Pre-requisites...Good or Bad ( Archived) (23)

When you read someone's profile, and they are very specific in what they are looking for...do you find that a good thing or bad thing??

Let me outline a situation...

I had read someone's profile, he specifically said that he preferred slim/slender women...no problem but i would not be considered that by no stretch of the imagination...nor do i want to be....however I liked the rest of his profile and still contacted him...we became friends (which I said up front was all i wanted to be) we went out for drinks, and we've had a great time, he is as great a conversationalist as i thought he would be, he is a very attractive man and it was great to be in his company....here's the thing though...he would now like to have a relationship...and my answer has been "nope"

He has changed his mind about the "body type"...I on the other hand am not willing to let him forget that by stating his preference so boldly on his profile he may have forfeited the company of many wonderful women....as well, I refuse to put myself in a position where I would be constantly questioning my "body"...even if it is only in my mind...

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a preference, but i'm not sure that such things as height and body type, eye colour, hair colour...things of that nature, need to be specified....

Agree or Disagree...

(I had actually started this thread back in Dec '06...it was a good debate back then so i thought i'd raise it again....)

I don't really have any *Physical* preferences..

Been there done that.. (most of my 'dating' life)


And found some of the shiniest *Apples* to be completely ROTTEN on the inside..

its the inside that counts for me - blah blah

I was just re thinking this..

I *Honestly* don't care if they had missing body parts.. short tall fat thin.. bald hairy whatever.

I'm hugely drawn to what's inside someone.. what makes them tick as a person.


I'm Eeeassy..

(well not THAT easy!)

I think we have both innate and cultural preferences, i.e: a 5ft 2 inch Watusi tribesman would be out of luck within his culture.

I personally don't want to date an 'obese' man for the sake of loving what's on the inside because it doesn't necessarily mean he's ok in there. I also appreciate a man who may not want a woman with my type of body. It's all preference i guess.


I respect those who don't consider body types when finding partners 'AT ALL' too!

Eupho.

I personally wouldn't mind staying with my man if he was disabled.

Do you think that a man attractive on the outside has a part to play on an 'intimate' level?

Oh yep I DO... but I also think that when you do *Fall* for someone .. things about them that you may not have noticed at first.. become more and more attractive to you..

Like.. the (maybe) quirky little way their mouths move when they speak.. Or they way they squint their eyes when they laugh.. or walk.. talk.. etc.

I always insist that the man for me has to bond with me intellectually, spriritually, emotionally and physically.

That's the package for me and none can function without the other.

I can't be with a man who has an attractive mind yet with nothing in the 'chemistry' department. Einstein comes to mind with this broken equation. Lol...He may have been good in chemistry but would do nothing for me in the other 'chemistry' department.



Wikked

I think you should give this guy a chance because he has obviously connected with you on a good level to ask you to date. It doesn't matter what he may have had in his profile because he's human and bound to change preferences.

I agree and this is a good reason why Wikked should give this guy a chance.