lusciousmile: A mature 18 year old who possesses a sense of independence, but with no real experience to accompany it , dating a much older adult, would create an unfair situation of being faced with the risk of having their ideas and dreams overpowered by this adult, who in sense and experience, overrides the potential in this young 'adult'.
Perhaps they would be best discovering and exploring, with someone in the same capacities as themselves. This creates balance, eliminating the risk of being bewildered. Glad i was clearer.
I agree.
And we can only guide them into enabling them that that may well be the case.
That is why I prefer to remain within my own age range, same level of emotional intelligence, and we learn together.
But you have articulated that brilliantly and it is what I am all about. Helping them to understand that they can make choices on their own, not just be told 'you are a kid, what do you know'
If an 18 year old girl enters a relationship with a man say 20 years older than her, say my daughter, then I would be assisting her to realise what her capabilities are and to be bring her to be able to make her own decsions, so that if the man 20 years her senior was to behave in the manner you describe, then she would not be overidden.
But then if she was say 28 and dating a man of 48, I would hope that those extra on her, would have enabled her to be her own person.
Come back to an interesting debate... And I must dash, speaking of 18 year olds, I have 40 of them dressed up for halloween and I want to go and take pictures and see them in all their finery... I am so excited, I am like a 10 year old today...
X_REBEL: Then again if things don't work out for her with an older man....just think a all the "life experience" she would have gathered...
The 30 year old in this hypothesis, is not one i gather holds a need to teach this young adult. He seeks to satisfy only himself, and was led to this young bird, by corrupt instincts and intrusive urges, which could mean he carries more harm than proper marvel.
He doesn't create a good spread.
But that's just the 30yr old in my scenario. Then there's yours....he could be the saviour this young adult 'seeks'.
And we can only guide them into enabling them that that may well be the case.
That is why I prefer to remain within my own age range, same level of emotional intelligence, and we learn together.
But you have articulated that brilliantly and it is what I am all about. Helping them to understand that they can make choices on their own, not just be told 'you are a kid, what do you know'
If an 18 year old girl enters a relationship with a man say 20 years older than her, say my daughter, then I would be assisting her to realise what her capabilities are and to be bring her to be able to make her own decsions, so that if the man 20 years her senior was to behave in the manner you describe, then she would not be overidden.
But then if she was say 28 and dating a man of 48, I would hope that those extra on her, would have enabled her to be her own person.
Come back to an interesting debate... And I must dash, speaking of 18 year olds, I have 40 of them dressed up for halloween and I want to go and take pictures and see them in all their finery... I am so excited, I am like a 10 year old today...
X_REBEL: As long if she's mentally and emotionally mature i don't see problems with that...btw. what 40 year old woman wouldn't love to have a 18 year old stud?
Ohhhhhhhhh........... couldn't argue with that logic !
X_REBEL: so you do like 18 year old "boys" then...
I love them, their vibrancy, excitement, zest for life, I feel excited for them, as they dress for their evening out, as I do for the 18 year old girls who are under my supervision...
They are part of my life, like my own children. I enjoy seeing them have fun and dress up looking gorgeous...
Who wouldn't? Young people are special... I enjoy them very much.
lusciousmile: The 30 year old in this hypothesis, is not one i gather holds a need to teach this young adult. He seeks to satisfy only himself, and was led to this young bird, by corrupt instincts and intrusive urges, which could mean he carries more harm than proper marvel.
He doesn't create a good spread.But that's just the 30yr old in my scenario. Then there's yours....he could be the saviour this young adult 'seeks'.
Congratulations...you are the first woman on cs thinking ahead as to what my response would have been...keep it up...but now i am worried
Sommerauer71: I love them, their vibrancy, excitement, zest for life, I feel excited for them, as they dress for their evening out, as I do for the 18 year old girls who are under my supervision...
They are part of my life, like my own children. I enjoy seeing them have fun and dress up looking gorgeous...
Who wouldn't? Young people are special... I enjoy them very much.
See i told you you gonna need that 20% to express yourself "better" and more clearly in future...
X_REBEL: Congratulations...you are the first woman on cs thinking ahead as to what my response would have been...keep it up...but now i am worried
Don't even try to pull me into an empty argument with you. I defined my scenario, and described the meaning of yours, as i understood it. It can't be prediction if the base was fully covered before hand.
Try elaboration, because 'charm' doesn't work well in serious debates.
Can one be damned with finer praise, than having the knowledge that you are the only women ahead of Rebel?
You should be honoured and drop at his knees...
I am jealous. The man is a legend.
hey who said anything about a woman ahead of me??? I was merely stating that she "read" my mind as to what i was to say...so for that moment we were perhaps equal...thats all...
lusciousmile: Don't even try to pull me into an empty argument with you. I defined my scenario, and described the meaning of yours, as i understood it. It can't be prediction if the base was fully covered before hand.
Try elaboration, because 'charm' doesn't work well in serious debates.If worrying helps, by all means, do it.
coolieno1point fortin, Point Fortin Trinidad and Tobago546 posts
leaving someone your own age for an 18 year old girl and calling that better meant but them same men want to kill you when you go with their daughters.
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Perhaps they would be best discovering and exploring, with someone in the same capacities as themselves. This creates balance, eliminating the risk of being bewildered.
Glad i was clearer.
I agree.
And we can only guide them into enabling them that that may well be the case.
That is why I prefer to remain within my own age range, same level of emotional intelligence, and we learn together.
But you have articulated that brilliantly and it is what I am all about. Helping them to understand that they can make choices on their own, not just be told 'you are a kid, what do you know'
If an 18 year old girl enters a relationship with a man say 20 years older than her, say my daughter, then I would be assisting her to realise what her capabilities are and to be bring her to be able to make her own decsions, so that if the man 20 years her senior was to behave in the manner you describe, then she would not be overidden.
But then if she was say 28 and dating a man of 48, I would hope that those extra on her, would have enabled her to be her own person.
Come back to an interesting debate... And I must dash, speaking of 18 year olds, I have 40 of them dressed up for halloween and I want to go and take pictures and see them in all their finery... I am so excited, I am like a 10 year old today...