Digitally dumped! ( Archived) (60)

am i understanding this correctly...
you meet electronic.
date for many months,
move in together,
share your lives together for years
you come home one day, and she's gone.
but it's ok, cuz she sends you a text later?....

yah....nothin' wrong with that....

I'm pretty sure that after years of sharing life together that if one doesn't know why the relationship has been ended by then, then that person pretty much has had their head in the sand the whole time. At that point, no text msg or mail or even an in person mesg is going to alter anything because it's probably been tried over and over. It then becomes an exercise in repetitious futility where one realizes that no messages are ever properly heard no matter the medium used.

Thats not coward, that's just good common sense to stop putting your hand in the fire again.

As well, I think that people who are inclined to label others as cowards, after years of trying to function in a relationship but tending to relate poorly at the best of times, are probably the ones who instigated the downward trend in the first place. Since they're given to labeling and maligning people after the fact, I'd suspect that they were likely maligning the other person during the relationship as well.

I mean, seriously if one isn't mindful or even willing to consider why all they got was a text, then their focus is clearly on blaming the other person, failing to read their own contributory behaviors.

Personally, I'd avoid anyone who has chosen to so loosely label others as cowards without any consideration for what might prove to be a wise way to end things, because all they're doing is guilt tripping others with belittling labels to manipulate themselves into victim position. That spells d y s f u n c t i o n and there is no medium that will fix that most times.

The continued myopic and single minded focus on the medium used and further, worsening things by compounding the event with coward labels or other maligning verbiage, is an overt act of 'hiding' one's own defaulting behavior, which is to place and divert any and all blame outside the self.

jmho.

Nothing wrong with that, she was married to me for nine years and she called me and asked for a divorce. I said to her bring the paper work and i'll sign it for you. She said don't you want to know the reason, I said NO. She took the baby and left we are both happy i guess.

weell... if it works for both of you...great.

like i said above, i think relationships are as unique as the individuals involved in them.

were you living together at the time? or already separated?
did you know it was coming? did you own a house together? did one or both of you have to move? ......

see... there's so many different variables...

No one writes letters anymore.

I have never been on FB, and it has been years since I wrote
a letter, It would still be faster than the two fingered typing I
am doing now.