How long before you know it's "right"? (123)
jlw45Moyers, Oklahoma USA66 Threads 1 Polls 15,566 Postshow LONG before you know its right?....she said...''when it touches my overies''
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Ambrose2007: How long on average has it taken you to decide that your romantic partner is marriage material?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
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Ambrose2007: How long on average has it taken you to decide that your romantic partner is marriage material?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
People should not rush into marriage.
Twenty or thirty years sounds 'reasonable' before you make such an awesome commitment - maybe about the same time that you become grandparents is cool..... get married the same day your first grandchild gets christened in church!
You'll never KNOW it's right, just like you might believe in God but can't know if God exists or not until you die.
You can only live in FAITH, HOPE and CHARITY!
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Even if it right, there is nothing wrong with not getting married.
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You never know, people change.
My ex told me this and she really changed. :)
My ex told me this and she really changed. :)
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does this mean it's wrong if you don't know? 
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When it feels right in your heart it's right. Now whether it's going to be right forever, I don't know if one can ever know that. But I'm not letting that stop me from enjoying whatever love and happiness I can have for today. 
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Ambrose2007: How long on average has it taken you to decide that your romantic partner is marriage material?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
Isn't it right from the start? I mean its no small technicality, that you said to yourself...
maybe this is the right one? Then doubts and negs creep in, wearing away whatever 'right' you thought there was in the first place.. Maybe the trick is to select someone we think may be 'wrong' in the first place
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lots of people (me included) stick around with someone not being sure for ages (in my case 10 years) and then get married because it finally feels right - only to separate shortly afterwards.
I think we should beware of the 'it's completely right' feeling. Sometimes it just means you're tired of uncertainty in your life and ready for a bit of clinging.
I think we should beware of the 'it's completely right' feeling. Sometimes it just means you're tired of uncertainty in your life and ready for a bit of clinging.
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Ambrose2007: How long on average has it taken you to decide that your romantic partner is marriage material?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
Practical issues of timing (financial, school, or otherwise) aside, how long have you usually needed to decide whether the person you're with could be a lifelong partner?
Mmmmm........similar outlook on how to live life, goals and values..? 
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I am thinking more along the lines of what beb and dublinguy says,,,, that sounds pretty reasonable to me
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alabamabebe: When it feels right in your heart it's right. Now whether it's going to be right forever, I don't know if one can ever know that. But I'm not letting that stop me from enjoying whatever love and happiness I can have for today.
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jampet: then you haven't met the right one- we can all live without someone- but to be 'whole' it is nice to have someone that is that'other half'- yes we can all survive without that other half- but i have just had a friend who's husband died- the mst 'together' couple who didn't need anyone else but each other and their kids- so there are cases where they make a 'unit' together and to separate that is cruel- having a hard time getting my head round that so forgive my ramblings
WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am "whole" just as I am and I have no need to and I am not qualified to "complete" another. If another is whole only with me or any other, it is termed co-dependency.
I am not co-dependent and have no desire for one that is..
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Well I can't really say since I am single and here obviously lol
But I think it varies by everyone. I think that if both are 100% happy and commited and there is good communication then that would be an indication I would think.
Some people say "They just know"
But I think it varies by everyone. I think that if both are 100% happy and commited and there is good communication then that would be an indication I would think.
Some people say "They just know"
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gingerb: Well originally you asked how long until a person knew. I knew in about 5 mins. He proposed about an hour later.
To all intents and purposes he was marriage material.
He loved marriage.
It just ended up that he had a few bad habits that developed later on, that he wasn't willing to acknowledge, never mind change or comromise on, so I divorced him after 13 years.
To all intents and purposes he was marriage material.
He loved marriage.
It just ended up that he had a few bad habits that developed later on, that he wasn't willing to acknowledge, never mind change or comromise on, so I divorced him after 13 years.
Thanks, Ginger...that's more or less how I pieced it together as I thought about it (one problem is that I've been only checking in on this thread erratically, so I kind of lose the "flow").
Jeff
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Strange, but I think only two people have actually answered the question I asked - to wit: How long on average has it taken you to decide that your romantic partner is marriage material?
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HJFinAZ: WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am "whole" just as I am and I have no need to and I am not qualified to "complete" another. If another is whole only with me or any other, it is termed co-dependency.
I am not co-dependent and have no desire for one that is..
I am not co-dependent and have no desire for one that is..
Imagine you're the only person left on earth, Pat. Do you still you are complete unto yourself?
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my estimate is 37 years!!
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Ambrose2007: Strange, but I think only two people have actually answered the question I asked - to wit: How long on average has it taken you to decide that your romantic partner is marriage material?
how do people answer now if they dont know who 'you think' answered the question to your way of thinking...
it was
a l e x 123 wasn't it?
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Ambrose2007: Strange, but I think only two people have actually answered the question I asked - to wit: How long on average has it taken you to decide that your romantic partner is marriage material?
That's not what you asked originally, you asked how long before you know. There's no answer to that question, especially not from us obviously single people. If we'd ever figured out when it was right we'd still be married now wouldn't we? ------ This thread is Archived ------
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