Met a beautiful man online but... (137)
Sounds married to me but hey I am just a cynic. Whatever he has not been up front prior to the meet so tells me he is just a player.
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i love what he did and i love what you did
how flattering
and believable too, really.
i say continue as this
i actually had a similar scenario except they only met and had no physical contact...after meeting her a second time and the same result-just not a match
we began dating and almost a year later- well.....we are happily married
almost 2 years now
life is crookedy- keep dancing
fine job
how flattering
and believable too, really.
i say continue as this
i actually had a similar scenario except they only met and had no physical contact...after meeting her a second time and the same result-just not a match
we began dating and almost a year later- well.....we are happily married
almost 2 years nowlife is crookedy- keep dancing
fine job
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I wouldn't date a guy like that.
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elsson: Sounds married to me but hey I am just a cynic. Whatever he has not been up front prior to the meet so tells me he is just a player.
see? doom and gloom
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Cease communication with him. Full stop. He's not what you're looking for.
Find someone who's single and available, and save yourself (most likely) a lot of heartache, Maries.
Find someone who's single and available, and save yourself (most likely) a lot of heartache, Maries.
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SweetGoldenMe: I wouldn't date a guy like that.
why not?
its likely he was being honest
if not he wouldnt have had to get it off his chest right away maybe
and maybe he had a niggling feeling and followed it?
i know all my man told me was true cuz the other woman told me the exact same thing
life happens
we must take chances as long as they arent crazy ones
i think shes done a good calculation here and she is now still in a position to gather more info and decide later if it is an opportunity later
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mindfful: see? doom and gloom
Told ya I was a cynic.
Glad yours worked out though. especially with a scouser
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mariespoodles: Was back and forth on line for a week after my initial contact with a man (I contacted him after reading his profile)and found we had heaps in common... got on like a house of fire. Then 2 days ago he sent an email that required a personal chat on the phone as a reply via email would have been to long winded so I asked him for a contact no: which he happily obliged in giving me.
The next day I rang him and we spoke for ages about many things and found each other extremely enlightening to say the least... He explained that he had dated quite a few women but never mentioned really liking anyone in particular so I assumed he was still available. We agreed mutually about meeting up for coffee or a dog walk.
I have only been separated for a short few mths and still have a ways to go in finalising my divorce which he knew about... I sent him an email to say I thoroughly enjoyed our phone chat.
He then sent me an email in reply to my thank you one with a slight hitch.
Now he explains that he has been dating someone not long before I made the original contact and in fairness to her confessed he should have deleted his profile but also went on to say the temptation (after reading my profile) led him to respond... he explained that my separation was early days and thought a friendship would be better due to the timing. He expressed that he didn't want to have to sneak around with her to get to know me so would delete his profile after this email.
As I had his phone no: I replied in kind with a no hard feelings txt and thanked him for coming clean sooner than later about his situation. I admitted to him that I was slightly dissapointed but thanked him for his honesty and respect... I left the door open after we agreed to a friendship and wished him well in his new pursuit.
What would anyone else do in this situation?... Would you cut them off at the knees or would you leave the door open and continue getting to know this person if you got on extremely well?
The next day I rang him and we spoke for ages about many things and found each other extremely enlightening to say the least... He explained that he had dated quite a few women but never mentioned really liking anyone in particular so I assumed he was still available. We agreed mutually about meeting up for coffee or a dog walk.
I have only been separated for a short few mths and still have a ways to go in finalising my divorce which he knew about... I sent him an email to say I thoroughly enjoyed our phone chat.
He then sent me an email in reply to my thank you one with a slight hitch.
Now he explains that he has been dating someone not long before I made the original contact and in fairness to her confessed he should have deleted his profile but also went on to say the temptation (after reading my profile) led him to respond... he explained that my separation was early days and thought a friendship would be better due to the timing. He expressed that he didn't want to have to sneak around with her to get to know me so would delete his profile after this email.
As I had his phone no: I replied in kind with a no hard feelings txt and thanked him for coming clean sooner than later about his situation. I admitted to him that I was slightly dissapointed but thanked him for his honesty and respect... I left the door open after we agreed to a friendship and wished him well in his new pursuit.
What would anyone else do in this situation?... Would you cut them off at the knees or would you leave the door open and continue getting to know this person if you got on extremely well?
If he had only just began seeing (you said 'not long before), then I shouldn't think there is much harm done.
If a relationship is just beginning, I wouldn't expect a person to drop all prospects, simply to investigate the one. It's very admirable that he's let you know soon on into the deal, as you say, instead of either stringing you along for some time, or even worse, trying to pursue both relationships in tandem secrecy!
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elsson: Sounds married to me but hey I am just a cynic. Whatever he has not been up front prior to the meet so tells me he is just a player.
Hey elsson
hahaha.. yes a cynic indeed but thanks for the input... would a married guy really come clean after only a week into it and not forgetting I made the initial contact here... oh well... life goes on doesn't it ------ This thread is Archived ------
mindfful: i love what he did and i love what you did
how flattering
and believable too, really.
i say continue as this
i actually had a similar scenario except they only met and had no physical contact...after meeting her a second time and the same result-just not a match
we began dating and almost a year later- well.....we are happily married almost 2 years now
life is crookedy- keep dancing
fine job
how flattering
and believable too, really.
i say continue as this
i actually had a similar scenario except they only met and had no physical contact...after meeting her a second time and the same result-just not a match
we began dating and almost a year later- well.....we are happily married almost 2 years now
life is crookedy- keep dancing
fine job
Thanks MF
love this story and well wishes to the pair of you 
... yes life is crookedy and never ceases to amaze me at every turn 
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Was back and forth on line for a week after my initial contact with a man (I contacted him after reading his profile)and found we had heaps in common... got on like a house of fire. Then 2 days ago he sent an email that required a personal chat on the phone as a reply via email would have been to long winded so I asked him for a contact no: which he happily obliged in giving me.
The next day I rang him and we spoke for ages about many things and found each other extremely enlightening to say the least... He explained that he had dated quite a few women but never mentioned really liking anyone in particular so I assumed he was still available. We agreed mutually about meeting up for coffee or a dog walk.
I have only been separated for a short few mths and still have a ways to go in finalising my divorce which he knew about... I sent him an email to say I thoroughly enjoyed our phone chat.
He then sent me an email in reply to my thank you one with a slight hitch.
Now he explains that he has been dating someone not long before I made the original contact and in fairness to her confessed he should have deleted his profile but also went on to say the temptation (after reading my profile) led him to respond... he explained that my separation was early days and thought a friendship would be better due to the timing. He expressed that he didn't want to have to sneak around with her to get to know me so would delete his profile after this email.
As I had his phone no: I replied in kind with a no hard feelings txt and thanked him for coming clean sooner than later about his situation. I admitted to him that I was slightly dissapointed but thanked him for his honesty and respect... I left the door open after we agreed to a friendship and wished him well in his new pursuit.
What would anyone else do in this situation?... Would you cut them off at the knees or would you leave the door open and continue getting to know this person if you got on extremely well?]
Close the door! He waited too long to be honest...My current marriage which is ending...he waited too long to be honest about key important things...And, later that lead to years of lying and sneeking around. This man was sneeking around on his new pursuit, and may always look for greener pastures on the other side...So, if he did it to this new pursuit, he WILL do it to you...is only a matter of time. This opinion expressed is from my experience, but in the end...pls do what your heart tells u to do...Go with your intstincts...Women know when something is not right, we just don't always listen to it...Take care
The next day I rang him and we spoke for ages about many things and found each other extremely enlightening to say the least... He explained that he had dated quite a few women but never mentioned really liking anyone in particular so I assumed he was still available. We agreed mutually about meeting up for coffee or a dog walk.
I have only been separated for a short few mths and still have a ways to go in finalising my divorce which he knew about... I sent him an email to say I thoroughly enjoyed our phone chat.
He then sent me an email in reply to my thank you one with a slight hitch.
Now he explains that he has been dating someone not long before I made the original contact and in fairness to her confessed he should have deleted his profile but also went on to say the temptation (after reading my profile) led him to respond... he explained that my separation was early days and thought a friendship would be better due to the timing. He expressed that he didn't want to have to sneak around with her to get to know me so would delete his profile after this email.
As I had his phone no: I replied in kind with a no hard feelings txt and thanked him for coming clean sooner than later about his situation. I admitted to him that I was slightly dissapointed but thanked him for his honesty and respect... I left the door open after we agreed to a friendship and wished him well in his new pursuit.
What would anyone else do in this situation?... Would you cut them off at the knees or would you leave the door open and continue getting to know this person if you got on extremely well?]
Close the door! He waited too long to be honest...My current marriage which is ending...he waited too long to be honest about key important things...And, later that lead to years of lying and sneeking around. This man was sneeking around on his new pursuit, and may always look for greener pastures on the other side...So, if he did it to this new pursuit, he WILL do it to you...is only a matter of time. This opinion expressed is from my experience, but in the end...pls do what your heart tells u to do...Go with your intstincts...Women know when something is not right, we just don't always listen to it...Take care
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lol my lord are you sure he is not married ? he sounds like it.
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Ambrose2007: Cease communication with him. Full stop. He's not what you're looking for.
Find someone who's single and available, and save yourself (most likely) a lot of heartache, Maries.
Find someone who's single and available, and save yourself (most likely) a lot of heartache, Maries.
Hi Ambrose
Yes I agree that these situations can sometimes lead to a lot of heartache... I'm one to say never say never in positive or negative situations. Consider your post as taken on board and thanks ------ This thread is Archived ------
bunnie i refuse to quote your long post so i am addressing you by name
number one
i dont know how the guy could have told her any sooner
and two i didnt hear her say at all that she had any doubt really
but maybe i didnt hear her clearly
yes indeedy do elsson me also
we were friends and then it all played out well in the end and we are actually friends and really know each other and that happened cuz we werent 'dating' and impressing each other but just getting to know each other and build a friendship
all im saying poodle is stranger things have happened- i mean dating is dating and newly dating is nothing at all
thats what dating is exactly
he met her and dated a bit he dated you a bit
good gawd whats wrong with getting to know people? and he trusted you enuf to tell you and liked you enuf to tell you rather than create wreckage-
i cant stand when people take dating more seriously than its meant to be-thats how accidents happen-like pregnancies and quick marriages
NOW YOU SEE WHY IT WOULD HAVE BEEN WRONG TO QUOTE A LONG POST
number one
i dont know how the guy could have told her any sooner
and two i didnt hear her say at all that she had any doubt really
but maybe i didnt hear her clearly
yes indeedy do elsson me also
we were friends and then it all played out well in the end and we are actually friends and really know each other and that happened cuz we werent 'dating' and impressing each other but just getting to know each other and build a friendship
all im saying poodle is stranger things have happened- i mean dating is dating and newly dating is nothing at all
thats what dating is exactly
he met her and dated a bit he dated you a bit
good gawd whats wrong with getting to know people? and he trusted you enuf to tell you and liked you enuf to tell you rather than create wreckage-
i cant stand when people take dating more seriously than its meant to be-thats how accidents happen-like pregnancies and quick marriages
NOW YOU SEE WHY IT WOULD HAVE BEEN WRONG TO QUOTE A LONG POST
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wordking: lol my lord are you sure he is not married ? he sounds like it.
I think so, because he would not be so nervous if he had just a girlfriend, he could just tell her you are a old friend, but I would just follow his lead, if he calls talk, maybe he will be available soon, is he rich? Lol.
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Barrellofart: If he had only just began seeing (you said 'not long before), then I shouldn't think there is much harm done.
If a relationship is just beginning, I wouldn't expect a person to drop all prospects, simply to investigate the one. It's very admirable that he's let you know soon on into the deal, as you say, instead of either stringing you along for some time, or even worse, trying to pursue both relationships in tandem secrecy!
If a relationship is just beginning, I wouldn't expect a person to drop all prospects, simply to investigate the one. It's very admirable that he's let you know soon on into the deal, as you say, instead of either stringing you along for some time, or even worse, trying to pursue both relationships in tandem secrecy!
Gr8 minds think alike Barrello... I totally see all the points you have made in this post and highly regard your input
...Thanks sweetie
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Jacques1984: Cut them off at the knees definitely
hahaha!! You sound like it's either all or nothing kinda a guy
Thanks for your comment
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Ambrose2007: Cease communication with him. Full stop. He's not what you're looking for.
Find someone who's single and available, and save yourself (most likely) a lot of heartache, Maries.
I agree with Ambrose. Luv the new do.Find someone who's single and available, and save yourself (most likely) a lot of heartache, Maries.
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The next day I rang him and we spoke for ages about many things and found each other extremely enlightening to say the least... He explained that he had dated quite a few women but never mentioned really liking anyone in particular so I assumed he was still available. We agreed mutually about meeting up for coffee or a dog walk.
I have only been separated for a short few mths and still have a ways to go in finalising my divorce which he knew about... I sent him an email to say I thoroughly enjoyed our phone chat.
He then sent me an email in reply to my thank you one with a slight hitch.
Now he explains that he has been dating someone not long before I made the original contact and in fairness to her confessed he should have deleted his profile but also went on to say the temptation (after reading my profile) led him to respond... he explained that my separation was early days and thought a friendship would be better due to the timing. He expressed that he didn't want to have to sneak around with her to get to know me so would delete his profile after this email.
As I had his phone no: I replied in kind with a no hard feelings txt and thanked him for coming clean sooner than later about his situation. I admitted to him that I was slightly dissapointed but thanked him for his honesty and respect... I left the door open after we agreed to a friendship and wished him well in his new pursuit.
What would anyone else do in this situation?... Would you cut them off at the knees or would you leave the door open and continue getting to know this person if you got on extremely well?