How do I deal with The Silent Treatment? (120)
LadyDiz2: And if he were wise he would not be making you chase him at all!
Knowing Max, his response will be something about me chasing him with my zimmer frame.
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peachmelba: 54xmax....hi there, ....oh dear max you wouldn't have to go out to the theatre if I was with you because I'd bring the drama to you and it wouldn't be the silent movies...yes I can see you running for cover right now,...haha....cheers.
Dear lady, that looks very young
, and has kept that true feminine beauty 
.I am a soldier 14 years now, I am used of terror, and dread that comes with the job description
. I got a bullet proof west and a helmet. I'd feel safe with you by my side, as I'd be making you dinner, while you are sipping a nice glass of wine, and keeping me company as I am seducing you with pleasant scents emanating from the stove .------ This thread is Archived ------
54xmax: It means that the person is trying to create drama, and get attention. Then criticize, and not own up to their own crap. I personally, when I did get such silent treatment, for whatever reason. For me, that was it. Because I do not do drama, and it was all about drama, and attention, and complicating. I go to the theatre for drama. This kind of behavior for me just shows an immature, childish character that cannot accept consequences for their own actions.
Bingo! You're spot on
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Kaybee50: Congratulations on your progress with the book Max.
Hoping it is most successful!
Hoping it is most successful!
It better be
. I got plans . I need to build a house, buy a new car, and so on . Not to mention, to leave the frikin army. I have done my bid for "King and country" .I will definitely send you a special edition, leather bound, intended just for those unique people, that left an amazing mark in my life. You definitely are one of them
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54xmax: It better be . I got plans . I need to build a house, buy a new car, and so on . Not to mention, to leave the frikin army. I have done my bid for "King and country" .
I will definitely send you a special edition, leather bound, intended just for those unique people, that left an amazing mark in my life. You definitely are one of them .
I will definitely send you a special edition, leather bound, intended just for those unique people, that left an amazing mark in my life. You definitely are one of them .
Gah! See what I mean ladies?
Thank you dear man.
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unlaoised: Have you been on the receiving end?
Yes
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kettleson: This was always heading for Doom
As soon as one thinks they can do better in Cyber Land than just hanging around there local Pizza joint for a proper date .
As soon as one thinks they can do better in Cyber Land than just hanging around there local Pizza joint for a proper date .
Actually, I do pretty well hanging around the vegetable section of the local supermarket. Also good is looking totally lost in the baby food or pet food sections. The maternal instincts kick in and the women rush to speak to and help the lost male.
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54xmax: Dear lady, that looks very young , and has kept that true feminine beauty .
I am a soldier 14 years now, I am used of terror, and dread that comes with the job description . I got a bullet proof west and a helmet. I'd feel safe with you by my side, as I'd be making you dinner, while you are sipping a nice glass of wine, and keeping me company as I am seducing you with pleasant scents emanating from the stove .
I am a soldier 14 years now, I am used of terror, and dread that comes with the job description . I got a bullet proof west and a helmet. I'd feel safe with you by my side, as I'd be making you dinner, while you are sipping a nice glass of wine, and keeping me company as I am seducing you with pleasant scents emanating from the stove .
vest. that is bullet proof vest. good to see you!
don;'t you think it is better to say nothing sometimes just to refrain from saying something regrettable in annoyance?
long term silent treatment, I agree, is for idiots
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PrettyPrescious: I've been cyberdating someone for over a year that I met online. He has told me that he deals with anger by not speaking. Well........he must be upset about something! He has been evasive lately.....then, today he met me online and said he wanted to talk with me. After greeting each other, he proceeded to........remain silent! I stayed with him for quite awhile, in hopes that he would finally say something, but he never did. I saw indications that he was reading my messages...b/c the little pic of him would pop up right after each of them. How would you deal with this? I love to get peoples' ideas!
I deal with the silent treatment with patience. It's the only way I know how. Trying to force someone out of would only strengthen determination to not talk and it is another mistake that'll lead to more of it.
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peachmelba: thetes a carnival on near me I'd love to take a Ryde in the bumpers all that bashing about get rid of my tension and retention,
I know a better way to help with that
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raphael119: I know a better way to help with that
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PrettyPrescious: I've been cyberdating someone for over a year that I met online. He has told me that he deals with anger by not speaking. Well........he must be upset about something! He has been evasive lately.....then, today he met me online and said he wanted to talk with me. After greeting each other, he proceeded to........remain silent! I stayed with him for quite awhile, in hopes that he would finally say something, but he never did. I saw indications that he was reading my messages...b/c the little pic of him would pop up right after each of them. How would you deal with this? I love to get peoples' ideas!
In dealing with the silent treatment I could start talking and theorizing about the silent treatment. That could be funny. Eventually they will crack a smile unless they are really mad.
Since this is about cyber dating though, this theory probably isn' t applicable.
I really don' t know personally for myself if I could keep up cyber dating someone for a year without meeting them.
Good luck.
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lol joey
I guess it is one of those things where if someone stops talking to me I just take it on the chin....there's folks I 'd rather not talk to, but I would not necessarily intend a "silent treatment"
so I am wondering if people mean different things when they refer to a silent treatment, maybe?
I guess it is one of those things where if someone stops talking to me I just take it on the chin....there's folks I 'd rather not talk to, but I would not necessarily intend a "silent treatment"
so I am wondering if people mean different things when they refer to a silent treatment, maybe?
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felixis99: lol joey I guess it is one of those things where if someone stops talking to me I just take it on the chin....there's folks I 'd rather not talk to, but I would not necessarily intend a "silent treatment"
so I am wondering if people mean different things when they refer to a silent treatment, maybe?
In a way the silent treatment is a bit childish when I think about it. I think the last time I gave someone the silent treatment I was about 12 years old. How young we learn.so I am wondering if people mean different things when they refer to a silent treatment, maybe?
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Thank you for all of your kind replies and support. Now he has left me a message, saying that he tried to reply to me but nothing would go through! He is using a smart phone and I'm using a laptop. I've never used a smartphone so I don't know if he is telling me the truth. I would like to hear from smartphone users--is he possibly telling me the truth? I've never used a smartphone, and we chat on Facebook chat.
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PrettyPrescious: Thank you for all of your kind replies and support. Now he has left me a message, saying that he tried to reply to me but nothing would go through! He is using a smart phone and I'm using a laptop. I've never used a smartphone so I don't know if he is telling me the truth. I would like to hear from smartphone users--is he possibly telling me the truth? I've never used a smartphone, and we chat on Facebook chat.
I think that's just another crap excuse.
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PrettyPrescious: Thank you for all of your kind replies and support. Now he has left me a message, saying that he tried to reply to me but nothing would go through! He is using a smart phone and I'm using a laptop. I've never used a smartphone so I don't know if he is telling me the truth. I would like to hear from smartphone users--is he possibly telling me the truth? I've never used a smartphone, and we chat on Facebook chat.
You're asking if he's possibly telling the truth here. That alone tells me that you're doubting his honesty. It would be a huge red flag for me.
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PrettyPrescious: Thank you for all of your kind replies and support. Now he has left me a message, saying that he tried to reply to me but nothing would go through! He is using a smart phone and I'm using a laptop. I've never used a smartphone so I don't know if he is telling me the truth. I would like to hear from smartphone users--is he possibly telling me the truth? I've never used a smartphone, and we chat on Facebook chat.
It's possible, I have trouble with phone signal and recently had over a week with without internet connection for my laptop.
It still doesn't tell you whether he's telling the truth.
There's obviously an issue here of communication, thoughts feelings and behaviours. Perhaps you need to look at how willing you both are to work this out. It will probably involve a lot of personal development and brutal honesty.
Do you think you can/are willing to do that?
Do you think he can/is willing to do that?
Is this a viable relationship?
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jac379: It's possible, I have trouble with phone signal and recently had over a week with without internet connection for my laptop.
It still doesn't tell you whether he's telling the truth.
There's obviously an issue here of communication, thoughts feelings and behaviours. Perhaps you need to look at how willing you both are to work this out. It will probably involve a lot of personal development and brutal honesty.
Do you think you can/are willing to do that?
Do you think he can/is willing to do that?
Is this a viable relationship?
It still doesn't tell you whether he's telling the truth.
There's obviously an issue here of communication, thoughts feelings and behaviours. Perhaps you need to look at how willing you both are to work this out. It will probably involve a lot of personal development and brutal honesty.
Do you think you can/are willing to do that?
Do you think he can/is willing to do that?
Is this a viable relationship?
I love your input--you are a smart lady, and diplomatic in your responses on these forums.
I have had a very poor internet connection lately, so I think it might be from my own end! I touched base with him today, from a public library in order to get better service, and everything was fine. During our time when his messages were not coming through (causing me to think he was not communicating), he stayed up way past his bedtime--and that is not typical of him. I believe him when he says he was trying to respond to me. Trying to get to know someone over the internet is a more difficult process than it is in person. That is why I like to skype, too, and I even had him write me a letter to send via post with photos of himself.
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Knowing Max, his response will be something about me chasing him with my zimmer frame.