dating single moms ( Archived) (106)

It can be very difficult, I know...the last date I had the suffering of enduring was LAST JUNE. Most men feel the same way as the gentlemen who made that blunt comment about "hitting it and quitting it". The thing is we are as honest as possible telling a potential mate about our single motherhood; yet, they string us along with their lies about being open and understanding about our situations. Once they "hit it" all of a sudden they remember their morals and have to admit that they, unfortunately, cannot handle being in a serious relationship with a single mom. Or, they are simply of the opinion that single moms are "used goods" and therefore, can be excused from treating us with the same respect as they would a woman with no children. On the flip side of that, when a single mother just goes after a man for his money, or leaves all emotions out of a relationship in the exact same way a man does, she is "dogged out" and labeled a golddigger or a bXXXh. Now, that's the blunt and honest truth.

ah i hope he comes along to me soon too!...

come hither knight in shining armour and let us have a happy ever after....ending!...

x

Fascinating thread!

I think what is wrong is that single mothers have a stigma attached to them. I am British and I know what name they have in the UK and I certainly know what name they have in the US.

My girlfriend is the mother of a child. The father is not in her son's life, never has been, not likely to be in the near future. However, we are prepared should that happen.

I certainly would not be with a woman who had an array of children with different men. I see that as irresponsible, sad though that often women are the ones left to deal with the raising of a child.

James has made some very good points here, certainly he has been forthright with his views, but he has made some very good points. Single mothers do feel that they are penalised because they have children in the dating arena. Their finances may be strained, because they are not working, they may have had their education curtailed because of pregnancy and they may be stuck in a cycle for years and unable to move from that grid of feeling stuck. Some of them, and we are talking about single mothers, so it seems futile to come in and say we cannot say that about just single mothers, because that is the topic are downright lazy and certainly do not help themselves.

My girlfriend has certainly had it easy compared to some. Straight away, she has never called herself a 'single mother' She has never once complained, chased the father for child support, her belief was if he wanted to contribute he would, why chase him for it. She has worked the system well, used all resources for childcare that she could and while she did not have masses of disposable income, she ran a lovely home and was able to work, own a car, have a holiday once a year and pay her mortgage and bills. She worked since her son was six weeks old.

I would not have dated a woman that was sitting on her backside all day, while her children were at school, watching daytime tv. I would not have dated a woman who felt that she should have some kind of medal because she was a single mother and listened to drivel about how tough it is being alone. It would not have interested me in the slightest. My girlfriend does not deserve a medal,she has done what any other responsible woman would do, raise a child and provide for that child to the best of her ability.

My dating days are over, but I would not date a single mother, I would date a woman who was responsible, able to manage her finances, intelligent and able to hold a conversation. TAhe fact that she has children is irrelevant.

If the single mom and I have a good connection , then how could I not except her kids as family, I would treat them as my own, I expect her to feel the same of my children.

I would only date one mom at a time, so dating a single mom is good by me

They know much more than the singles;
it is a bit much to handle.

I never had children and would love to meet someone with children. I always loved kids and got along with them so well.

I think it depends on maturity too. I think some guys aren't ready for kids because they don't want the responsibility yet. Nothing wrong with that either...their current life situation doesn't include an instant family.

HI NOTHING WRONG WITH CHILDREN, EVERYBODY WAS ONE ,I THEY ADD A EXTRA PLUS TO A RELATIONSHIP, LOVE ME AND LOVE MY CHILDREN. DONT ORRY GIRL IF CHILDREN ARE GOING TO PUT SOMEBODY OF LET THEM RUN,

Single woman are nice to date, those married ones husbands always wanna come along on a date.