Self-Compatibility Rating (72)
Ambrose2007: We all talk about capability compatibility with our present or future partners - what characteristics in them would be deal-breakers or would make our lives heaven on Earth - but how many of us consider the OTHER compatibility - our actual ability to create and sustain a relationship, which ultimately comes from how well we get along with our own selves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
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do you mean their impression of us?? If so, .....sometimes I am amazed when i realise that some men, actually, are prepared to put up with me!!
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jampet: do you mean their impression of us?? If so, .....sometimes I am amazed when i realise that some men, actually, are prepared to put up with me!!
I think he means how well we know ourselves and how realistic and reasonable our expectations are.
Is that it? Cause if yes, I´ve got a word or two...
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jampet: do you mean their impression of us?? If so, .....sometimes I am amazed when i realise that some men, actually, are prepared to put up with me!!
Okay, Jampie...let's get down to stainless steel tacks...what would you guess you compatibility rating is...I mean, how difficult are you to get along with on a scale of say, 1 - 10 (10 being very inherently compatible)?
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I am very realistic 
That's why I am looking for someone nutty enough to like me, and brave enough to have me
That's why I am looking for someone nutty enough to like me, and brave enough to have me
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Ambrose2007: Okay, Jampie...let's get down to stainless steel tacks...what would you guess you compatibility rating is...I mean, how difficult are you to get along with on a scale of say, 1 - 10 (10 being very inherently compatible)?
I´d like to answer that, may I?
I´m very honest about my feelings, all of them, and I don´t know how to be otherwise. That makes me... 8!!! DIFFICULT
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Hey, Jeff. I've told you many times, that only warriors can date me. The really fierce ones, with bows and arrows.
I frighten all the rest.
I frighten all the rest.
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Ambrose2007: Okay, Jampie...let's get down to stainless steel tacks...what would you guess you compatibility rating is...I mean, how difficult are you to get along with on a scale of say, 1 - 10 (10 being very inherently compatible)?
How about you, Ambrose?
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Moema: I´d like to answer that, may I?
I´m very honest about my feelings, all of them, and I don´t know how to be otherwise. That makes me... 8!!! DIFFICULT
I´m very honest about my feelings, all of them, and I don´t know how to be otherwise. That makes me... 8!!! DIFFICULT
No comment, i have a little problem too.
My sisters think it's so bad, it's funny!
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Ambrose2007: We all talk about capability with our present or future partners - what characteristics in them would be deal-breakers or would make our lives heaven on Earth - but how many of us consider the OTHER compatibility - our actual ability to create and sustain a relationship, which ultimately comes from how well we get along with our own selves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
I'm wondering now if a separation phase is required in my self relationship
Good question. I've been contemplating the influence of state of mind or the energy we project to the world and how that affects what we draw to us. Certainly part of being self aware; bu,t I hadn't considered whether I am compatable with myself....
For a normally logical guy, you've tossed a rather large conceptual wrench into the works
The obvious answer from my point of view is that it doesn't matter in light of my need to evolve as a person, emotionally and mentally. Keeping track of whether my present being is compatable with me, seems like personal micro managing ...
Of course since you've gone so right brained on me here, I could totally be missing the essence of the OP
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Moema: I think he means how well we know ourselves and how realistic and reasonable our expectations are.
Is that it? Cause if yes, I´ve got a word or two...
Is that it? Cause if yes, I´ve got a word or two...
Right, M, that's what I'm getting at. Just tried to say that more poetically...
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Ambrose2007: We all talk about capability with our present or future partners - what characteristics in them would be deal-breakers or would make our lives heaven on Earth - but how many of us consider the OTHER compatibility - our actual ability to create and sustain a relationship, which ultimately comes from how well we get along with our own selves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
Just wondering how we are to be compatible with ourselves.
Compatibility is something we usually have with other people........
unless you are talking about "me" and "I" comparisons, as in, how we act out, in comparison to how we think???
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Moema: How about you, Ambrose?
WTF?! You gotta be shi*t*in* me, M!!
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Ambrose2007: WTF?! You gotta be shi*t*in* me, M!!
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gingerb: Just wondering how we are to be compatible with ourselves.
Compatibility is something we usually have with other people........
unless you are talking about "me" and "I" comparisons , as in, how we act out, in comparison to how we think???
Compatibility is something we usually have with other people........
unless you are talking about "me" and "I" comparisons , as in, how we act out, in comparison to how we think???
I think he meant how our relationships are with ourselves?
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Ambrose2007: We all talk about capability with our present or future partners - what characteristics in them would be deal-breakers or would make our lives heaven on Earth - but how many of us consider the OTHER compatibility - our actual ability to create and sustain a relationship, which ultimately comes from how well we get along with our own selves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?
Or maybe the fact that we are too compatible with ourselves is actually the problem we have in connecting to other people.
I like my own company... in fact I often prefer it to the company of others...
I don´t need anyone but there are people I enjoy being with. The only thing I look for in a partner is that they enhance my life more then they detract from it.
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jbibiza: Or maybe the fact that we are too compatible with ourselves is actually the problem we have in connecting to other people.
I like my own company... in fact I often prefer it to the company of others...
I don´t need anyone but there are people I enjoy being with. The only thing I look for in a partner is that they enhance my life more then they detract from it.
I like my own company... in fact I often prefer it to the company of others...
I don´t need anyone but there are people I enjoy being with. The only thing I look for in a partner is that they enhance my life more then they detract from it.
Good point jbibiza...I've noticed this trend in today's world....women and men who don't want to live with others, but don't mind the company....
Kinda like having our separate rooms if you will...
I like to sleep in my own bed at times..
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Me, I am that.
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Self-Compatibility Rating ... 
I'm always learning about myself ... I think living in my own skin makes me fairly compatible with me. I can't give myself, as far as needs go, all of the things I need (or think I need), realistically ... Lots of room for improvement / better / improved compatibility, here.
I'm always learning about myself ... I think living in my own skin makes me fairly compatible with me. I can't give myself, as far as needs go, all of the things I need (or think I need), realistically ... Lots of room for improvement / better / improved compatibility, here.------ This thread is Archived ------
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I'm wondering how each of us here would rate our basic self-compatibility (for lack of a better word) - our ability to get along with others, to accept what we ought to accept, and to reject what doesn't truly fit who we are.
It's one thing to worry about all the things you need from another person, but how realistic or healthy are our needs? How often do they make it impossible or problematic to find someone? How can we be compatible with someone when we aren't truly compatible with ourselves?