Is there really someone out there for everyone? ( Archived) (15)

For a long time now I have stated that I am happy alone and I do not need anyone to make me happy. Well then I have this amazing long weekend with a friend of a friend who lives far away and can not commit and as soon as he left I was so unbelievably depressed it was almost unbearable. I do not think it was necessarily him, because who falls that fast and believe me he has problems to deal with, but I just cant help but feel so down and depressed.

That is what brought me here, because I live in a small town and can never meet any decent people here. What are your takes on this situation? Do you think there is someone out there for all of us? I would love to hear some stories from you all on how you met your past relationships. Have you ever met someone special on a site like this?

They always say that you will find what you want when you least expect it and when you are not looking! Well I have been "not looking" for years now and no luck! I figure I need to get myself out there somehow if I am to ever find happiness. I just want to have someone to hold and love so badly I can't stand it. I have a great life and no one to share it with. Please share your thoughts with me???

Thank you very much!

Jodi

Hi Jodi...nice to meet you and welcome to CS...I am Ken.

I know exactly how you feel. It can happen and it has happened for many on here. Many members of this forum met and got married because of being here on the forums.

I thought I met the person I was looking for all my life here on CS, but it wasn't meant to be.

Keep posting to forums. Getting out there and trying is the way to approach it.

Good luck to you...

Sometimes you do have to be a little aggressive, not overwhelmingly so, but if you don't make the move towards the goal then someone else might.

If you did fall for him quick don't be surprised. It happens. Hiding your feeling from yourself usually hurts the worst.

I really don't know, but I'm hoping there is.

I met my late husband when I wasn't looking, and we started out as friends. It was the most beautiful relationship I've ever had, albeit cut too short. No, we met in person, not online.

I hope that there's another love like that left for me in this life...and although I'm not actively looking right now, I keep my options, and my mind, open.

If, and when, it's meant to be, it will be...for all of us.

Best wishes.

Nope

I don't believe that there is one special person out there for each of us. It just seems too impossible, too daunting. If there was one particular person that would be my perfect mate in life, what are the odds that I will actually ever meet that person? Even if you reduce the odds and keep it geographically or culturally within the same range, it's still almost unfathomable that I would connect with the one American man, to keep it simple, that I am "meant" to be with.
I think it's situational and coincidental, at best. We connect with different people on different levels and at different stages in our lives. What attracted me to a man 30 years ago or 20 years ago is different from what attracts me today, and this is due to my own maturation and changes that have taken place in my life over the years.
As for wondering if you will find someone to share your life....to love and be loved by in return, I would venture to say that most of us here wonder the same thing. Will it happen? There are no guarantees that it will. But I can pretty much guarantee you one thing (and this is something I am fully cognizant of as well).....Mr. Right won't be knocking on your door one evening, saying "Here I am....your wait is over, my love". You DO have to get out there somehow. Most things that we want in life are things that we have to pursue.
Finally, as for meeting someone special on a dating site...all I can say is that it DOES happen for some, though it hasn't happened for me. However, I HAVE made friends and that's always a good thing. I don't just mean that I have communicated online with these friends; I have met them in person and remain friends with them even now....male and female. Maybe I will never find love online, but I've lost nothing in my search, such as it is. I take the online interaction with a grain of salt. My expectations are extremely low and, frankly, I don't really think I will meet my special someone here or online in general. But one never knows. It's just another avenue, another door I can open.
Good luck to you!

In a word...........NO

If there is, we can't find each other