What would you do if your bf still lives with his ex-wife? (75)
minnieme2: Wouldn't get to the boyfriend stage. I dated 2 guys still living with their 'exes', one for financial reasons, the other for the kids, or so they said. Needless to say it didn't go beyond one date. Who needs that sort of baggage and trouble eh?
yes, who needs that sort of baggage and being drawn into someone's unfinished business at the beginning of a relationship?
scrofa09: Just to know what your opinion on this relationship situation is...
I've met similar guy a while back... French guy married to Chinese lady... He told me his wife is boring and always complain all the time and they sleep in separate rooms nowadays... We just met on the train (he sat next to me) then he asked 'forbidden affair' just after 3 minutes talking... hahahahahaha...Luckily, the next station saved my life...
Sorry, hereabouts if they still share the same roof, under Common Law, that constitutes a marriage, even if they never bothered to have a marriage ceremony and in some States simply overnighting is enough of a marriage to allow alimony if one files for divorce and leaves. So yeah they may have actually divorced and separated, but once he moves back in, yeah they got married again and she isn't an Ex anything, but a current wife.
Ken_19: Sorry, hereabouts if they still share the same roof, under Common Law, that constitutes a marriage, even if they never bothered to have a marriage ceremony and in some States simply overnighting is enough of a marriage to allow alimony if one files for divorce and leaves. So yeah they may have actually divorced and separated, but once he moves back in, yeah they got married again and she isn't an Ex anything, but a current wife.
Why bother getting marriedat all, if you are considered married just by sleeping over?
Hmmmm NOT make him my boyfriend in the first place until he can make some hard choices.
felixis99: I would not get involved with him in the first place
mollybaby: Why bother getting married at all, if you are considered married just by sleeping over?
Actually a lot of folks don't anymore. Legal marriages are very much in the decline in the US. However, not all states recognize common law marriage (which is really just a hold over from hundreds of years ago when it was 'we will get married when/if a preacher comes to town' but nowadays Preachers are everywhere) so if you want legal protection in a state that doesn't do common law anymore, you need the marriage license and ceremony.
mollybaby: Why bother getting marriedat all, if you are considered married just by sleeping over?
It's not that simple. There are a few states in the US that allow for common law marriage, but you can't just move in with someone and be considered a common law husband/wife. One of the conditions in Texas, for example, is that you must have publicly refered to the other person as your "husband" or your "wife" and they will quiz people before a Cl status (usually for benefits) is claimed. There are a lot more conditions. I don't know where the other poster gets his information from that you could be considered a CL couple by overnighting. I've never heard of such a thing.
If he still lives with his ex, he is not my boyfriend.:-) He will be mine when he leaves her, no sooner.
.....I don't really think , that woman understand men....jmo..........
scrofa09: We've been together for almost 13 months and in the beginning I know that he still lives with his ex. I just am getting fed up with that crap and it's annoying the hell out of me.
"Annoying the hell out of me".
You're with him for 13 months and it's getting on your nerves NOW????
Did you ever ask yourself why is he involved with me but lives with her??
What do you think he's getting out of the arrangement??
What are you getting out of the arrangement??
Do you think his ex knows about you?
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Then he may even walk away from the mistress and choose another ,.