would you stay in a relationship when.............? (172)
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Same here beautiful
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kagal: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Hi
My mum also passed away when I was 5yrs and when I was 8yrs my pops asked me if I liked a lady he was dating and also asked me what did I think of him marrying her ...At 8 years of age my thoughts were NO WAY ! this woman is not going to be my mum and NO-ONE could ever replace her..... My father never had another woman to MY knowledge and as an adult I sometimes feel guilty that I deprived my dad of love and affection ... My pops was also devoted to me and made the ultimate sacrifice for me...As an adult and a parent I am sorry but this is an impossible situation walk away and find some-one for you
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kagal: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
That's sometimes normal to some kids they feel insecure for the love of their dad once the mother is gone, the best thing is you have to date the daughter first try to win her heart then everything will be fine later.
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poor guy i feel for him when i broke up with my x i felt guilt about having women around my daughter and i am still picky about who meets her if you meet her you have past my 1st step, you dont meet the kids unless i am very sure about you as it should be, Q: is he that into you ? ,because if he was he would change things 
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She can't be in complete control.
If he's going out to meet a woman, and she doesn't want him meeting any women, well then, he's clearly showing that he has his own agenda.
The issue isn't whether he's going to be interested in you or not, it's just a matter of how he/you are going to get her to accept it.
Sounds like there's going to be a lot of problems- And I mean that regardless of whether he's going to be meeting any women.
Just need to be reasonable, sincere, and forgiving. People are going to get hurt, but that doesn't mean it can't come out better in the end than it started.
If he's going out to meet a woman, and she doesn't want him meeting any women, well then, he's clearly showing that he has his own agenda.
The issue isn't whether he's going to be interested in you or not, it's just a matter of how he/you are going to get her to accept it.
Sounds like there's going to be a lot of problems- And I mean that regardless of whether he's going to be meeting any women.
Just need to be reasonable, sincere, and forgiving. People are going to get hurt, but that doesn't mean it can't come out better in the end than it started.
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kagal: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Heck to the no!!!! So many single parents with spoiled brat kids wonder why they can't get dates.
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kagal: when I did mention it to him and well he told me to never tell him mention it to him again.
theres your answer
friends talk
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how about this one...
NEXT!
NEXT!
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Here's what you do...take one good opportunity when the three of you are together and you put her in her place in a polite way that makes her shut the hell up. She'll be stupified and the guy will totally respect/be in awe of you
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
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In response to: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
You said that he told you that you never get to meet his daughter? If that is so then maybe something else is going on here. That could just be an excuse for why you can't be a part of his home life. It is understandable that a single parent would not want to expose his/her children to everyone they date. However, if you have been dating a long time and he still says you can't meet her, then it has to make you wonder what his long term plans are. He's never going to make any type of commitment to you if you aren't even allowed to meet the most important members of his family.
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Imperial: You said that he told you that you never get to meet his daughter? If that is so then maybe something else is going on here. That could just be an excuse for why you can't be a part of his home life. It is understandable that a single parent would not want to expose his/her children to everyone they date. However, if you have been dating a long time and he still says you can't meet her, then it has to make you wonder what his long term plans are. He's never going to make any type of commitment to you if you aren't even allowed to meet the most important members of his family.
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Veritaas: Walk away. There is nothing you can do as it is not your place to do so.
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drummergirl01: Here's what you do...take one good opportunity when the three of you are together and you put her in her place in a polite way that makes her shut the hell up. She'll be stupified and the guy will totally respect/be in awe of you
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
reasonable answer BUT if he has already told her not to mention it again then it will backfire and then someone will get hurt when all she wanted was to love someone.
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kagal: He doesn't take anyone around his child so being friends with the child was a big NO.
I have met and dated people like this before. Immature adults with poor parenting skills are a no-go area for any relationship.
He is living vicariously through his child and it will backfire on him big time. Too late then, but nothing to be done now, he will not be willing to listen.
His child. His life. His choice. Leave them alone.
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drummergirl01: Here's what you do...take one good opportunity when the three of you are together and you put her in her place in a polite way that makes her shut the hell up. She'll be stupified and the guy will totally respect/be in awe of you
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
Easy to tell you have never done bereavement councelling!
If you ever behaved like that towards my child I'd have decked you.........out cold and no questions asked.
That is the most insensitive thing I have ever read.
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“when I did mention it to him and well he told me to never tell him mention it to him again”
“He doesn't take anyone around his child so being friends with the child was a big NO”
At first I would have told you to continue if you really love the guy and not let a 9 years old ruin a potentially good relationship but based on your above comments I think you should back out of it as soon as possible. If he was willing to put an effort I’m sure things could be worked out but doing it alone will only make things worse for everyone and he’ll surely end up turning against you.
“He doesn't take anyone around his child so being friends with the child was a big NO”
At first I would have told you to continue if you really love the guy and not let a 9 years old ruin a potentially good relationship but based on your above comments I think you should back out of it as soon as possible. If he was willing to put an effort I’m sure things could be worked out but doing it alone will only make things worse for everyone and he’ll surely end up turning against you.
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katt1017: Nothing you can do will change the situation.
I'm with this person all the way.
If the Man your dating likes you enough he will deal with his daughter, however she will always come first. I have two boys, and they always come first, however it doesn't stop me dating as they want me to be happy
Good luck with your situation.
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drummergirl01: Here's what you do...take one good opportunity when the three of you are together and you put her in her place in a polite way that makes her shut the hell up. She'll be stupified and the guy will totally respect/be in awe of you
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
I'm a communication major...sure of this...that's what I'd do!
Very little common sense thought where you studied then... What a great way to never see either of them again
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kagal: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
This does not add up, somehow.
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