Mr Good Enough (113)

Noticed an article in the Sunday magazine of the Herald Sun today.
Pretty spot on really.

Here's a similar article that was in marie clare.

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"It sounds obvious now, but I didn't fully appreciate back then that what makes for a good marriage isn't necessarily what makes for a good romantic relationship," wrote Gottlieb, in this month's issue of marie claire. "Once you're married, it's not about whom you want to go on holiday with; it's about whom you want to run a household with. Marriage isn't a passion fest and it isn't a cosmic connection - it's about having a teammate."

Her advice?
"Don't ditch a guy based on an annoying habit or abysmal sense of aesthetics - because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Some guys aren't worldly, but they'd make great dads. Another might be 163cm with an unfortunate nose, but he "gets" you."

Here's the link to the Herald Sun article:

I like the bit about checking off the list with your pre-requisites, sounds like what I do when browsing through the profiles.
I also thought the stuff about peoples bad points that you accepted early, or those little incompatible things you lived with early on in a relationship are like mould, they fester away and grow into fungus you simply can't live with come 10 years on into a relationship. So a Mr Good Enough in this instance would turn out to be a mushroom 10 years on.

i agree serene if theres no spark and ur just settling for near enough or good enough, it isnt going work its gonna fizzle down the track and nobody wants a damp fizzle

You are so right you should never just settle for someone to avoid being alone, the spark and attraction should be thier from the word go.

no settling is un fair to the person ur with, if u cant be true to them then whats the point and i dont get the people who meet someone then try to systematicley try to change someone... whats with that if ur trying to change them into someone different then there obviously not ur correct partener...im searching for that someone who has the same silly sense of humour as me ,that enjoys doing the same things,the last couple of people have knocked the stuffing out of me.... and ive give up searching ....im now just going with the flow, think i would rather just be happy with the friends ive madeand settle for that

Yes, we need to settle in when we meet with the partner whoever they may be. No good being unsettled as that leads to an expensive settlement down the track.