3 best decisions (33)

Nov 18, 2023 7:30 AM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
Your decisions, as known, led you to the point you are now at: "You are here" kind of. And I hope, you are content with that place under the sun :)

What are the three best decisions you ever made?
Nov 18, 2023 7:34 AM CST 3 best decisions
I can more easily tell you my three worst... lol

Good ones...hmm, that is hard...
No I can't think of any. Besides I don't like the place I'm in very much.
I need change. It will come though, promise you that.

How about you, name me a few good moves you made Tule.
Nov 18, 2023 7:38 AM CST 3 best decisions
Good was (on top of my head):
I moved to Gothenborg in 1989 and worked at volvo, didn't regret that.
Two: I helped my father as much as I could his last ten lonely years, don't regret that.
Three: I bought a sailboat in 2006 and used it for a summer and a bit into the next even if I mostly saild it alone. That was good. Would do similar again but this time hopefully with company

But none of this made me into who I am today.
Oh and I did read the bible (new testament) at age 20. That's good to have on board.

So- nothing big.
Nov 18, 2023 7:46 AM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
Grandsiozzie: I can more easily tell you my three worst... lol

Good ones...hmm, that is hard...
No I can't think of any. Besides I don't like the place I'm in very much.
I need change. It will come though, promise you that.

How about you, name me a few good moves you made Tule.
I thought about given a choice of naming 3 worst decisions as well, but then people seldom enjoy admitting mistakes and I did want to make a positive thread. (But you can create a "3 worst decisions" thread, can turn out it'll be a popular "Crying wall".)

In general therms, my list of best decisions is connected to education; in particular it contains (1) joining University (even if at age 38) and then (2) a Qigong course.

Don't have to third yet to much the first two :)
Nov 18, 2023 10:19 AM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
Yes, it is. Though, there is a lot of different schools and styles, you can choose what suites you best.

And on the second thought: moving to Gothenburg belongs to the best decisions list. Does it mean now that I've run off of all my good decisions or is there still some hope for me? laugh
Nov 18, 2023 11:00 AM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell: Yes, it is. Though, there is a lot of different schools and styles, you can choose what suites you best.

And on the second thought: moving to Gothenburg belongs to the best decisions list. Does it mean now that I've run off of all my good decisions or is there still some hope for me?
Still some hope. lol
hug
Nov 18, 2023 12:07 PM CST 3 best decisions
bodleing2
bodleing2bodleing2Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK84 Threads 6,132 Posts
I'm going to learn a qigong/thai chi dance routine tomorrow in Manchster's new Arriva Studios. There's a three hour workshop to learn the moves, then a public performance....bit daunting to be honest...wish me luck. laugh

Nov 18, 2023 12:21 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell: Your decisions, as known, led you to the point you are now at: "You are here" kind of. And I hope, you are content with that place under the sun :)

What are the three best decisions you ever made?
Giving up hard drugs, going on diet, and having pets.
Nov 18, 2023 12:48 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
bodleing2: I'm going to learn a qigong/thai chi dance routine tomorrow in Manchster's new Arriva Studios. There's a three hour workshop to learn the moves, then a public performance....bit daunting to be honest...wish me luck.

Good luck!

Though, from my experience, the Qigong crowd is very including, forgiving, warm and supporting. You'll be fine :)
Nov 18, 2023 12:50 PM CST 3 best decisions
DearyMe
DearyMeDearyMeCork, Ireland20 Posts
1. Buying a house at a relatively young age.
2. Moving for love.
3. Still loving with all I have despite heartbreaks.
Nov 18, 2023 12:50 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
Track16: Giving up hard drugs, going on diet, and having pets.
I am totally for!

The first two need a lot of willpower and for the third you get absolution for the first two :)
Nov 18, 2023 1:05 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell: I am totally for!

The first two need a lot of willpower and for the third you get absolution for the first two :)
One substance in particular, bit of chemicals involved in the processing of it (not meth). When I would do it, I would taste those chemicals. Every now and then if I get a scent of something with chemicals, sometimes its like what I used to taste and when I smell it, it takes me right back and I can almost taste it in the back of my throat.

I been away from it for years, but still prone to those flashbacks when everything lines up. I know I won't go back but between me and you, for a moment, I'll be like a salivating dog till I say "no", then it goes away again.
Nov 18, 2023 2:30 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell: Your decisions, as known, led you to the point you are now at: "You are here" kind of. And I hope, you are content with that place under the sun :)

What are the three best decisions you ever made?
1. To attend and graduate from a community college program
2. To purchase a house.
3. To move back to my beach town
Nov 18, 2023 2:31 PM CST 3 best decisions
DearyMe: 1. Buying a house at a relatively young age.
2. Moving for love.
3. Still loving with all I have despite heartbreaks.
Very good, sweetie--very, very goodthumbs up thumbs up
Nov 18, 2023 2:33 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
Track16: One substance in particular, bit of chemicals involved in the processing of it (not meth). When I would do it, I would taste those chemicals. Every now and then if I get a scent of something with chemicals, sometimes its like what I used to taste and when I smell it, it takes me right back and I can almost taste it in the back of my throat.

I been away from it for years, but still prone to those flashbacks when everything lines up. I know I won't go back but between me and you, for a moment, I'll be like a salivating dog till I say "no", then it goes away again.
It's the very portrait of an addiction. Fighting an addiction is like fighting yourself. It's a battle that seems impossible to win... until you change.

When you change, when you become a different person, a non-addict, then your addiction cannot reach you.

Emile Verhaeren has a poem, that I find a very suitable to the situation of fighting own weakness, "Sward", if I remember right. (Will try and find a translation, but no promises.)

Until then, a song, that I also find suitable: "This woman doesn't love you, but she will never let you go..."

It goes like: "...you were looking for a spouse, but you found your widow..."

Nov 18, 2023 2:58 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell: It's the very portrait of an addiction. Fighting an addiction is like fighting yourself. It's a battle that seems impossible to win... until you change.

When you change, when you become a different person, a non-addict, then your addiction cannot reach you.

Emile Verhaeren has a poem, that I find a very suitable to the situation of fighting own weakness, "Sward", if I remember right. (Will try and find a translation, but no promises.)

Until then, a song, that I also find suitable: "This woman doesn't love you, but she will never let you go..."

It goes like: "...you were looking for a spouse, but you found your widow..."
It never truly goes away. I got friends who cleaned up like myself and they all say the same, there are moments when they are put back on the spot and have to say no. Sometimes ignorance really is a bliss, if you don't know it, you will never miss it. Needs to be a lot more education put out there for young people so they never try the stuff to begin with. Its too late for my generation but hopefully the next generation to come will make better choices.
Nov 18, 2023 3:23 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
Track16: It never truly goes away. I got friends who cleaned up like myself and they all say the same, there are moments when they are put back on the spot and have to say no. Sometimes ignorance really is a bliss, if you don't know it, you will never miss it. Needs to be a lot more education put out there for young people so they never try the stuff to begin with. Its too late for my generation but hopefully the next generation to come will make better choices.
You are right, but I still believe, that the more you change, the less power your previous addiction has over you. It's like you have moved to another dimension. The most difficult thing is to say "no" the first time and then keep to the decision until not using becomes a norm.

And, surely, the person who used the drug then isn't the same person, who doesn't use now. You managed to changed your personality from what it was then to what it is now. The now-personality remembers the addiction, but remembering and using isn't the same thing.

And once again: it's very strong done hug
Nov 18, 2023 5:01 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell: You are right, but I still believe, that the more you change, the less power your previous addiction has over you. It's like you have moved to another dimension. The most difficult thing is to say "no" the first time and then keep to the decision until not using becomes a norm.

And, surely, the person who used the drug then isn't the same person, who doesn't use now. You managed to changed your personality from what it was then to what it is now. The now-personality remembers the addiction, but remembering and using isn't the same thing.

And once again: it's very strong done
You are right, as time goes on and you say no more, it do get easier. Most recovered people are like myself, have those scattered split second flashbacks, its being able to say no that keeps you on the right path. It only lasts like seconds, just a matter of not making a rash choice.
Nov 20, 2023 3:21 PM CST 3 best decisions
Tulefell
TulefellTulefellGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden102 Threads 5 Polls 3,276 Posts
DearyMe: 1. Buying a house at a relatively young age.
2. Moving for love.
3. Still loving with all I have despite heartbreaks.
I am totally jealous of your so mature decisions at a relatively young age (I'll never be that mature). But I wonder how did you manage to move for love together with a house?
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