Stood up 3 hrs before our date (178)
MissTabc: I'm dating for many years now. And I have never not kept my promises. I always do as I say, am on time, give my phone number so they can reach me in case of emergency. Even once when I wanted to cancel a date because I was sick he begged me to come because he had bought the train ticket from London to Brussels. So even then, I went and I was so sick I could barely walk. We tried to have a short dinner and then because I was too sick to drive home, he put me in a hotelroom and brought me home the next morning. It never turned out to be anything but even sick, we would have known if there would have been chemistry. Lol, I must have been his worst date ever. But at least he knew i hadn't been making up an excuse.
we are not a judge and jury
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In response to: I was supposed to go on a date tonight with a guy who seemed really nice.
I had arranged for my son to sleep at his dads house, I had booked a restaurant and was just starting to get my self ready as he texted me that he wouldn't come see me tonight.
When I texted him this: What have i done to you to deserve being dumped 3hrs before a date? He just didn't answer.
I'm so disapointed. Why do so many men just play games on dating sites and just want to hurt girls like me? He probably wasn't ever planning on meeting me and just finds these sort of games funny... I don't see the humour in it.
Are there any respectful and serious men out there because I really loose hope. It's so stupid and easy playing games like this. What's wrong with these people!?
Like you said, he could have misled you and not showed up at all.I had arranged for my son to sleep at his dads house, I had booked a restaurant and was just starting to get my self ready as he texted me that he wouldn't come see me tonight.
When I texted him this: What have i done to you to deserve being dumped 3hrs before a date? He just didn't answer.
I'm so disapointed. Why do so many men just play games on dating sites and just want to hurt girls like me? He probably wasn't ever planning on meeting me and just finds these sort of games funny... I don't see the humour in it.
Are there any respectful and serious men out there because I really loose hope. It's so stupid and easy playing games like this. What's wrong with these people!?
I say 'good riddens'. Better you found out sooner than later.
If he happens to contact you again, I wouldn't give him a second chance or even the time of day!
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MissTabc: He answered now and said he changed his mind about the situation, driving for so long for only a short date and so...
He could have changed his mind the whole week. 3 hrs in advance. Really.
He could have changed his mind the whole week. 3 hrs in advance. Really.
If he was really into You...he would have taken a round-world trip, even for a 1 minute date.
Check out the book and movie: "He's just not that into You"...
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After reading through some of this it looks like the guy in question made the right move, a little late but wise & smart 
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twinself: If he was really into You...he would have taken a round-world trip, even for a 1 minute date.
Check out the book and movie: "He's just not that into You"...
Check out the book and movie: "He's just not that into You"...
Very true, sometimes we are just too blind to see but better later then never.
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MissTabc: He answered now and said he changed his mind about the situation, driving for so long for only a short date and so...
He could have changed his mind the whole week. 3 hrs in advance. Really.
He could have changed his mind the whole week. 3 hrs in advance. Really.
He may have changed his mind because of your reaction to his cancellation. Or maybe your reaction confirmed what he was feeling about you.
It's understandable to feel hurt and angry when someone rejects you, but there's a certain irony in calling other people selfish and narcissist when your own reaction was all about yourself.
You could have texted back and asked him if he was okay. You could have opened up the conversation to find out what was going on with him, rather than closing it and making assumptions.
If he'd asked you for naked pictures, stalked you, or something like that, I could understand that's a boundary crossed and time to close the conversation, but cancelling a date at short notice, whilst disappointing, may happen for a variety of reasons.
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It is understandable that you feel hurt and rejected by him, especially if you fancied him.
The smart thing to do is act as if don't care and it doesn't matter a jot. Not everyone can do this, but it works, he is more likely to chase you if he thinks you you really don't give a damn.
Sometimes you gotta be the smart little girl with no heart. To catch him
The smart thing to do is act as if don't care and it doesn't matter a jot. Not everyone can do this, but it works, he is more likely to chase you if he thinks you you really don't give a damn.
Sometimes you gotta be the smart little girl with no heart. To catch him
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tomcatwarne: It is understandable that you feel hurt and rejected by him, especially if you fancied him.
The smart thing to do is act as if don't care and it doesn't matter a jot. Not everyone can do this, but it works, he is more likely to chase you if he thinks you you really don't give a damn.
Sometimes you gotta be the smart little girl with no heart. To catch him
The smart thing to do is act as if don't care and it doesn't matter a jot. Not everyone can do this, but it works, he is more likely to chase you if he thinks you you really don't give a damn.
Sometimes you gotta be the smart little girl with no heart. To catch him
To OP
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tomcatwarne: It is understandable that you feel hurt and rejected by him, especially if you fancied him.
The smart thing to do is act as if don't care and it doesn't matter a jot. Not everyone can do this, but it works, he is more likely to chase you if he thinks you you really don't give a damn.
Sometimes you gotta be the smart little girl with no heart. To catch him
The smart thing to do is act as if don't care and it doesn't matter a jot. Not everyone can do this, but it works, he is more likely to chase you if he thinks you you really don't give a damn.
Sometimes you gotta be the smart little girl with no heart. To catch him
The OP is 30 years old.
I would have thought that was an age where an adult relationship was the aim.
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jac379: The OP is 30 years old.
I would have thought that was an age where an adult relationship was the aim.
I would have thought that was an age where an adult relationship was the aim.
Just speaking from a mans point of view, some times we all play games, I dunno about you Jac, you being the wise old one an*all.
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tomcatwarne: Just speaking from a mans point of view, some times we all play games, I dunno about you Jac, you being the wise old one an*all.
No, I don't play those sort of games.
That's got nothing to do with wisdom.
It's a very simple recognition that if you would like a healthy adult relationship, you behave in a healthy adult way.
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jac379: No, I don't play those sort of games.
That's got nothing to do with wisdom.
It's a very simple recognition that if you would like a healthy adult relationship, you behave in a healthy adult way.
That's got nothing to do with wisdom.
It's a very simple recognition that if you would like a healthy adult relationship, you behave in a healthy adult way.
Oh, ok ma'm
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chris27292729: With comments like this,you are a liability in the Forums.
Yes Chris you tell him..
He makes the site look really bad..
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MissTabc: He answered now and said he changed his mind about the situation, driving for so long for only a short date and so...
He could have changed his mind the whole week. 3 hrs in advance. Really.
He could have changed his mind the whole week. 3 hrs in advance. Really.
You sound so disappointed, and that is fine.. so you should be.. you clearly went to the trouble of organising things at your end.
but I agree with Jac.. you could have texted and asked if everything was ok.. and given him a chance to explain..
Never mind.. what is done is done..
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..for someone who stood you up.....3 hours prior to the date...to my way of thinking you had a lucky escape.....he could have strung you along for weeks /months....till he was tierd of you......that would have been worse......it doesent put men in a good light I know.....thank god we are not all tarred with the same brush.......better luck next time.....
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MissTabc: I was supposed to go on a date tonight with a guy who seemed really nice.
I had arranged for my son to sleep at his dads house, I had booked a restaurant and was just starting to get my self ready as he texted me that he wouldn't come see me tonight.
When I texted him this: What have i done to you to deserve being dumped 3hrs before a date? He just didn't answer.
I'm so disapointed. Why do so many men just play games on dating sites and just want to hurt girls like me? He probably wasn't ever planning on meeting me and just finds these sort of games funny... I don't see the humour in it.
Are there any respectful and serious men out there because I really loose hope. It's so stupid and easy playing games like this. What's wrong with these people!?
I had arranged for my son to sleep at his dads house, I had booked a restaurant and was just starting to get my self ready as he texted me that he wouldn't come see me tonight.
When I texted him this: What have i done to you to deserve being dumped 3hrs before a date? He just didn't answer.
I'm so disapointed. Why do so many men just play games on dating sites and just want to hurt girls like me? He probably wasn't ever planning on meeting me and just finds these sort of games funny... I don't see the humour in it.
Are there any respectful and serious men out there because I really loose hope. It's so stupid and easy playing games like this. What's wrong with these people!?
Dear MissTabc, wheres asa I sympathise with your disapointment, he has every right to change his mind at any stage.
I am sorry you feel scorned but as I said before if he was playing a power game it would be better to act as if you didn't give a damn.
Whereas I wouldn't be in his position, he did did give you some notice and didn't just stand you up-
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Merriweather: You sound so disappointed, and that is fine.. so you should be.. you clearly went to the trouble of organising things at your end.
but I agree with Jac.. you could have texted and asked if everything was ok.. and given him a chance to explain..
Never mind.. what is done is done..
but I agree with Jac.. you could have texted and asked if everything was ok.. and given him a chance to explain..
Never mind.. what is done is done..
he was ok. he texted me to say that he din't feel like driving 2hrs for just dinner and drinks... there was nothing wrong with himself besides his personality
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