meeting in the internet versus meeting in real life (110)
SweetOfMilkAttock, FATA Pakistan7 Threads 2 Polls 120 PostsToo shy to meet anyone in real life. 
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abcWOMAN: Congratulations; I’m happy to hear you’ve found someone through CS!
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
Yes there are great advantage in knowing people in real life. For one thing they can't be scammers.
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abcWOMAN: Congratulations; I’m happy to hear you’ve found someone through CS!
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
Yes there are great advantage in knowing people in real life. For one thing they can't be scammers.
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BerrySmoothie: Hi Lindsy,
Nothing beats a real life experience.
We can certainly be introduced over the internet, but a face-to-face meeting and spending time together is the only way to determine how things will go.
Long distance online relationships without any physical contact.....a fantasy really.
IMO.
Nothing beats a real life experience.
We can certainly be introduced over the internet, but a face-to-face meeting and spending time together is the only way to determine how things will go.
Long distance online relationships without any physical contact.....a fantasy really.
IMO.
I agree. Online meeting can give us a boost in what could be the right direction, but you must have that face-to-face meeting and spending time together to really see if you click.
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Having done both RL dating in the past, and online dating now, I have to say my preference is definitely for online dating.
Without having to shout across a crowded bar, I can now chat to, and find out about a person properly.
Maybe I have just been lucky since I joined CS, but it has been very good to me, and for me.
However, as others have also said, I don't believe a proper relationship starts until you meet in RL.
Without having to shout across a crowded bar, I can now chat to, and find out about a person properly.
Maybe I have just been lucky since I joined CS, but it has been very good to me, and for me.
However, as others have also said, I don't believe a proper relationship starts until you meet in RL.
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abcWOMAN: Congratulations; I’m happy to hear you’ve found someone through CS!
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
Thank you for joining in. Yes I wasn't looking. I was already living alone after 28 years of good marriage and was just writing when my best friend of 35 years informed me about a place to write. Upon finding that it's a DATING site I immediately dismissed the idea. It took her three attempts to get me to sign in and informed me not to post any pictures. I did and put NOT LOOKING. But a fellow poet and I were just spiritually connected and from there forged a beautiful almost divine relationship.
We learned a lot from each other and I believe even today our souls are together even if we're physically separated.
A MOST beautiful memory iz what we share and so it shall be.
Thanks
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SweetOfMilk: Too shy to meet anyone in real life.
Well as long as meeting them here on line is better for you? Go for it..
Take care.
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abcWOMAN: Congratulations; I’m happy to hear you’ve found someone through CS!
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
It’s no difference between paid and free dating sites, just talking from my own experience, there are scammers on both. Free dating sites are open to everyone; it might attract people who are not necessarily looking for a serious relationship or interested in dating. If you’re very serious about finding someone, you’ll probably have better luck on local dating sites. Most people don’t have the money to travel to another continent for a date. There are numerous of paid sites, where they match what you’re looking for. Can we really be sure the match has been honest with all details, career etc.
Meeting someone in real life is always a better choice. The Internet has more or less taken over; the most common way to meet your future partner is through dating sites (in my country).
One of my friend was actually a member of those local dating sites which cost a lot of money in the Bay Area and she met her husband there who is a very well respected elite member of the Business Sector and she said that they had a very strict system in ensuring the success of the couples they connect. All the preliminary investigation is done by the company and the member has to show proof of his identity as well proof of what he claims he is. Then they connect them together and the success rate is very high.
Perhaps the price of such an exposure is so expensive but so much better for the result I guess.
I am not quite into that. I personally didn't even think of meeting anyone to love on here but it just happened. I think what works for some doesn't always mean it works for everyone.
I am lucky I guess and for that I am thankful.
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In my case, neither has worked. I'm just too ugly 
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Halv0: I concer. I also found my love here. I think that the internet is a great way to be exposed and advertise oneself to a great deal more folk, but it is just an introduction. Dating really only takes place in real life.
That is how it worked for me. I have met many wonderful friends on here, and I met scammers on paid for sites.
Much for muchness whether one pays or not. Let's face it, paid for sites have to find the statistics (there are lies, damn lies and then statistics) to promote their business and to get profit.
But like you, free is just as good. I think it comes down to the fact that sooner or later a real friendship, relationship, partnership has to go offline.
That is how it worked for me. I have met many wonderful friends on here, and I met scammers on paid for sites.
Much for muchness whether one pays or not. Let's face it, paid for sites have to find the statistics (there are lies, damn lies and then statistics) to promote their business and to get profit.
But like you, free is just as good. I think it comes down to the fact that sooner or later a real friendship, relationship, partnership has to go offline.
I agree with you. We are here for so many reasons. For me, just like in the beginning when I joined, it is still the same. I am here for the writings and for learning. I used to read a lot and go to the movies a lot. Now I find my time here so entertaining and engaging. Sometimes there are those that just tick the hell out of you but just the same, it is fun and it is free.
Thanks.
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newinsouth: I agree. Online meeting can give us a boost in what could be the right direction, but you must have that face-to-face meeting and spending time together to really see if you click.
I couldn't agree with you more.
When I engaged everyday phone call and writing to my love then, (about 4 hours a day) boy didn't we spend tons of money on the bill as skype was not available yet. After 90 days of establishing a great chemistry, I flew in 13,000 miles to go and finally meet him and all the stars sparked and like a lightning we both felt like there was no other.
Yes, that physical and mental as well as emotional chemistry has to align to produce enough energy to sustain the challenges of long distance relationship. I have no regrets and until today, I would still say it is the most beautiful change I went through my life.
Thanks.
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mollybaby: Having done both RL dating in the past, and online dating now, I have to say my preference is definitely for online dating.
Without having to shout across a crowded bar, I can now chat to, and find out about a person properly.
Maybe I have just been lucky since I joined CS, but it has been very good to me, and for me.However, as others have also said, I don't believe a proper relationship starts until you meet in RL.
Without having to shout across a crowded bar, I can now chat to, and find out about a person properly.
Maybe I have just been lucky since I joined CS, but it has been very good to me, and for me.However, as others have also said, I don't believe a proper relationship starts until you meet in RL.
Totally agree with you Molly. How are you? I have been reading you for quite some time and it is nice to meet you here at the forum.
I am happy you enjoy meeting some dates on here Molly and yes indeed, the physical meeting either brake or make the relationship.
I have met my current man on here whom I am living with right now and can say that I truly love so much and I am grateful for this site..
Whatever makes us happy and where ever is the place that make us meet that special someone is all that matters, IMHO.
How we make that relationship bloom and go further to the next level is up to the both of us.
Halvo and his wife are great example as to how good it is to have that result.
Thanks Molly.
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stormylady81: One of the things that I learned about meeting someone either here on in real life is that people tend to look at the physical appearance first in real life. While online, yes people do seem to look at the appearance first but some tries to take time to know the person thus giving a chance to that person.
I have thought of that before too. That reading posts and emailing encourages us to get to know people on the inside
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Track16: In my case, neither has worked. I'm just too ugly
Track don't self deprecate yourself too much. You might think you are ugly because she, that is meant and is waiting for you is still somewhere trying to get to you.
Goodluck Track.
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lindsyjones: Is our chances in meeting a true and good partner better here? Or in real life? Or what about from a free dating site as opposed to a very expensive and exclusive one?
NOTE: On one of my flights to Australia, couple of years ago, One of the exclusive magazine published a dating site that is not only unique in the presentation but for the same token it costs very expensive to be a member.
One of the high lights on the story (not an ad) was how they guarantee your chances in finding exactly who you are looking for, including but not limited to career, economic and social status...
Of course, I didn't have to be enticed, I found my true love here at CS. FOR FREE.
Thank you CS.
Thank you all for your participation and or contribution. In agreement or not.
NOTE: On one of my flights to Australia, couple of years ago, One of the exclusive magazine published a dating site that is not only unique in the presentation but for the same token it costs very expensive to be a member.
One of the high lights on the story (not an ad) was how they guarantee your chances in finding exactly who you are looking for, including but not limited to career, economic and social status...
Of course, I didn't have to be enticed, I found my true love here at CS. FOR FREE.
Thank you CS.
Thank you all for your participation and or contribution. In agreement or not.
I'm not sure it matters as much. Personally, the longest internet based relationship/marriage I've seen was 12 years and 2 kids. That's achievable in real life too.
Behind a computer screen; it's easy to write a book on what could be, maybe what's current, even what's wanted. In the long run, the book and reality could clash like night and day. I'm certain there are reasonable odds of life long, you just don't hear about it happening much.
For those that have the luxury and freedom to travel where ever and when ever, I wish the best of luck to you which ever environment it happens in. The closer the locations to each other, the more real life is involved. That's more telling than any virtual one. Traveling isn't all bad. Reasonable is more preferred.
Internet is more like gambling take out. People place their order and roll the dice.
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Lonely1: That bad, eh?
If you can find anyone who will fit your profile exactly then they must be you.. You therefore have to aim for a cutoff point: 50/50?, 80/20?
But then again, how much are you willing to pay for such promising profiling?
If you can find anyone who will fit your profile exactly then they must be you.. You therefore have to aim for a cutoff point: 50/50?, 80/20?
But then again, how much are you willing to pay for such promising profiling?
how much are you willing to pay for such promising profiling?
I think before you can profile anyone, you have to find them first I guess. It is like the ocean where you know there are a lot of fish out there, but exactly where they are is the problem. How else is a better way than to be able to glance where these people you seek than where they are being pooled so you then see if they are the ones you truly are interested in. And then of course, these paid sites, they do that. The matching job is done by them and then they arrange that first date or meeting to actually investigate if they are truly whom you expected per your "order"?
Now I imagine that in a personal level without having used the web to find them, it is not the same in the sense where in you meet this people through friends, through parties, at random like at grocery store, etc. etc. The level of that first attraction is a factor to want to get to know that person.
Not too many people are keen on that mode of introduction but before there was any INTERNET, that was the only way of finding that special someone.
But here we are... here talking, conversing through the web..and we never know until we are found...My guess.
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felixis99: I have thought of that before too. That reading posts and emailing encourages us to get to know people on the inside
Yes Felixis, that is exactly how I got to know someone on here. And the depth of how we knew each other only got confirmed after we physically met and went on from there.
Our ability to probe and or ask questions are not inhibited by some embarrassing guilt because we can think of them first before hand? Maybe?
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newinsouth: I agree. Online meeting can give us a boost in what could be the right direction, but you must have that face-to-face meeting and spending time together to really see if you click.
Yes fantasy that can either die as just that, fantasy or a beginning of a more real than fantasy? Either way is both a result of the unfolding events based on the effort both put on from the moment they start talking. My guess.
Thanks.
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Draegoneer: I'm not sure it matters as much. Personally, the longest internet based relationship/marriage I've seen was 12 years and 2 kids. That's achievable in real life too.
Behind a computer screen; it's easy to write a book on what could be, maybe what's current, even what's wanted. In the long run, the book and reality could clash like night and day. I'm certain there are reasonable odds of life long, you just don't hear about it happening much.
For those that have the luxury and freedom to travel where ever and when ever, I wish the best of luck to you which ever environment it happens in. The closer the locations to each other, the more real life is involved. That's more telling than any virtual one. Traveling isn't all bad. Reasonable is more preferred.
Internet is more like gambling take out. People place their order and roll the dice.
Behind a computer screen; it's easy to write a book on what could be, maybe what's current, even what's wanted. In the long run, the book and reality could clash like night and day. I'm certain there are reasonable odds of life long, you just don't hear about it happening much.
For those that have the luxury and freedom to travel where ever and when ever, I wish the best of luck to you which ever environment it happens in. The closer the locations to each other, the more real life is involved. That's more telling than any virtual one. Traveling isn't all bad. Reasonable is more preferred.
Internet is more like gambling take out. People place their order and roll the dice.
That is another way of putting it. But that record of 12 years, is a good one, if you ask me. Some relationship founded on actually knowing someone other than from the web, don't last that long.
But of course, meeting is not the issue anymore once two people decide to get on in life together. It is how they let their love grow and go from there. Anything more than 12 months, to me is a good sign of a love that get us going, and to make it longer than that is a bonus..I think.
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I think the internet is JUST a tool of communication. We are truly living now in the age of information. It is likely better (in my opinion) to use a relatively free site over a paid site.
Just as in the early days when people believed in and went to local matchmakers so too there are newly created websites that are virtual matchmakers and is their success rate any better or worse?
Does knowing more about the person you meet on line and then meeting them in real life determine the love or longevity in a relationship?
This site has been very successful for me in meeting people and expanding my social circle. Get-together in Glasgow - and responding to a thread by a now friend in Germany who was visiting my city for a few days.
Not so much in the romance department - so far....
Just as in the early days when people believed in and went to local matchmakers so too there are newly created websites that are virtual matchmakers and is their success rate any better or worse?
Does knowing more about the person you meet on line and then meeting them in real life determine the love or longevity in a relationship?
This site has been very successful for me in meeting people and expanding my social circle. Get-together in Glasgow - and responding to a thread by a now friend in Germany who was visiting my city for a few days.
Not so much in the romance department - so far....
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