No one wants to hear about how hurt you've been. ( Archived) (184)

I'll take your word for it, besides am not long in the forums, and don't know as yet well, the regulars reactions.-

Admittedly am critical yes,especially towards the conceited ones and the ones when their egos do not allow them to say " sorry i was wrong", you see, i judge myself,when am at fault i admitted, and i expect from the others the same,unfortunately, and rightly so,not everybody feel,and act like me.

Well,we've got to agree to disaggre that we are defferent,as we are in the same line of thought,i think.

Absolutely. Pity parties make lousy dates, though, and way, way lousier profiles... In my opinion, of course. There's always time after the "Gee, we really like each other" part of things to spill your guts about the gory details of how mean and awful your ex spous(es) have been. But that's just me.

I suppose to others, nothing says "I'm gonna be the best thing that ever happened to you" than making it very obvious that you're an emotional wreck.

Different strokes for different folks. I probably could have made the title of the thread "does anyone else find negativity, bitterness and overwhelming emotional angst a big turnoff in a profile or date?".

But then there wouldn't have been this much discussion.

Any woman who is not astute enough to discern that my acronym for PMS was androgynous and had no bearing on "woman", per se., simply wouldn't be a good match for me, anyway. I really enjoy the company of a woman who gets what I'm saying because you can't find humor in it if you don't understand it. I'd explain why PMS (as Poor Me Syndrome) in an androgynous reference might be mildly humorous if taken quite right, but humor explained is humor that isn't, so I'm afraid in one post, the possibility for a delightful and wonderful long-term marriage to you has been dashed. And I do so enjoy fishing the Great Miami River, boating at Caeser's Creek, the Air shows at Wright-Pat, fine dining at the nicer restaurants around the mall and in Cincinnati.

Would you change your mind if I said that I would love to spend our first date hearing all about how horrible your life has been, hugging you and commiserating about the horrid misfortunes you've endured. I'll try anything. I didn't imagine I would enjoy hearing about all the details of your previous relationships and the past men in your life while first dating, but it might be utterly compelling and captivating!

I've changed my mind about it. Yes. Yes, I would love to hear all about how hurt you've been. It would be a splendid ice-breaker. We shall go to Englewood Park this Saturday, maybe rent a canoe and go out on the lake where it's nice and quiet and you can tell me all about it.

9:00 sharp. Light makeup would be in order as would shorts and an airy blouse. I'll have sunscreen in case you forget yours. I shall bring the crying towel and you the basket of sandwiches and potato salad. No relish, but some onion and egg, please. Don't make plans for the evening because if the drama goes well and is captivating enough, I might decide that you should go to dinner with me.

Till then,

It would be quite hard to learn something new if everyone had exactly the same opinion on everything. But we could all sit around nodding at each other in approval!!!