serena123durban, KwaZulu-Natal South Africa2,821 posts
mrLonelyboy: AFTER A LONG AND DIFFICULT MARRIAGE, I FOUND MYSELF ALONE 4 YEARS AGO. . . ONE OF THE BIGGEST QUESTIONS I HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH IS WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN OR GET FIXED...NOW I HAVE A VERY SWEET 18 YEAR OLD AND SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT ME TO HAVE A BABY WITH HER
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
No offense dude, but unless you have a Gold D..k! No 18 year old in her right mind would look at you twice
I would be bias ,if u would marry her and things didnt work out u can go back in canada like nothing happened and she would suffer,why?ph has no divorce she has no chance of remarrying again and most filipino men wouldnt take her seriously ,ph culture is very diff.specialy when it comes to close family ties,i dunno what kind of life they have,i grw up spoiled brat haha we are not rich though haha
Migsy: Shay masyado pang bata di pa nya nararanasan ang totoong buhay pag ngpakasal siya mahihirapan cyang mg-adjust,18 years old posibleng ng-aaral pa di pa tlaga hubog ang pg-iisip nya,
I agree with you Migsy, she is too young and the OP should look for someone more his own age.
I suppose he is wanting someone to nurse-maid him in a couple of years time.
I think that it is sad that predators like this guy can do this in certain countries. I meas she is just a child in comparison to this guy.
Kind of disgusting to think someone would actually do this and take advantage of someone so young in a relatively poor country.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
Halv0: I agree with you Migsy, she is too young and the OP should look for someone more his own age.
I suppose he is wanting someone to nurse-maid him in a couple of years time.
I think that it is sad that predators like this guy can do this in certain countries. I meas she is just a child in comparison to this guy.
Kind of disgusting to think someone would actually do this and take advantage of someone so young in a relatively poor country.
Just my opinion.....
You are talking from the point of view of Oz culture.
I think if she agrees to the marriage, she would become a Canadian citizen for a start, but should act as his wife properly. She will still be young when he dies, and a Canadian citizen with some inheritance no doubt. But he should treat her well, and make provision for her when he dies. I think this would be a good deal for them both. Nothing is certain in this life and the Happiness of his remaining years are a good trade for her elevation to a good life.
The more I think about this, the more the Opening Poster makes sense to me The only way a real Man should meet his Maker,is to have a heartattack while a 18 year old girl is ... well I guess you know the rest of this sentence ( very short,maid or nurse uniform, ,high heals)...
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
Boban1: The more I think about this, the more the Opening Poster makes sense to me The only way a real Man should meet his Maker,is to have a heartattack while a 18 year old girl is ... well I guess you know the rest of this sentence ( very short,maid or nurse uniform, ,high heals)...
mrLonelyboy: AFTER A LONG AND DIFFICULT MARRIAGE, I FOUND MYSELF ALONE 4 YEARS AGO. . . ONE OF THE BIGGEST QUESTIONS I HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH IS WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN OR GET FIXED...NOW I HAVE A VERY SWEET 18 YEAR OLD AND SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT ME TO HAVE A BABY WITH HER
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
It really makes me sick how some people are exploiting the cultural differences with the excuse "Oh, it is sooo normal in this country". And her family wouldn't be happy with a son-in-law 3 times older than their daughter if he wasn't white and with money.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
KremaP: It really makes me sick how some people are exploiting the cultural differences with the excuse "Oh, it is sooo normal in this country". And her family wouldn't be happy with a son-in-law 3 times older than their daughter if he wasn't white and with money.
mrLonelyboy: AFTER A LONG AND DIFFICULT MARRIAGE, I FOUND MYSELF ALONE 4 YEARS AGO. . . ONE OF THE BIGGEST QUESTIONS I HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH IS WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN OR GET FIXED...NOW I HAVE A VERY SWEET 18 YEAR OLD AND SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT ME TO HAVE A BABY WITH HER
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
If she and her family are pressuring you, I would take a step back and really evaluate the big picture. You shouldn't impregnate her just because they're putting pressure on you, that would be stupid of you and wrong!
Your age difference tells me that I don't believe she'll stick with for the long haul. She's so young and doesn't know what she's getting herself into. She has her future ahead and has so much more to learn and experience.
I don't mean to sound so pessimistic, but I believe she'll leave you after the baby comes. She may try to make the relationship work for a couple of years but she will eventually leave you. Then, you will be stuck paying child support for 18 years and you'll have scheduled visitation with your own child.
I honestly hope I'm wrong and wish you the best of luck.
Sliprywnwt: If she and her family are pressuring you, I would take a step back and really evaluate the big picture. You shouldn't impregnate her just because they're putting pressure on you, that would be stupid of you and wrong!
Your age difference tells me that I don't believe she'll stick with for the long haul. She's so young and doesn't know what she's getting herself into. She has her future ahead and has so much more to learn and experience.
I don't mean to sound so pessimistic, but I believe she'll leave you after the baby comes. She may try to make the relationship work for a couple of years but she will eventually leave you. Then, you will be stuck paying child support for 18 years and you'll have scheduled visitation with your own child.
I honestly hope I'm wrong and wish you the best of luck.
Sliprywnwt: If she and her family are pressuring you, I would take a step back and really evaluate the big picture. You shouldn't impregnate her just because they're putting pressure on you, that would be stupid of you and wrong!
Your age difference tells me that I don't believe she'll stick with for the long haul. She's so young and doesn't know what she's getting herself into. She has her future ahead and has so much more to learn and experience.
I don't mean to sound so pessimistic, but I believe she'll leave you after the baby comes. She may try to make the relationship work for a couple of years but she will eventually leave you. Then, you will be stuck paying child support for 18 years and you'll have scheduled visitation with your own child.
I honestly hope I'm wrong and wish you the best of luck.
This guy has been posting the very same post in the blogs and in the forums. He will tell you about his 25 year marriage to convince you that he's marriage material and then he'll tell you that the way of life in the Phillipines is for young girls to be with much older men. After he meets them he goes back to Canada and leaves the girl in the Phillipines.
Click on "View Polls" underneath his picture and you'll see how many threads he's done on the same subject.
Im sorry but i dunno why you need to post this thread mr.o/p ,are u trying to tell us that at your age u can still get an 18years old girl and your charm still works or are u trying to put my race again on shame?
montemonte: This guy has been posting the very same post in the blogs and in the forums. He will tell you about his 25 year marriage to convince you that he's marriage material and then he'll tell you that the way of life in the Phillipines is for young girls to be with much older men. After he meets them he goes back to Canada and leaves the girl in the Phillipines.
Click on "View Polls" underneath his picture and you'll see how many threads he's done on the same subject.
mrLonelyboy: AFTER A LONG AND DIFFICULT MARRIAGE, I FOUND MYSELF ALONE 4 YEARS AGO. . . ONE OF THE BIGGEST QUESTIONS I HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH IS WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN OR GET FIXED...NOW I HAVE A VERY SWEET 18 YEAR OLD AND SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT ME TO HAVE A BABY WITH HER
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
If you have to ask strangers' advice and opinions, then it's a slam dunk-- that dog don't hunt. Got that?
its your life, in saying that its also the life your bringing into the world, what will you be able to offer them when they are growing (not wealth but health)young need a parent to be energetic n fun you may have the life experience but will you have the energy a youth will need??? only you can answer that...
justjim63port macquarie, New South Wales Australia2,592 posts
vodla3: Ah,yeah those Filipino families might only expressed they views about moral code of practise,but what's really going on in the Philippines in general,it's contrary to u'r statement.Unfortunately they misled u or u was unable to read them properly.
I would suggest,go there,so u could observe they culture,social structure n they predicament in general.As I did n you'll reach,the same conclusion,which is;
OMG.Here I'm ! I could bring in Australia a ship-load of Filipinas,from ages of 18-120.What a great choices !But there's a strings-attach;Money,money n more money.Not only for herself,but for all her relatives n friends !
Even the Commonwealth- Bank could not finance U !
Every school cost,but personal experience is the most accurate n the most reliable one!
Am talking on my personal experiences: SCHOOL of LIFE !
Mate you make as much sense as a two headed coin. If you're trying to say that it's culturally acceptable to do this kind of thing to young women (no matter where they come from) then you're one deluded individual, besides why go to the Phillipines in the first place, is it that no self respecting woman in Australia would have You?
mrLonelyboy: AFTER A LONG AND DIFFICULT MARRIAGE, I FOUND MYSELF ALONE 4 YEARS AGO. . . ONE OF THE BIGGEST QUESTIONS I HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH IS WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN OR GET FIXED...NOW I HAVE A VERY SWEET 18 YEAR OLD AND SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT ME TO HAVE A BABY WITH HER
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Dude, if you start considering what her family wants, you're screwed.
mrLonelyboy: AFTER A LONG AND DIFFICULT MARRIAGE, I FOUND MYSELF ALONE 4 YEARS AGO. . . ONE OF THE BIGGEST QUESTIONS I HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH IS WHETHER OR NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN OR GET FIXED...NOW I HAVE A VERY SWEET 18 YEAR OLD AND SHE AND HER FAMILY WANT ME TO HAVE A BABY WITH HER
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
I would do whatever I wanted to do , and probably wouldn't post on an international forum.
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