Taming a Player- can it be done? (18)
I use to play football
but i guess that s not what you wanted to know....
but i guess that s not what you wanted to know....
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Firstly i don't believe you can 'tame ' anyone if they want to change they will, but often they change for a while and go back to their old behaviour.
No I think they rarely change and become clever at concealing it.
No I think they rarely change and become clever at concealing it.
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Boban1: I use to play football
but i guess that s not what you wanted to know....
ha ha but i guess that s not what you wanted to know....
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Yes it can be, just threaten them with bunny buzzz buzzzz!
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LaVerdad: Yes it can be, just threaten them with bunny buzzz buzzzz!
Once a player always a player, just might do it is a different form.
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LaVerdad: Once a player always a player, just might do it is a different form.
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LaVerdad: Yes it can be, just threaten them with bunny buzzz buzzzz!
Is that an electric guitar?
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amelie13: I was intrigued by a conversation I had with a colleague the other day - he said that he had been a 'player' in the past & that he had also 'tamed' a girl who was a player.
I've always given players a wide berth dating-wise. I guess this is because I suspect many of them will never change.
What are your thoughts on this? Have you 'tamed' a player? Are players capable of changing - or will they always be looking around for that next dating experience?
I've always given players a wide berth dating-wise. I guess this is because I suspect many of them will never change.
What are your thoughts on this? Have you 'tamed' a player? Are players capable of changing - or will they always be looking around for that next dating experience?
I wouldn't waist my time with a player, so taming is definitely out of the question for me!!
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rubendario: I wouldn't waist my time with a player, so taming is definitely out of the question for me!!
Since I joined CS I've been playing the fool........... is it possible for me to become mature and wise and crippled before I learn how to become a rel player?
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LaVerdad: Once a player always a player, just might do it is a different form.
Hmmmm...I think there is such a thing as personal evolution. Don't you?
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Not sure if one "can," but ironically, someone who's attracted to a "player" is likely to end up losing the attraction once the taming is complete, since it was the player-ness that attracted them in the first place.
Kinda like romance novels, where the girl gets the bad boy and he ends up becoming all loving and mature and they get together and whatnot. They never explain how five years later they went through a divorce when either he cheated on her and took off, or she cheated on him because she missed the bad-boy-ness.
Kinda like romance novels, where the girl gets the bad boy and he ends up becoming all loving and mature and they get together and whatnot. They never explain how five years later they went through a divorce when either he cheated on her and took off, or she cheated on him because she missed the bad-boy-ness.
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amelie13: I was intrigued by a conversation I had with a colleague the other day - he said that he had been a 'player' in the past & that he had also 'tamed' a girl who was a player.
I've always given players a wide berth dating-wise. I guess this is because I suspect many of them will never change.
What are your thoughts on this? Have you 'tamed' a player? Are players capable of changing - or will they always be looking around for that next dating experience?
I've always given players a wide berth dating-wise. I guess this is because I suspect many of them will never change.
What are your thoughts on this? Have you 'tamed' a player? Are players capable of changing - or will they always be looking around for that next dating experience?
Of course not and your question is not intriguing, it's the very reason why women get hurt over and over again.
Many women choose men that cheat and are players. They dont look at their actions but the romanticism of their words. Instead of realizing they are being used and get treated poorly, they magically act like this guy actually loves them and treats them well.
Women then naively think,"my love will change him". Then they get cheated over and over and go to the forum section of a dating site asking,"are there any good guys out there", or "men are dogs".
Show me a woman that is naive enough to think they can change a man, and I'll show you someone heading for a heart break.
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Taming a player is like trying to TAME a guy that benchpresses over 700 pounds and telling him,,,,''Why do you have to benchpress 700...can't you be just happy benching 300??
No...
IMPOSSIBLE.
No...
IMPOSSIBLE.
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players will only change themselves, nobody can change a player.
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Denote a "Player" for me...please!
Do you mean a guy that flits from woman to woman or one that approaches a lot of women to see if any suit him?
Do you mean a guy that flits from woman to woman or one that approaches a lot of women to see if any suit him?
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mjames: Of course not and your question is not intriguing, it's the very reason why women get hurt over and over again.
Many women choose men that cheat and are players. They dont look at their actions but the romanticism of their words. Instead of realizing they are being used and get treated poorly, they magically act like this guy actually loves them and treats them well.
Women then naively think,"my love will change him". Then they get cheated over and over and go to the forum section of a dating site asking,"are there any good guys out there", or "men are dogs".
Show me a woman that is naive enough to think they can change a man, and I'll show you someone heading for a heart break.
Many women choose men that cheat and are players. They dont look at their actions but the romanticism of their words. Instead of realizing they are being used and get treated poorly, they magically act like this guy actually loves them and treats them well.
Women then naively think,"my love will change him". Then they get cheated over and over and go to the forum section of a dating site asking,"are there any good guys out there", or "men are dogs".
Show me a woman that is naive enough to think they can change a man, and I'll show you someone heading for a heart break.
I agree with you - I have no interest in trying to change any guy I date. If I need to 'change' him, he's not the guy for me. Thankfully, the appeal of the bad boy disappeared for me in my very late teens.
In defense of many women though, 'players' often do not treat women poorly at the beginning - quite the opposite in fact. They are often the nicest guys you've ever met when you first encounter them. By the time the player has reeled them in, women are totally head over heels & that's when the player starts to distance himself and look around for new women & experiences.
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amelie13: I agree with you - I have no interest in trying to change any guy I date. If I need to 'change' him, he's not the guy for me. Thankfully, the appeal of the bad boy disappeared for me in my very late teens.
In defense of many women though, 'players' often do not treat women poorly at the beginning - quite the opposite in fact. They are often the nicest guys you've ever met when you first encounter them. By the time the player has reeled them in, women are totally head over heels & that's when the player starts to distance himself and look around for new women & experiences.
In defense of many women though, 'players' often do not treat women poorly at the beginning - quite the opposite in fact. They are often the nicest guys you've ever met when you first encounter them. By the time the player has reeled them in, women are totally head over heels & that's when the player starts to distance himself and look around for new women & experiences.
i suppose that is where the term "playa/player" comes in...its just a big GAME to them.
and after the first time(and ill be generous and even say the second time) a person lets themselves get "played" by the "player" then shame on them. u can only put so much blame the player since the played continues to play into the game.im sure u've heard the saying "fool me once,shame on u, but fool me twice,shame on me"
besides why waste the time to try to reform a person. finding someone who already has their act togther seems a more plausable option.
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I've always given players a wide berth dating-wise. I guess this is because I suspect many of them will never change.
What are your thoughts on this? Have you 'tamed' a player? Are players capable of changing - or will they always be looking around for that next dating experience?