Does it Really Matter ( Archived) (20)

theres nothing wrong with a little substance....i like a little potatoes with my meat no ,that should be ...with your meat....no, i mean with my meat....no, i mean with,,,oh hell, im gettin' outa' here

I guess I felt that way as I was always thin until I had my first child. After when I would run into people they would just stare at me and say you sure gained a lot, friends I had not seen in a long time did not recognize me. I felt I would just lose the weight again over time, but that never happened.

I always felt insecure growing up even when I was thin, moving around so much I never had the chance to made good friends and the schools I went to they had been together since kindergarten and I never fit in. The base school, the kids moved as much as I did so they were always changing.

I tried to feel confident but with two bad marriages and them always putting me down it is hard to build it back up again.

Yes it is....but they were idiots so their opinion doesn't count....letting go of having it matter what others think is the best thing you can do for yourself...and taking stock of all your good qualities because you have many darlin!!!!!!!!!!!

I know everyone says to look for your good qualities, which are getting harder to find when you have been knocked down so much all your life. I wish I could believe that some man would want me just the way I am with flaws and all.

Well...it's time to get rid of all that junk they placed in your head and to see the real you then....

yeah, I'm overweight....but I'm active.

I do some kind of activity everyday(biking, tennis, long walks).

I think activity level is more important than a persons wieght.

for me no it does not matter, it has a lot more to do with the person and there outlook on life and personality. see I met my ex. online and got to know her over a period of time, never asked for pic and she never asked me. we met and lived together, were married, she was large, due to health concerns she got a gastric bypass. after she lost 140 lbs. it would seem I was not good enough for her. though of many men I talk to that there wifes had the operation this seems to be the trend.

Hun everyone has their choices in Women/Men..

Some like skinny others like bigger..

This is the World...

but when one start knocking about bigger women or smaller women..

Tell them to go to He!!

I love myself...

Dont give a Crap if anyone thinks i am big or small..

Ditto.

The way you feel about yourself is a big part of how others see you.

Kitty, you problem goes dipper than a few extra pounds. Like you said it goes back to your childhood insecurities. This is something to work on, I think.