Is Marriage no longer necessary? (67)
Selenite: Is that that the reason? Personally I think it may have something to do with the fact women no longer need to stay in unworkable marriages because they don't work and have little choice. Women having careers means they have choices....
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Youcannow: What choices exactly?
The choices to not stay married, to move to a different house, to move to a different town, to start over...------ This thread is Archived ------
Ten_of_cupss: Choosing the wrong partner and the desire for instant gratification is what makes people fail in their relationships, especially more so today.
Unrealistic outlook on what a marriage is, all the glitter and weird romanticism.
Lack of work put into the connection and no responsibility on both ends.
Marriage isn't a walk in the park it should be looked after and cared for.
Not many are ready to do that.
I know so many people who have been in a"serious" relationship for many years and then suddenly marry someone else in a blink of an eye...
It should be easier to marry at older age, as we are supposed to be more mature and more wise.
Right?
But itseems to be easier to become cynical and egotistical instead?!
yes it could be the blink of an eye ,,,,,depending on which eye your referring to .......Unrealistic outlook on what a marriage is, all the glitter and weird romanticism.
Lack of work put into the connection and no responsibility on both ends.
Marriage isn't a walk in the park it should be looked after and cared for.
Not many are ready to do that.
I know so many people who have been in a"serious" relationship for many years and then suddenly marry someone else in a blink of an eye...
It should be easier to marry at older age, as we are supposed to be more mature and more wise.
Right?
But itseems to be easier to become cynical and egotistical instead?!
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If you truely love someone yes marriage is necessary. aint got nothing to do with men cant have babies news flash women cant either. only men and women can have babies. its not a buisness contract thats when u have a partner. when you truely love someone you have a wife or husband. if you got any standards you'll do your best not to loose your wife/husband.
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Selenite: The choices to not stay married, to move to a different house, to move to a different town, to start over...
Do men have the same choice , or it it exclusively for women ?------ This thread is Archived ------
Youcannow: Do men have the same choice , or it it exclusively for women ?
Men have always had that choice because they have always worked and had carreers...------ This thread is Archived ------
Selenite: Men have always had that choice because they have always worked and had carreers...
Not all men have careers 
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lonelytiger68: If you truely love someone yes marriage is necessary. aint got nothing to do with men cant have babies news flash women cant either. only men and women can have babies. its not a buisness contract thats when u have a partner. when you truely love someone you have a wife or husband. if you got any standards you'll do your best not to loose your wife/husband.
It's only fairly recently, about that marriage and love have been synonymous. Up to as little as around 150 years ago the purpose of marriage was to bring stability to the culture rather than make the individuals happy. Probably the vast majority of history's marriages would by todays standards be described as loveless.------ This thread is Archived ------
bodleing2: It's only fairly recently, about that marriage and love have been synonymous. Up to as little as around 150 years ago the purpose of marriage was to bring stability to the culture rather than make the individuals happy. Probably the vast majority of history's marriages would by todays standards be described as loveless.
Thanks for that useless information 
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Selenite: Is that that the reason? Personally I think it may have something to do with the fact women no longer need to stay in unworkable marriages because they don't work and have little choice. Women having careers means they have choices....
I definitely can’t disagree with what you said. I have many opinions on this subject. Like, there are many reasons people get married and break up. I see the traditional reasons for marriage devalued. People find it easier to walk out of a marriage because they find doing that is easier than working at problems they face in the relationship. Traditional marriage roles are obsolete with women being empowered today ending the need for financial security that was based on someone else. At the same time, I wonder what happens to both men and women's self reliance post some sort of natural catastrophe, devastation by war, or severely diminished reliable sources of energy (or combination.)------ This thread is Archived ------
I think marriage still has its place. Me and my partner are married and we are owners of two businesses and three properties which we both bought and paid for together and are completely debt free now. If one of us died and we weren’t married then where would our joint efforts go to? Simple question is not to the joint partner.there would be interference from his other children from his ex marriage.
Everything we built together could be taken away just by the fact we didn’t sign that little piece of paper to begin our journey with. It’s also important to me when you consider yourself next of kin if a funeral happens. Only you will know how your partner wants his funeral to be and it’s something that must be discussed. Like he knows what I want and I know what he wants. I also need to be the first to be called if something happens to him and vice versa
So yes marriage is still important if you plan on building something worthwhile.
Marriage is a building block to making a future.
Everything we built together could be taken away just by the fact we didn’t sign that little piece of paper to begin our journey with. It’s also important to me when you consider yourself next of kin if a funeral happens. Only you will know how your partner wants his funeral to be and it’s something that must be discussed. Like he knows what I want and I know what he wants. I also need to be the first to be called if something happens to him and vice versa
So yes marriage is still important if you plan on building something worthwhile.
Marriage is a building block to making a future.
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Only if there's a local community to pile in and make sure you stay married for the good of the town and you.
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Youcannow: Not all men have careers
Did most men not have jobs? A trade? A profession?------ This thread is Archived ------
bodleing2: It's only fairly recently, about that marriage and love have been synonymous. Up to as little as around 150 years ago the purpose of marriage was to bring stability to the culture rather than make the individuals happy. Probably the vast majority of history's marriages would by todays standards be described as loveless.
Stability to the culture? In what way did marrying girls/young women off for expending the family's assets bring stability to the culture? Which culture are you taking about?
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Selenite: Did most men not have jobs? A trade? A profession?
Men did what that had to , to provide for their family . Marriages lasted longer because women respected their husbands , not because they had no choice .
Maybe you’ve had bad experiences, but that doesn’t reflect your reasoning
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galrads: I definitely can’t disagree with what you said. I have many opinions on this subject. Like, there are many reasons people get married and break up. I see the traditional reasons for marriage devalued. People find it easier to walk out of a marriage because they find doing that is easier than working at problems they face in the relationship. Traditional marriage roles are obsolete with women being empowered today ending the need for financial security that was based on someone else. At the same time, I wonder what happens to both men and women's self reliance post some sort of natural catastrophe, devastation by war, or severely diminished reliable sources of energy (or combination.)
Women ran factories and countries while men were fighting and dying during world war l and wwll...Women are resilient and would and do support one another post devastation rather than be in competition.
Some marriage problems are not solvable.
What do you think was the traditional reason for marriage?
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Selenite: Stability to the culture?
In what way did marrying girls/young women off for expending the family's assets bring stability to the culture? Which culture are you taking about?
Marriages were contracted arrangements made to produce, protect and nurture the young, this would preserve the tribe, to transmit social and religious values, not to mention channel anarchic libido in useful directions. In what way did marrying girls/young women off for expending the family's assets bring stability to the culture? Which culture are you taking about?
No, despite what the song says, love and marriage seldom went together like a horse and carriage.
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"Is Marriage no longer necessary"
Not only that but best avoided if you ask me.
Go up on a high hill the two of you,
and before God alone declear yourself husband and wife.
And then a moment of silence.
Not only that but best avoided if you ask me.
Go up on a high hill the two of you,
and before God alone declear yourself husband and wife.
And then a moment of silence.
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Unrealistic outlook on what a marriage is, all the glitter and weird romanticism.
Lack of work put into the connection and no responsibility on both ends.
Marriage isn't a walk in the park it should be looked after and cared for.
Not many are ready to do that.
I know so many people who have been in a"serious" relationship for many years and then suddenly marry someone else in a blink of an eye...
It should be easier to marry at older age, as we are supposed to be more mature and more wise.
Right?
But itseems to be easier to become cynical and egotistical instead?!