Why it is like that a guy have to take initiative (24)
your_destinyUtrecht, Netherlands11 Threads 820 PostsAnybody can answer this.....I always seen that girls kept waiting for him to start even if they have strong feeling for him....rarely it happens that girl come forward and speak her mind..or am I missing something...... 
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Seems that we have been socially conditioned to wait for the guy to take the initiative.
For women, we are damned if we do and damned if we don't.
So, from what I'm hearing here. Take the risk - (why not, either gender...?)
Or, just wait for the guy to make the move...
* Truly, In my opinion, I think the guys prefer the chase and are put off by a woman
who actually start something up.
What is the truth? Is it just individual preference?
For women, we are damned if we do and damned if we don't.
So, from what I'm hearing here. Take the risk - (why not, either gender...?)
Or, just wait for the guy to make the move...
* Truly, In my opinion, I think the guys prefer the chase and are put off by a woman
who actually start something up.
What is the truth? Is it just individual preference?
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Have you ever initiated from your side....I am not talking about this forums or email....I am talking about in general life your neighborhood club or anywhere 
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ahh an age old question... I have come to believe that women do indeed initiate... its just many men do not understand or see it happening. Hell some just won't plain admit it that the woman did indeed make the first move.
Course I could be wrong
Course I could be wrong
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You may be right but I am not talking about start of women's feeling, here I mean about their initiative....like saying something to guy about their love or feeling....
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The worm is turning as we speak. Young girls today think nothing of coming right out and tell a cute guy that she wants to screw his brains out. I think 20 years from now men will assume the passive role as women make all the first moves.
The problem for men is that women are so subtle in their flirting technique that many men can't tell when a woman is flirting or just a friendly person. WOMEN, DON'T BE SO VAGUE!
I think sometimes it might be better to be rejected outright than to be simply ignored. If you're rejected you can pick up your pride and move on. If you're ignored it just drags out the hurt for a longer time. WOMEN, STOP TRYING TO PROTECT A MANS FEELINGS!
The problem for men is that women are so subtle in their flirting technique that many men can't tell when a woman is flirting or just a friendly person. WOMEN, DON'T BE SO VAGUE!
I think sometimes it might be better to be rejected outright than to be simply ignored. If you're rejected you can pick up your pride and move on. If you're ignored it just drags out the hurt for a longer time. WOMEN, STOP TRYING TO PROTECT A MANS FEELINGS!
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I dunno, I guess I have not had an issue with who contacts whom - in fact, there's probably something to be said for the woman that takes the initiative.
I suppose, however, there are egos out there that have difficulty with this concept. Sort of like the hunter who's prize kill in reality sent his truck to the body shop.
I suppose, however, there are egos out there that have difficulty with this concept. Sort of like the hunter who's prize kill in reality sent his truck to the body shop.
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First I went ... then light dawned...them deer run across roads don't they?
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To Your Destiny, I have met plenty of guys who are great, adn understanding, and that would let a woman make the first move or they will wait until they think she is ready and move in they talk, its great, and all is hunky dory!
I also know a guy who will tell a girl he loves her to get into her pants, then dump her. Alot of girls see that and then get shy, or don't want to get hurt, me I don't really care who comes first, as long as it out there, and everyone is happy!
If I am with a guy, and they go first so be it, but if its me, I will know the guy is ok, and is on my page!
I can be a bit bitter, and sorry for that, cause I grew up around those hateful "playa type guys" who do that mean stuff to girls, who will play with them date them, reject them, hell I WAS one of them back in the day, it only made me stronger, and now I know how to aviod them.
You take care adn I hope through all these people out ehre that you get yoru question answered.
Take care!
CC
I also know a guy who will tell a girl he loves her to get into her pants, then dump her. Alot of girls see that and then get shy, or don't want to get hurt, me I don't really care who comes first, as long as it out there, and everyone is happy!
If I am with a guy, and they go first so be it, but if its me, I will know the guy is ok, and is on my page!
I can be a bit bitter, and sorry for that, cause I grew up around those hateful "playa type guys" who do that mean stuff to girls, who will play with them date them, reject them, hell I WAS one of them back in the day, it only made me stronger, and now I know how to aviod them.
You take care adn I hope through all these people out ehre that you get yoru question answered.
Take care!
CC
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A woman likes to be chased until she decides to let you catch her.
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This is how it is mate, You have accept and respect the nature
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I guess guys get scared if the woman makes the first contact as in the past the roles were always reversed.......
Any how what can one do.....
Any how what can one do.....
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Unfortunately, it's still frowned upon by many that women take the lead. It's called MACHISMO over here.
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because everytime we express serious interest-8.5 out of 10 men leave
even if theyve previously behaved, interacted and/or said they were serious
thats been my experience most of my life
also the grass is always greener phenomenon plagues men and women i think
my .02
even if theyve previously behaved, interacted and/or said they were serious
thats been my experience most of my life
also the grass is always greener phenomenon plagues men and women i think
my .02
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There is nothing wrong with taking an initiative with a guy... However, lets me frank here, most men are looking gorgeous women and are picky too.. If a plain comes up to talk to him, he might just ignore or who knows, then the girl will feel bad, that is the way of it these days...
I myself dont take the initiative, and ignore most of all who even looks at me, not because im concieted or etc, because if he wants to talk he could come up to me; I dont bite... Im old fashion, and will not go up to a man, dont care how handsome he his!
Everyone has their ways of doing things, no sin in that, we must accept it...
I myself dont take the initiative, and ignore most of all who even looks at me, not because im concieted or etc, because if he wants to talk he could come up to me; I dont bite... Im old fashion, and will not go up to a man, dont care how handsome he his!
Everyone has their ways of doing things, no sin in that, we must accept it...
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I think it is something to do with ego certainly ......and also I can't just believe of girls afraid of rejection when they get so much attention always, anywhere and everywhere.........May be I think girls ego will hurt if she initiates......its my guess so please girls don't mind.....
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I'm older and i've come to realize one simple fact, saying "love" on the first date best be directed towards the music or food the couple are sharing
to the women making the first move in as much as so many here hate calling it a game that is what it is, much in the way ches is played you may not always understand or see the intent of the other players move, hatre using this but it sums it up men from mars.... women another galaxy altogether... but ain't it cool
to the women making the first move in as much as so many here hate calling it a game that is what it is, much in the way ches is played you may not always understand or see the intent of the other players move, hatre using this but it sums it up men from mars.... women another galaxy altogether... but ain't it cool
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Youre in the wrong profile mate.....hehehe..
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