Have ever had a time when you feel down.. and you shouldn't ( Archived) (83)

We have all been there, at least I know I have. You come home from a stressful day at work, or maybe you felt too depressed to even get out of the door.

Everything just went wrong, your girl left you, your favourite sports team lost an important game; It doesn’t matter.

The thoughts just swirl around in your head, and you can’t really focus on anything. Even the easiest tasks seem impossible, and at least for now, you just can’t enjoy life.

When I feel down, here are some of the things I do to drag myself up:

Stop doing whatever I'm are doing, and sit down. Breathe slowly and controlled, and think about what it is that gets me down.
I tell myself that I need to identify the problem(s). Without a problem I can’t really make a goal, and without a goal I can’t take action. In this case, no action means no mental healing. And that’s what we want, right?
I write it down. Make a list of what’s depressing me . Take out a paper and pen, and start writing. It’s that simple. This is done to physically get it “out of my head”. Now I can look at my problems in a more objective way.
Once I have it out of my head and in a different perspective, start thinking about solutions or positive things about what’s bothering me.
Take massive action. Do whatever is necessary to solve my problem. Iknow what to do, now I just need to actually do it. Start now!
Be happy:
Sometimes I can’t seem to identify a problem, or there are just too many to overcome. In these cases, I advice myself to focus more on being happy than anything else. This have to come first, as I will get a whole new outlook when I really feel alive. Then I follow these tips to bring myself up again.

I try to understand that it’s okay to feel sad. I try not to ignore it, just don’t let the feeling take over me.
Once I can do that, start focusing on what makes me happy. I do what I enjoy, go see a movie, walk the dog, whatever. And whenever the bad feelings start popping up, I acknowledge them, clear my mind, and think about something else. I don’t ever think negative thoughts for more than a few seconds.
Again, lists can help me. I write down some of the things that I like to do, and hang them up on my fridge. I do at least one of these things every day. I look forward to it, and enjoy it while I do it.
Use fantastic words. If someone asks me how my day was, and I answer with a “fine”, that fine is going to define my day. If I instead tell him that I had a marvellous, amazing or incredible day, that is what my day was or is going to be. Keep this in mind!
Think in opportunities. Remember that every failure is one step closer to success.
Think about what you really want to do. Maybe this is a golden opportunity to try a new challenge or new direction in my life. If I really always wanted to be a stock broker, a teacher or a marketing gal, check out what I need to do or learn to get there. Enroll at the university, go to evening classes, seek out profesionals in the industry. Whatever it takes, my only limitation is my imagination.
Look good. While I feel a little down and depressed, i remember to take good care of myself. It’s much easier to feel sorry for that sad bum in the mirror, than it is to feel the same way about a well groomed, and well dressed woman.
I get out. I have probably heard this hundreds of times before, but a little exercise and some fresh air can do wonders for my mood. I try be open and positive, and a trip to the park can be amazingly beautiful. I take time to look at the birds in the trees, the couples walking around having a good time.
I also make it point to surround myself with happy people. I don’t hang around negative types, sooner or later their mood will affect me.


I also play some upbeat music which helps me also.

Maybe go for a walk you dont usually do or get lost in a good book for a few chapters - just dont dwell on it or start looking for causes that are probably not there - itll pass in its own time if you dont let it catch hold