiled to instant things that we consume and really never savour the whole and all its full flavor. Wiether it be coffee or love we have lost so much in quaility to the right now....now....now. Consider the ways of old and let love flourish if both are willing. Also things change quickly in this age.....new jobs are found, new ways are found.
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I am sorry to hear that.We can only live and hope for a better time.
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there is always light at the end of the tunnel....bad time doesn't last forever. So, let's just wait for the good time. your trouble will over in no time by the grace of god almighty
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RillyNiceGuy: I am so sorry!
We in this modern age forget that some of the greatest romances and lives together were lived during hard times. People wrote letters and waited days, weeks, and months for a reply. Each word read over and over, cherishing those few things said. Some of the most beautiful letters written to loves in the cival war kept relationships whole. We are so spoiled to instant things that we consume and really never savour the whole and all its full flavor. Wiether it be coffee or love we have lost so much in quaility to the right now....now....now. Consider the ways of old and let love flourish if both are willing. Also things change quickly in this age.....new jobs are found, new ways are found.
We in this modern age forget that some of the greatest romances and lives together were lived during hard times. People wrote letters and waited days, weeks, and months for a reply. Each word read over and over, cherishing those few things said. Some of the most beautiful letters written to loves in the cival war kept relationships whole. We are so spoiled to instant things that we consume and really never savour the whole and all its full flavor. Wiether it be coffee or love we have lost so much in quaility to the right now....now....now. Consider the ways of old and let love flourish if both are willing. Also things change quickly in this age.....new jobs are found, new ways are found.
Nicely put Rilly. Remember the good old days of snail mail, before the computer and the internet? When one picked out lovely stationery and wrote with calligraphic pens, you know all those special touches that kept romance alive across the waves. Guess we've forgotten how it used to be. Couldn't have said it better myself.
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RillyNiceGuy: I am so sorry!
We in this modern age forget that some of the greatest romances and lives together were lived during hard times. People wrote letters and waited days, weeks, and months for a reply. Each word read over and over, cherishing those few things said. Some of the most beautiful letters written to loves in the cival war kept relationships whole. We are so spoiled to instant things that we consume and really never savour the whole and all its full flavor. Wiether it be coffee or love we have lost so much in quaility to the right now....now....now. Consider the ways of old and let love flourish if both are willing. Also things change quickly in this age.....new jobs are found, new ways are found.
We in this modern age forget that some of the greatest romances and lives together were lived during hard times. People wrote letters and waited days, weeks, and months for a reply. Each word read over and over, cherishing those few things said. Some of the most beautiful letters written to loves in the cival war kept relationships whole. We are so spoiled to instant things that we consume and really never savour the whole and all its full flavor. Wiether it be coffee or love we have lost so much in quaility to the right now....now....now. Consider the ways of old and let love flourish if both are willing. Also things change quickly in this age.....new jobs are found, new ways are found.
Wow I didn't see this before. Awwwww Cj I'm so sorry
Rillys words are indeed so true though. I wonder how many of us would actually be in happy relationships if computers didn't even exist. Most I would think
I'm thinking of you both
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You have to work it out CJ...you two love each other so much. You have to find ways to keep it going.
Write letters to each other....anything. Just keep trying.
I am so sorry for you guys. Such a lovely couple.
Write letters to each other....anything. Just keep trying.
I am so sorry for you guys. Such a lovely couple.
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Hi Cyndie,
Have you two met in person face to face....
Have you two met in person face to face....
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It's always sad when something like this happens.
Hugs to you both.
Hugs to you both.
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That is so sad Cyndie...I hope Ali is ok.
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Oh geez... I'm so sorry to read this. Seemed like you two were such a nice couple. I have to agree with what's been said before that if you two love each other, there are other ways to continue the relationship, but alas it's your decision. I hope this will be one of those instances where in the end, something good will come from bad circumstances.
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I know the economy is bad here in the USA but didn't know it was that bad. And true it is hard to make good friends online and stay in touch with them if one doesn't have easy access to a computer connected online. Here in St. Petersburg they are trying to offer free wifi that covers the entire city so everyone can go online for free. And with wifi netbooks going for around $300 and even free citywide cell phone calls looks like things are going to be a lot easier.
Also Cyndie you are a very caring woman in making this public announcement. At least you and Ali can still stay in touch when you two are online at the same time. Hope conditions improve or you win the lottery.
Also Cyndie you are a very caring woman in making this public announcement. At least you and Ali can still stay in touch when you two are online at the same time. Hope conditions improve or you win the lottery.
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Cyndie, I truly believe, as Len stated earlier, there are ways to keep your love strong, besides the computer. Write letters. If you truly love one another you will find a way to make it work. But if you are positive in your own mind and heart that you want to bring it to a close, then yes, I agree, this is best. No reason to give him false hope if you are sure there is no way it can work. My best to both of you.
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As many of you know, Ali and I a re no longer in an LDR. This is NOT Ali's fault.
It is my request, to all of you, to Please Comfort, Support and Encourage Him through this.
I asked Him to let me let him go.
My reason is because of my Financial straights and the ecconomic condition of my State and Country. I am not in a position to be in a relationship right now.
I do not have the resources to be able to get online on a regular basis. The Governor of my State cut funding to Libraries, College Financial Aid and more.
As a result, the Libraries all over the County have cut hours and services. Which leaves me in even more of a bind.
My Parents taught us that when we are faced with adverse situations which also affect others, to ask ourselves if the things we have to adjust to cause us to treat others in a fashion that we would not want to be in.
If so, then leave things alone. If not, then think about the Respectful, Honourable thing needed to treat Him or Her right and be big enough take the steps needed as you would want done to you.
I had to face this question head on last month when my car broke down and I was left stranded for several weeks with no way to reach Ali to let him know what was going on.
I thought long and hard about this from all anges and asked myself, Would I want to be left hanging like this? My answer to myself was No, I would not.
I Prayed for the right and proper course of action in this situation.
I came to the conclusion that, with a ~ 11 hr time difference and since I would not want to be left hanging as that is not fair nor condictive in working on a relationship, that the hounrable thing to do was to let Him go.
Relationships need work.
It is not fair to Ali for him to be online waiting for me and I unable to get to a place where I could get on line. Nor can I afford a connection Bundle in my home, at this time.
As I told you, in my email, I Love You too much to do this to you, Ali. It is so sweet of you to want to wait for me forever. I can't let you do that, though. it is not fair to you. I need to ride this situation out alone, for now. If G-d means for us to be together we will be.
Right now, I need to work through the things as they are. Ali, If i can't take care of me, how can I take care of US?
I had to do the most difficult thing I ever had to do in asking you to let me let you go and for you to let me go too.
Ladies, Ali, is a wonderful man. any of you would be quite lucky to have Him. I was Blessed to have his Love.
Ali, as I told you, I had to Love you enough to do the right thing and let you go. I hope one day you can forgive me. I am sorry for hurting you.
To all of our CS Family, I apologize for hurting one of our CS Brothers . . . I ask that when you think of me, please think on the positive things I have tried to do here for others and not this negative one.
I thank you all for your awesome support of us in announcing our LDR and I apologize again for hurting one of us. Please Support and Encourage Ali.
Thank-you, Cyndie