My frustrations with Connecting Singles (and why I'm leaving Friday) (112)
deepvaluecraigBurlington, New Jersey USA1 Threads 14 PostsI'm a good guy, by nearly every standard I hold myself to. Women respond to me in person, but they don't respond to me here. I'm not batting out of my league here, either, which frustrates me further. I think the setup of internet dating takes away from the real chemistry of meeting people. Women whose profiles I've viewed here, who have interests nearly identical to my own from my perspective, don't respond to messages I send them. It doesn't bother me in a sappy way; this isn't me feeling sorry for myself. What I am saying, is that if women don't recognize the biases internet dating can lead them to, they miss out. I'm 24, and probably one of the most mature-but-not-too-serious guys you'll ever meet at that age. I attend an Ivy League school on my own merit; I'm decent looking, generous, and make friends very easily. I've got no debt, and have even built a net worth that exceeds the median household net worth as reported in 2005 from which one day I'll start a family of my own. My interests are broad, and I'm not absorbed by work---I love the outdoors, movies, casual nights in, going out with friends, reading, writing, you name it. The disparity between women I meet on campus and women on here is astounding to me. And I hope other men recognize this and don't take any rejection they may face so personally---the setup is misleading, and I firmly believe while men likely lose out more, women still lose out without fully realizing it. Women make quick assessments based on a few pics and a paragraph or two that you've written, and what those things mean to them, and you can't really get to know any of them once they've made that assessment and don't return an e-mail. Point blank, you can't win if you don't play the game. There is no Mr. Perfect, just as there's no Mrs. Perfect. So, adios. May the rest of you enjoy yourselves, and best of luck.
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You have seen the light as well then??
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Somebody call the Whaaaaahmbulance!
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I'm sorry you had such bad luck. I'm thinking if you'd had better luck in RL, you probably wouldn't have ventured onto this site? 
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deepvaluecraig: I'm a good guy, by nearly every standard I hold myself to. Women respond to me in person, but they don't respond to me here. I'm not batting out of my league here, either, which frustrates me further. I think the setup of internet dating takes away from the real chemistry of meeting people. Women whose profiles I've viewed here, who have interests nearly identical to my own from my perspective, don't respond to messages I send them. It doesn't bother me in a sappy way; this isn't me feeling sorry for myself. What I am saying, is that if women don't recognize the biases internet dating can lead them to, they miss out. I'm 24, and probably one of the most mature-but-not-too-serious guys you'll ever meet at that age. I attend an Ivy League school on my own merit; I'm decent looking, generous, and make friends very easily. I've got no debt, and have even built a net worth that exceeds the median household net worth as reported in 2005 from which one day I'll start a family of my own. My interests are broad, and I'm not absorbed by work---I love the outdoors, movies, casual nights in, going out with friends, reading, writing, you name it. The disparity between women I meet on campus and women on here is astounding to me. And I hope other men recognize this and don't take any rejection they may face so personally---the setup is misleading, and I firmly believe while men likely lose out more, women still lose out without fully realizing it. Women make quick assessments based on a few pics and a paragraph or two that you've written, and what those things mean to them, and you can't really get to know any of them once they've made that assessment and don't return an e-mail. Point blank, you can't win if you don't play the game. There is no Mr. Perfect, just as there's no Mrs. Perfect. So, adios. May the rest of you enjoy yourselves, and best of luck.
You've only made eight posts in this forum, including this one. And you are already giving up???
Sounds to me like YOU are the one missing out! This forum has been a GREAT way to to get know others. I'm sorry for your loss. Good luck in your search.
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the thing to keep in mind here is its kinda like a social mixer, while we can read profiles, you get to know people in the forums, and even in some cases, meet someone. so post away join in the fun, or dont. but the people that just put up profiles and wait are missing out on the best part.
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DazzleYou: Somebody call the Whaaaaahmbulance!
Gotta like Bruce Willis movies! LOL
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Are you open to constructive criticism?
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DazzleYou: Somebody call the Whaaaaahmbulance!
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Da10th: Are you open to constructive criticism?
meh, I'll give my 2 cents anyways, because you need them.
You my fine sir, are self absorbed.
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I venture here because most of the women I meet on campus are concerned with their own life paths---grad school, moving back home after school, etc.; they're nice, but that type of scenario isn't practical for me---that is, developing a relationship where you understand that it will likely end when the paths diverge. Here, I can search locally for women who live locally and are looking for local dating.
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You're right...It's a crap shoot...and probably not a good place to rely on as the only place to find a date especially when you're young and have so much going for you...in fact...It shouldn't be relied on as the only place to find someone by anyone really...but just as another option...saves on the disappointment later... 
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Thank you, man. :)
slim1977: the thing to keep in mind here is its kinda like a social mixer, while we can read profiles, you get to know people in the forums, and even in some cases, meet someone. so post away join in the fun, or dont. but the people that just put up profiles and wait are missing out on the best part.
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I wish you the best. I was lucky, and made a ton of friends here in the forums, and one of them turned into the love of my life. I hope that you, too, find what you seek...by whatever venue. Just remember that what's meant to be, will be. 
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deepvaluecraig: I'm a good guy, by nearly every standard I hold myself to. Women respond to me in person, but they don't respond to me here. I'm not batting out of my league here, either, which frustrates me further. I think the setup of internet dating takes away from the real chemistry of meeting people. Women whose profiles I've viewed here, who have interests nearly identical to my own from my perspective, don't respond to messages I send them. It doesn't bother me in a sappy way; this isn't me feeling sorry for myself. What I am saying, is that if women don't recognize the biases internet dating can lead them to, they miss out. I'm 24, and probably one of the most mature-but-not-too-serious guys you'll ever meet at that age. I attend an Ivy League school on my own merit; I'm decent looking, generous, and make friends very easily. I've got no debt, and have even built a net worth that exceeds the median household net worth as reported in 2005 from which one day I'll start a family of my own. My interests are broad, and I'm not absorbed by work---I love the outdoors, movies, casual nights in, going out with friends, reading, writing, you name it. The disparity between women I meet on campus and women on here is astounding to me. And I hope other men recognize this and don't take any rejection they may face so personally---the setup is misleading, and I firmly believe while men likely lose out more, women still lose out without fully realizing it. Women make quick assessments based on a few pics and a paragraph or two that you've written, and what those things mean to them, and you can't really get to know any of them once they've made that assessment and don't return an e-mail. Point blank, you can't win if you don't play the game. There is no Mr. Perfect, just as there's no Mrs. Perfect. So, adios. May the rest of you enjoy yourselves, and best of luck.
I agree with you.
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deepvaluecraig: I venture here because most of the women I meet on campus are concerned with their own life paths---grad school, moving back home after school, etc.; they're nice, but that type of scenario isn't practical for me---that is, developing a relationship where you understand that it will likely end when the paths diverge. Here, I can search locally for women who live locally and are looking for local dating.
I was, by no means, trying to be snide. It was just an honest question. As others have said, you just don't know what you'll get. But do give it a chance. It's kinda like fishing. You have good days & bad days.
I haven't read your profile, but perhaps you could look at that & maybe some things may need to be changed? These are just some suggestions.
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deepvaluecraig: I'm a good guy, by nearly every standard I hold myself to. Women respond to me in person, but they don't respond to me here. I'm not batting out of my league here, either, which frustrates me further. I think the setup of internet dating takes away from the real chemistry of meeting people. Women whose profiles I've viewed here, who have interests nearly identical to my own from my perspective, don't respond to messages I send them. It doesn't bother me in a sappy way; this isn't me feeling sorry for myself. What I am saying, is that if women don't recognize the biases internet dating can lead them to, they miss out. I'm 24, and probably one of the most mature-but-not-too-serious guys you'll ever meet at that age. I attend an Ivy League school on my own merit; I'm decent looking, generous, and make friends very easily. I've got no debt, and have even built a net worth that exceeds the median household net worth as reported in 2005 from which one day I'll start a family of my own. My interests are broad, and I'm not absorbed by work---I love the outdoors, movies, casual nights in, going out with friends, reading, writing, you name it. The disparity between women I meet on campus and women on here is astounding to me. And I hope other men recognize this and don't take any rejection they may face so personally---the setup is misleading, and I firmly believe while men likely lose out more, women still lose out without fully realizing it. Women make quick assessments based on a few pics and a paragraph or two that you've written, and what those things mean to them, and you can't really get to know any of them once they've made that assessment and don't return an e-mail. Point blank, you can't win if you don't play the game. There is no Mr. Perfect, just as there's no Mrs. Perfect. So, adios. May the rest of you enjoy yourselves, and best of luck.
I find this type of site is a good way to broaden my social horizons. I have made lots of friends on the net, never had a date from it. So I guess it is about expectations, I only use them for the social side now.
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sweetowen: I was, by no means, trying to be snide. It was just an honest question. As others have said, you just don't know what you'll get. But do give it a chance. It's kinda like fishing. You have good days & bad days.
I haven't read your profile, but perhaps you could look at that & maybe some things may need to be changed? These are just some suggestions.
I haven't read your profile, but perhaps you could look at that & maybe some things may need to be changed? These are just some suggestions.
I didn't think you were being snide. :) I did feel that the question was fair play and deserved a response. Thank you for your input.
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DazzleYou: Somebody call the Whaaaaahmbulance!
stop it you bully
i mean why wait 3 days am i right?
i dunno why you would leave mr value
if you watch closely
people fall in love every other week
if you were to hang around im sure someone would get around to you
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Craig,
You seem like a guy that has got it altogether.
You are smart, intelligent, organized, good looking.
I hope you find what you are looking for, here, on this
site, or in another venue. Women, near or around your
age, maybe, are really missing out on the specialness you
have to offer. You are adorable. I wish you well.
Think it through a little longer before a complete
canceling of your account. Things could work out for
you. Gosh ladies, He's very literate and can spell good!
Namaste'
You seem like a guy that has got it altogether.
You are smart, intelligent, organized, good looking.
I hope you find what you are looking for, here, on this
site, or in another venue. Women, near or around your
age, maybe, are really missing out on the specialness you
have to offer. You are adorable. I wish you well.
Think it through a little longer before a complete
canceling of your account. Things could work out for
you. Gosh ladies, He's very literate and can spell good!
Namaste'
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